He dares to humiliate you in front of the leader, which shows that you still have a lot to work hard. It is precisely because the current strength is still not up to the level of eliminating paper tigers that we need to remind ourselves at all times to exercise restraint.
However, it doesn't mean that you will retaliate against such people when you have the ability in the future. In fact, your best revenge is not revenge, but taking away his opportunity. One of the biggest weaknesses of paper tigers is that they can't be entrusted with heavy responsibilities. Leaders know better than you. Many things will be seen by the leaders.
Of course, the premise is that your leader is a talent. The more talented a person is, the fairer he is. If you think your current leader is worth helping, then don't care about the infighting that is bound to happen in the workplace.
As an old HR, don't talk about the truth, and directly analyze specific problems. Colleagues do not give you face in front of superiors. There are generally four situations (including mentality):
First, deliberately losing your face, embarrassing you, losing your people and making your superiors look down on you will have a negative impact on you. He can "benefit" by suppressing you. This is the heart of a villain.
Second, with the support of superiors, it shows his style of daring to grasp and manage. Superior leaders like employees who dare to be responsible, grasp management and have a tough style. Such employees show the potential of managers and are conducive to his promotion.
The third is to talk about things and distinguish between right and wrong. This colleague's consistent style, regardless of his colleagues' face in front of his superiors, is not necessarily bitter.
Fourth, you should criticize. You may have made mistakes that you shouldn't have made, affecting the image of the team and the face of colleagues. Why should people save face for you? Maybe they are on fire?
There are three ways to deal with this kind of thing (mentality):
First, no matter what the other party's purpose is, don't turn on the spot, smile and listen, and don't refute or explain. The human heart has only one steelyard. Especially the superior leader, does not necessarily consider the problem from your point of view, and his philosophy of observing subordinates is different. If I were a superior, I would feel even more ashamed of your colleague. People who don't know how to save face for their colleagues should not be reused.
Second, if your colleagues criticize you for being right, you have the courage to take responsibility, accept it with an open mind and make serious corrections. In fact, in the eyes of superiors, this is a kind of courageous behavior, problem-oriented, not face-oriented.
Third, if a colleague deliberately embarrasses you, pretends to be a big head, or even deliberately damages your image, you are welcome. Of course, don't panic, seize his loophole and turn back in front of the superior leader. Remember, don't quarrel, grasp the key points, give a counterattack, and let the superiors look up at you.
Different situations have different treatment methods. If this colleague makes a fuss and accuses me of being irresponsible for my work, it will cause losses to the company. Then my response must be based on facts and point out his wrong argument in public. If there is evidence that he once escaped punishment for causing losses to the company because of irresponsibility, then he can take it out and fight back! In this process, I will put facts and reason with a pleasant countenance, that is, I will respond to the nonsense of the framed person, and I will also show my speculative ability and clearly release myself from bullying. If you attack me, I will send a strong signal to the framed people and leaders. Achieve the purpose of warning and counterattack in a civilized way.
If the other person only provokes me slightly in language, then I will definitely look disdainful, smile and pout, take a look at that person, that leader, and then walk away, giving people the signal that I despise interacting with you and other villains!
If that person later adopts this disrespectful attitude when we are in private, then I will definitely severely warn him: be careful with your attitude, or I will fight back! Eyes must be fierce! But it must be used when no one else is around.
There are many similar situations in the workplace. It is understandable to take different measures to protect your interests and self-esteem in different situations, but it is necessary to pay attention to the occasions and methods.
In this case, it is unnecessary to argue with him on the spot. It's too low-level People with high emotional intelligence will generally be calm and humble, which will make people feel more tolerant and have good psychological quality (provided that you have hard power instead of pretending ...).
Tell me a real case of a previous company:
There was a new colleague in the former company, who usually performed well in his work and got along with the company leaders in a special way. He belongs to the kind of person with personality charm, and everyone is more willing to get along with him.
Such people will naturally threaten some equally ambitious people, so at a meeting, another colleague reprimanded and opposed his proposal in front of the boss. At that time, apart from his initial amazement, he was always modest and calm, smiling and answering questions with impeccable attitude. Instead, he helped him gradually improve the plan in the question and answer, and came to a "god assist."
The leader obviously noticed the opposition between them, but did not interfere too much. Later, he didn't know whether it was intentional or unintentional, which often caused their work handover or collision. The new colleague didn't show any dissatisfaction, but the colleague who often showed impatience and anger stood up and expressed his opinions.
