33-year-old, 10 years full-time wife career, almost zero workplace experience, almost lost the ability to survive independently, her husband cheated, and her mistress was in the upper position ... Luo Zijun, a middle-aged wife who was abandoned in various adversity, was forced to break into the workplace. After betrayal, despair and tempering, she finally succeeded in counterattack. It seems that Luo Zijun's first half life seems to be a burning and inspiring story, but in my eyes, it is more like an illusion, an illusion imagined by everyone.
Myth 1: Chen is a scum, and Luo Zijun deserves sympathy.
Many people say this is because San Xiao is too high. Although she looks ordinary, dresses ordinary, is old and has children, she can pretend to be a considerate, gentle and strong Bai Lianhua, so she succeeded. Luo Zijun and Tang Jing commented that "she is very simple", and the congratulatory letter commented that "she is not Lingling". So she can't maintain her marriage.
However, hasn't Luo Zijun always been extremely sensitive to the beautiful young girls around Chen during her ten-year full-time wife career? Sensitive to a little trouble, let Tang Jing to help her check each other's way. What does this mean? Simple? At least I don't think she is stupid, she just underestimates her enemies. She thought her enemy was just a beautiful young girl, so she regarded Chen as a dead man. She thinks that as long as she keeps a beautiful face, she can make Chen resist the temptation of the outside world.
However, she made a mistake!
When she gave all the housework and children to the nanny, she was only responsible for the shopping and beauty of buy buy every day, so that her son's "cornea" was embodied as "foot membrane". At this time, I saw "tired heart" and helplessness in Chen's eyes.
A person (whether we are men or women in marriage for the time being) works alone, supports the family alone, comes home from work every day to deal with a lot of messy things at home and in the other half, helps the children with their homework, and accepts the doubts and doubts of the other half ... It looks so tired.
I don't know what you think of such a marriage, but I only know that if I were in Chen's position, I would probably collapse.
To some extent, Luo Zijun before the divorce was actually another white light. The difference is that Luo Zijun was lucky enough to find a Chen who could support her and raise her large family (which is much happier than Fan in Ode to Joy Next Door), but Bai Guang unfortunately met Luo Ziqun who was equally weak. However, no matter whose fault it is, Chen and Bai Guang have been spurned, which I think is unfair.
I understand that marriage needs two people to pay. You can earn money to support your family or take care of your baby at home. It doesn't matter what form you pay for your family, what matters is that you need to pay for this family. By working hard for this small family together, two people depend on each other and feel each other's understanding and concern for themselves, so that no one will feel that they are fighting alone.
Luo Zijun, on the other hand, always takes "he said he would support me for a lifetime" as a shield, leaving the family affairs to the nanny and the things outside the home to Chen. He knows nothing but buy buy buying girls, does nothing, and expects Chen to do everything.
Such Luo Zijun, I can only say that there must be something hateful about poor people. I really don't blame Lingling for her divorce. And Chen, if he didn't make the mistake of cheating, is probably a good man worth entrusting.
Illusion 2: Luo Zijun counterattack
Luo Zijun's counterattack can only be described as "dog blood".
I happen to have a very powerful girlfriend, Tang Jing, who is very loyal. She is usually too busy to eat or spend time with her boyfriend, and all kinds of things about her girlfriend are on call. As it happens, Tang Jing has a very good boyfriend's congratulatory letter, which just has the hobby of transforming others, so for a moment she was extremely disgusted with Luo Zijun, and treated her differently in the blink of an eye, helping her find a job and write a resume to settle everything; I met this stranger by chance, and when I saw that her scribbled resume had not been exposed, I kindly helped her make amends (although it was later discovered that he might just want to hit on her); I happened to meet an aunt Wu, who was very critical of her subordinates, but jealous of her Luo Zijun, and was anxious to help her. Then in a year or so, Luo Zijun completed the counterattack from a shoe salesman to a senior consulting company.
Luo Zijun's luck may be that he did a lot of good things in his last life.
After spitting out the protagonist's aura, let's seriously talk about Luo Zijun's counterattack.
First of all, Luo Zijun can counterattack, at least indicating that she has not naturally lost her ability to survive.
At best, this acquired loss of viability is due to her devotion to Chen, and at worst, it is due to her laziness, as Chen said, "She doesn't want to do anything". In fact, she can do things and do things well, but in marriage, she naturally enjoys it.
If she had had the consciousness of fighting back earlier, or at least sharing, Chen probably wouldn't have cheated on Lingling, and she and Chen Ye wouldn't have come this far.
Sometimes, I hate the story that I don't know what's wrong with myself until I lose it, and then I try to get better, and I throw out a sentence, "You don't like the worst me, and you don't deserve the best me."
Comparatively speaking, I prefer the story "You will meet whoever you are". I think it is a matter of course to make myself better. I think it's worth trying to keep pace with the people you love. When, let yourself progress and become better, it becomes a kind of effort, which needs the gratitude of the other party.
If you could have been better, why didn't you make a change earlier for the other party to see, and wait until it was lost and irreversible to forge ahead? Is your motivation only from one day being able to make that unattainable look?
Then Luo Zijun said in the play that she worked so hard after the divorce because she didn't want to disappoint the congratulatory letter.
Excuse me! During your ten years of marriage, you were willing to disappoint your husband, but just after your divorce, you didn't want to disappoint another man? You won't have the idea of poaching in advance, will you?
The key is whether this man is your best friend's boyfriend for ten years. Did you really answer the sentence "As long as you swing the hoe well, you can't dig anywhere"? At least think of Tang Jing, your best friend, who saved you from fire and water! What does this make Tang Jing think? "My best friend's wedding", do you still want to smile and wish?
In that case, what's the difference between Luo Zijun and Lingling? You said it wasn't intentional, but you couldn't help it; Lingling couldn't help it at that time, but why couldn't you accept it? You still feel hurt.
Of course, you keep refusing congratulatory letters. You said you didn't want to hurt Tang Jing. You said you would rot your love for the congratulatory letter in your stomach. Why do I feel so familiar with this feeling? It seems that Lingling said something similar to Chen at that time, "I want to give you back to Luo Zijun!" " You and the congratulatory letter are involuntarily repeating what Lingling and Chen said. Why does everyone think Lingling is a high-flying person? Why does everyone think Chen is called "love rat", and you Luo Zijun are still considered as a vulnerable group being bullied, and your congratulatory letter is still considered as a good person? I don't understand this logic.
I only know that both Chen and the congratulatory letter were disappointed or even disgusted with Luo Zijun before the counterattack, and they all loved Luo Zijun after the counterattack. It is true that everyone loves beauty. Then, it is more real to fall in love with a diligent, hardworking, intelligent and beautiful woman. It's just that I pity Tang Jing and become cannon fodder for Luo Zijun's first half of his life.