When a woman reaches middle age, it is definitely an embarrassing age. In the face of lost youth, they can't recover it. Faced with the pressure of reality, they can do nothing. Once they pinned their hopes on marriage and family, but in the end, they found that the only thing that could save themselves was themselves. They have lost confidence in marriage, but they dare not divorce easily in the face of real life.

When Feifei talks about her husband, she complains. She said that having this husband does not mean having one. I really don't know the significance of this marriage, but after looking at the children around me, she changed her mind again. If the child didn't need a father, she wouldn't put up with it.

Feifei and her husband have been married for ten years. My son is 8 years old and is in the second grade of primary school. Before getting married, Feifei took a fancy to her husband's family. Both parents are retired workers. They only have one husband and one son. Although they are either rich or expensive, the pressure of life is definitely not there.

Feifei is a teacher in a middle school, and her income is not too high, but she has a younger brother under her. Feifei, who grew up in an awkward environment, knows two things very well. She must work hard to make money in the future and try to marry herself into a family with a loose economy. Taking all the conditions into consideration, Feifei chose her present husband. He graduated from a first-class university and has a good business mind. She thought her husband must be a potential stock, so she decided to bet her happiness on him.

When they were alone, Feifei didn't feel any pressure, but since she gave birth to a child, their lives have changed. When they have children, they need someone to take care of the housework and children for them, so the husband offered to let their parents move in. In order to make the living environment better, Feifei's parents-in-law sold their small house and the house where Feifei and they live now, and their money combined to buy a big jump building.

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But since living together, Feifei found that her husband, who was not very diligent, became more and more diligent. Parents not only wash their children's dirty clothes every day, but also wash their husbands' clothes and even their husbands' underwear together. Feifei emphasized to her parents-in-law that these things should have been done by her husband himself, but her parents-in-law said that they had never asked him to do any work since childhood. His task as a child was to study, and now his task is to work. How does a big man do housework?

Feifei is not only dissatisfied that he never reaches out to do housework, but also dissatisfied that he only promised to take care of the children, when in fact he never helped Feifei. Feifei was worried about her children's companionship and education since she was a child.

Sometimes relatives on both sides of Feifei's family and her husband's family do it for her. Her husband's excuse is that she is too busy to get away, but Feifei is forced to be a woman by her husband day by day. The water in the house was blocked, and she cleaned it herself. The light bulb was broken, so she climbed up and changed it herself. On one occasion, Feifei climbed to the fifth floor with a bag of 50 kg of rice on her back, only to find her husband sitting in the living room and playing with rapt attention. For an instant, she lost confidence in this man who was too lazy to describe, but when she heard the child calling him father, she also knew that she could not let the child lose his father or mother.

Feifei is not satisfied with her marriage, but she doesn't have the courage to escape from her present marriage. Maybe this is the only way for her to muddle along.

Lemony will be 45 years old after this birthday. At this age, she has seen love thoroughly. She said in front of her best friend, who would want this broken marriage if it weren't for the children and the elderly on both sides?

She still remembers that when the child was born, she held the child in the middle of the night to catch rape. In front of her husband and his lover, she scared her husband's lover away with her child in her arms.

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Since then, Lemony's heart has never been opened for a moment. Maybe what my lover said when he left was right. Who would he choose if it wasn't for having children? However, Lemony finally believed her husband's words. He said he was just possessed for a moment, and he promised her he would never do anything wrong to her again. At that time, Lemony, like all women who suffered emotional betrayal, didn't believe the fact that her husband was cheating, and they were all willing to give her husband another chance. She still believes that her husband has always loved her.

However, now Lemony is 45 years old. Among her husband's past lovers, she can list more than a dozen, and there are too many things she doesn't know. When he was young, he would be nervous and worried about her reaction. The older you get, the more capital you have to restrain her. After all, men of this age are very attractive to some women, but women of Lemony's age are easily afraid to leave home.

Lemony has children to take care of, and even more elderly parents need her to take care of. Although her husband is a playboy, he still does his duty to his parents. If it was purely for herself, she might have divorced him long ago, but when she thought of two families, she knew better that no one dared to bear the risks brought by divorce.

In this way, marriage has become a form, and you can't leave easily without temperature.

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If Lily was not in a hurry to have children, she wouldn't marry a man casually. Lily, 35, has never met the right person, but even if she can wait, her body won't allow her to wait any longer. She always dreamed of having a child. If she continues to drag on like this, I'm afraid waiting for the child will be an extravagant hope all her life.

She is eager to have children, and she became pregnant within three months of knowing her current husband, so she just got a marriage certificate from him. There is a child, but the father of the child is an idle person. Instead of taking care of Lily in life, he asked Lily to help him raise money for business. Lily said she didn't have that ability, so her husband stayed at home all day for this reason. Lily had a child, but she added a marriage trouble out of thin air.

She thought about divorce, but she didn't want her child's family to be incomplete. Lily really didn't think too much at first, but she forgot that she had to have a healthy family to have a healthy child. Lily knew that she had made a mistake and there was no room for manoeuvre. She can only make do with it in her life.

Middle-aged people seem to have almost tasted the ups and downs of life. For some helplessness, they will not struggle again. In their view, it is better to bow their heads and accept fate than to compete with fate. Although there are many unsatisfactory places in life, they don't have the courage to break the status quo. They would rather muddle along in such a tepid marriage than have any surprises for the rest of their lives. They just want to continue peacefully.