Of course, the new colleague was later favored by the leaders, and that colleague gradually became notorious.
In the workplace, a slight provocation is nothing, there is no need to care too much, and the amount of gas shown shows a person's pattern.
Of course, we must grasp a degree in everything. People will feel bullied if we don't care too much. When appropriate, we can choose to fight back. A beautiful battle will make "spectators" see your more prominent side and your image will be more deeply rooted in people's hearts.
Anger is anger. But in that environment at that time, I would focus on the overall situation.
Next, I will think about whether there are any misunderstandings or contradictions between myself and this colleague, and then solve them in a targeted manner.
If you fight with him on the spot, you are likely to lose both sides, which will inevitably affect your image in the eyes of the leaders.
In front of the superior, what you should consider is that the superior leader cares more about the overall situation than what the whole incident is like. Even if your colleagues don't give you face, you can do things well, and the trust of the leaders will not change immediately. After all, leaders are leaders and have their own independent judgment.
In the workplace, it is normal for such a thing to happen. Whether colleagues are unintentional or intentional, it is a good strategy for you to "talk too little" for a while. Your superiors will also see that you are a broad-minded person.
This colleague exposed your shortcomings in front of the leader, seemingly winning a game, in fact, he himself is the biggest loss.
For example, if you are offended, for example, the leader knows that such a person is not worthy of enough trust, because maybe one day he will treat his immediate boss like this in front of a higher leader, which will make the leader feel potentially insecure and naturally will not deliver the most important things to him.
Although this colleague didn't give you face, if what he said is not true and you are aboveboard, you can see what kind of person he is from this incident and you can deal with him strategically next time.
If he is telling the truth and he is still in front of the leader, he is deliberately trying to punish you with his strength. On the one hand, we can see that his EQ needs to be improved. After all, this is ugly to others, which is equivalent to making enemies; On the other hand, you can see that he is not so friendly to you.
I suggest you follow:
Change yourself and be yourself so that you won't be caught by the future.
He dares to embarrass you or embarrass you in front of the leader. I think the resentment in his heart has accumulated for a long time, just waiting for an opportunity to get back at you. Psychologically speaking, there are unmet needs behind emotions.
If you can't swallow this tone, you can also find a suitable opportunity to have a good chat and ask questions. By the same token, he can do this in front of his superiors, which means that there must be something between you two, or there must be some misunderstanding, but you don't know it, or you think it's no big deal, but it's obviously not the case in his view.
At the same time, you can also fight him back according to the actual situation, so as to let him know that you are not so easy to bully, so as not to continue to treat you like this.
This matter will be embarrassing and even angry for anyone. In addition to seeing the hidden things behind it, you should also understand that the most basic and important task in the workplace is for everyone to cooperate with each other to complete the work.
It doesn't matter whether you want to talk to this person privately or go with him after work. The company's platform brings so many people together for work, output and fulfilling some people's dreams. As for the personal relationship between employees, it is actually a trivial matter.
So no matter how the other party treats you, as long as there will be exchanges and cooperation between you, it is not recommended to make a fuss about this. If there is any problem, it is best to say it directly and solve it in time.
An excellent employee will focus on the overall situation, and his mind is full of grievances. The more experience, the stronger the inner endurance. Let yourself think and do things from the perspective of the leader, and jump out of the picture to see the picture, which will be clearer.
What will you do if your colleagues lose face in front of your superiors?
What else can I do? Go to the theater Since your colleague insists on talking nonsense in front of the leader and jumping up and down like a clown, if necessary, you can add some plots to stimulate him/her and make the plot more exciting.
Your colleague's EQ is relatively low. If you want to get back at someone, you have to keep your head down, use someone else's hand to achieve your goal, and outsmart yourself like him/her. You have already lost.
Your colleagues can't wait to tell your superiors about your mistakes, which proves that your daily relationship is very tense and has reached the point of incompatibility. If there is an opportunity, I will immediately complain to you in front of the leader. Now that he/she has made it clear, he/she is not afraid to offend you. After this, one of you is almost leaving the company. You can't kill two tigers in one mountain. Staying will only be tit for tat, and you can't work wholeheartedly. The company pays attention to division of labor and cooperation. Because your relationship is very tense, the leader will not give you important work, and the superior leader will also be responsible for the big boss.
