Well, the first thing to admit is that communication is a skill, just like shaving and pedicure, it is a skill, not innate. Maybe you have heard a view that extroverts are good at communication and introverts are not good at communication, which is wrong. In other words, extroverts learn communication skills more easily than introverts.

First, the problem reappears.

1, no language communication with roommates;

2. I like to communicate with other better people;

3, the personality is a bit withdrawn;

4. I want to let go now;

I want to know my friends again.

Second, the problem analysis

1, the first withdrawal. The word "withdrawn" is a bit harsh. I wonder if your real situation has reached the stage of "solitude". Suppose you are exaggerating, but in fact you are just a little introverted. If so, I want to ask, "How do you judge the boundary between introversion and extroversion?" . My judgment limit is: if you can quickly open the situation in a completely unfamiliar environment, find a topic to chat with some people smoothly and exchange views comfortably. Such people are extroverted and good at communication. On the contrary, it is introversion. This judgment limit does not include communicating with familiar people. If you are introverted and it is difficult to communicate with your parents and family, it is not an introverted problem, but a psychological problem, which depends on seeing a psychologist.

2. I want to be more open. This is actually very easy to handle. I used a very economical way to say hello. As I got up in the morning to say hello, I just arrived at my new unit for a while and didn't know anyone. I am introverted and shy (I am a boring man. Talking to one's own people is eloquent, and talking to strangers is a bit stiff. The way I use it is to say hello to everyone I meet. "Good morning" doesn't matter whether I know them or not. Almost two days later. The rest is daily communication, which naturally brings people into the relationship. If you don't even say hello when you meet, you can count on others to whisper to you. Don't say that.

3. I don't like talking to my roommate and want to make new friends. This is a bad signal that you don't really know yourself, and you want to avoid talking before and jump to talking directly. What is this? Do you change the TV channel? Yes, this is the TV channel change, because you are acting and want to play a talkative and sociable person in front of strangers. But that's not you. Once a stranger becomes an acquaintance, you immediately return to the original, or the original you. Therefore, this practice of directly jumping from the old environment to the new environment, trying to complete the switch between psychology and behavior through the switch of the external environment, is a natural egg-combining practice, and it is only self-deception, which may easily lead to split personality.

4. There is no language communication with roommates. This can refer to the second suggestion, starting with the simplest greeting and slowly establishing contact. First, we should try to communicate, and then we will know whether we like or accept each other. If the answer is no, then we don't need to continue to communicate. After all, it is normal for everyone to be rejected by others. However, if there is no communication in college for several years, it will be terrible, and you will be labeled as a distorted personality and criticized.

Three. abstract

7788 said a lot, I wonder if it will help you. Communicating with people is a skill. You must learn before contact. The way to learn is very simple. Find a book about communication at random, read it several times, and then encourage yourself to practice. Force yourself to speak, practice makes perfect, and slowly it will be fine. While you are still in college and everything is growing and learning, you will be fine.