In real life, there are many people who are competitive. These people are arrogant, boastful and eager to express themselves. They always try to prove that they are better and more correct than others. When they meet competitors, they always try their best to run on others and fight for the upper position by any means.
Your colleague is a good example. He/she doesn't give you face in front of the superior, which shows that he/she wants to turn you into a bad person. She is a good person, show it to her superiors.
A wise leader will certainly distinguish between indiscriminate and reckless. Your colleague is too eager to express himself, impatient, prone to mistakes in his work, and it is difficult for the leader to trust him/her. His/her personality should be bold, straightforward and provocative. Such people can do things well, but they can't make a decision.
There is no need to panic when such a thing happens. I don't know what to do for a while. It is better to deal with it calmly than to stamp your feet.
Colleagues do not give you face in front of superiors. This kind of thing is only transitional, and there is no need to cooperate or react in action. As long as you keep your usual style and attitude, it is enough to cope with the past. There is no need to argue with your colleagues. What should I do every day or continue to do well as always.
I don't know why your relationship with your colleagues is like this. It is estimated that most of them are conflicts of interest or jealousy between male and female friends. If you think things can't just pass, wait for the opportunity and give him/her a fatal blow. If you win, you must win aboveboard, and inferior means are not recommended.
We don't make trouble and are not afraid of things. If we are bullied, we must fight back. Of course, the premise of fighting back is that you must first review whether you have any problems. If you made a mistake first, there is no need to make a mountain out of a molehill. It is best to minimize it.
Conclusion: "If you can't bear it, you will make great plans." As early as 2,000 years ago, in The Analects of Confucius, Confucius had taught us many truths about being a man and doing things, which are equally applicable in today's workplace. The workplace is like a battlefield, and the fittest survive.
If you can't bear it, make a great plan. Everything should focus on the overall situation. In this case, you must be calm and never lose your temper. You should find a way that won't bring disadvantages to yourself and everyone.
Tell you a story here. During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru of Zhao made some contributions to Zhao through the Caihe incident, and was named Shangqing by Zhao Wang, ranking above Lian Po.
Lian Po said, as a general of Zhao, I have made great achievements. Lin Xiangru just talked about it, but he was named Shangqing. Besides, I'm ashamed of Lin Xiangru's humble background. I can't stand working under him. As long as I meet Lin Xiangru in the future, I must humiliate him.
Lin Xiangru knew this, and always let him, endured him and avoided him. Lin Xiangru once met Lian Po when he went out, and Lin Xiangru immediately turned his horses and chariots to avoid him.
The public in Lin Xiangru couldn't stand it afterwards. They told Lin Xiangru that your rank was higher than his, and he always humiliated you and embarrassed you. You are always so timid. We're leaving you and don't want to hang out with you.
Lin Xiangru said, who do you think is better, General Lian or the King of Qin? They said, how can General Lian Po compare with the King of Qin? Lin Xiangru said, with the power of the king of Qin, the world is fearless. I once reprimanded the king of Qin in the court of Qin and humiliated his ministers on the spot. What makes you think I'm afraid of General Lian?
And the reason I put up with Lian Po. It is because I consider why the powerful State of Qin dare not confront me, because we have me, Lin Xiangru and Lian Po.
If Lian Po and I fight, it will be like two tigers fighting, and we will both lose. This will bring disaster to the country, so I am so patient with him, that is, putting national security first and personal grievances behind.
When Lian Po heard about this, he felt extremely ashamed, so he took off his coat and went to Lin Xiangru's house to confess. Lian Po said, I am a clown, I don't know so much, and I didn't expect you to be so broad-minded. Please forgive my ignorance.
From then on, the two made friends and became good friends through life and death. When the king of Qin heard about it, he never dared to attack Zhao again.
There is a saying that the prime minister can punt in his stomach and the general can release his horse on his forehead.
Some people say that the sky is the widest in the world, the ocean is wider than the sky, and the human mind is wider than the sky.
This is a bad move by the other side. You can take his army with you.
Let's imagine this picture: Zhang and Hu Xiaowen are reporting to the leader. Zhang suddenly attacks Hu Xiaowen, points out the problems in Hu Xiaowen's work, and puts the blame on Hu Xiaowen. What kind of consequences will this cause?
The first thing the superior saw was that Zhang didn't handle the relationship with Zhang well, so he didn't trust them. At the same time, he will also see that it seems that Hu Xiaowen is quite honest. This picture is not a fuel-efficient lamp, so you should plan ahead in the future.
After all, it is not a glorious thing for subordinates to tear each other in front of themselves, and it will be awkward. Most leaders will not like to see this scene. Moreover, even if Hu Xiaowen does do something wrong, he will be criticized by his superiors, and you don't need to stand up. Is it really good that you stole the leader's lines?
Even if the relationship between the two is not particularly good, at least it has not been made public and has not risen to a higher level. Great, the relationship has completely deteriorated. If Hu Xiaowen were stronger, he would probably have done it on the spot. At this level, it is good not to hold grudges for a lifetime, and it is difficult to recover.
The other party has already made a move. Of course, you're welcome. You did such a stupid thing. Why don't you speed up?
Suppress small interests with big interests. Zhang said: I don't know how you did it, but such a good product only generates so little profit. Hu Xiaowen can fight back: Yes, we define this product as a drainage product, and the huge traffic generated has greatly increased the sales of our other products. This method is very easy to use. The other party talks about personal interests and you talk about departmental interests. He mentioned the interests of the department, and you said the interests of the company. You just have to stay one head ahead of him.
Suppress current interests with long-term interests. Hu Xiaowen can also respond according to the situation: this product is an experimental product, and the key is to measure the specific demand direction of the market and prepare for the next product layout. So don't pursue profits excessively. We have formed a market feedback report and will report it to you after improvement. Long-term goals, after all, are relatively illusory things that can be easily achieved, but also difficult for the other party to refute and can no longer be entangled.
If you want to crush each other, stepping on one foot is definitely not enough, then step on another.
Create such a situation: when the other party attacks you, it is attacking the leader. Hu Xiaowen can respond like this: the promotion plan of this product was drawn up by the leaders themselves, and the strategy of "easy first, then difficult" was adopted. I think the leader made a scientific decision after considering the market situation and the nature of our products, and I agree with him very much. Although we met with such difficulties at first, it was completely in our expectation. I believe that if we win the market share of the two cities again, the situation will be greatly improved. As long as you stand on the side of the leader, it is difficult to lose.
Conclusion: If someone dares to attack you in front of your superiors and lose face, it's time for him to open the door wide, so you don't have to be nervous or angry at all, just kill yourself rudely. One way is to use the pattern to suppress each other, and you can also use the interests of leaders as a shield to turn defeat into victory.
In the workplace, colleagues cooperate and compete. Your colleagues don't give you face in front of superior leaders, whether intentionally or unintentionally, they have crossed the red line of getting along with colleagues! In this case, you should first keep calm, don't rush to fight back, and don't call names. The leader is watching. You can silence him, attack his shield with his spear, try to solve the embarrassment in a more relaxed way, or keep smiling and silent. What to do is the biggest struggle! Who is the subordinate, the leader knows well! For such colleagues, you should pay more attention, step on others' shoulders and climb up, which belongs to this generation!
It is estimated that everyone in the workplace has encountered this situation to some extent. Coping strategies can be formulated according to the situation, but the most important point-clear your attitude and bottom line-can not be lost.
The phenomenon of cheating in the workplace is actually very common. What I am most afraid of is that the goods that really made this "pot" have no conscience. On the contrary, they deny their mistakes in the team, and what's more, they try their best to throw the pot in front of their superiors.
Of course, it is intolerable for such colleagues. Be sure to sort out the ins and outs of things in front of the boss, which will have a negative impact on yourself in time (for example, the boss thinks we are too haggle over every ounce). Let the other party know that they can take the blame for the team and the company properly, but they must not accept unwarranted accusations and backbiting, and at the same time make clear their bottom line in front of other colleagues, so that such things can happen less in the future.
I believe that many people in the workplace have met people who like to dictate but lack practical ability, and then rush to the front when sharing the credit. This is not the most hateful, I said a more hateful person.
Finally, colleague A directly slapped the table and cursed, and at the same time directly reflected to his superiors that people like B could not really do things if they didn't cooperate.
Whether in the workplace or outside the workplace, each of us will always meet all kinds of broken people, so don't wronged yourself if you can. The so-called colleagues and superiors in the workplace are just a strong+cooperative relationship. If it comes to tearing your face, there is no need to maintain this relationship.