Hu Shi also replied in "On Women Being Raped and Contaminated": "If anyone dares to break this' virgin superstition', we must respect him." Because I saw the same problem in a forum. There are all kinds of answers. But, but the person who makes this assumption is absolutely scum.
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I have a friend named Yue Yue. She has been dating her boyfriend for four years, and it's time to talk about marriage. Boyfriend is a college classmate. They met in the canteen when I was a sophomore. Romance in college is always flying. Although she experiences misfortune once a month, she still chooses to believe in love.
Yue Yue is a beautiful girl with white skin and big eyes. She has many suitors, but no matter what the other person's conditions are, she has never accepted anyone's pursuit. Wang Yang is a very common one. In the eyes of many boys, Yue Yue is the "Goddess of Cold" that can only be seen from a distance. Over time, she gave up. Only Wang Yang persisted and began to pursue college graduation from her sophomore year.
They all stayed in the same city after graduation. As always, Wang Yang pursues the moon and often invites us out for dinner on weekends in the name of parties. Don't mention communication. Slowly, the two became more and more familiar, and Cheng Fei was no longer alienated from him, and promised him to give it a try.
Wang Yang is very happy to show off in the circle of friends. When she watched the Goddess finally fall to the ground in college, some people envied Wang Yang for finding such a beautiful boyfriend, others envied him for picking up a bargain, and others blessed him to take good care of the Goddess.
Wang Yang walked over and accepted them one by one, saying that he would be kind to his daughter-in-law.
Wang Yang has always respected Cheng Fei's idea, because it is a long way to pursue the "goddess". Because she never mentioned it, the intimate relationship between them did not develop further.
But other than that, Cheng Fei is indeed a very qualified girlfriend. Wang Yang thought that a beautiful girl like her would have a little temper more or less, but Cheng Fei was invisible. Not only does she have no princess disease, but she is also good at taking care of people. When Wang Yang was ill, he specially asked for leave to go to the hospital to hang water with him, and gave him a favorite gift on his birthday. If Wang Yang accidentally forgets the holidays, she is tolerant.
After two years of contact, Wang Yang proposed to get married. Every time I look at her for one reason or another, Cheng Fei's hesitation confuses Wang Yang. Wang Yang thought she didn't feel sincere enough, or she was afraid before marriage. Because he really can't think of any problems between them. Without the participation of outsiders, the work is becoming more and more stable. Isn't it natural to get married?
After repeated questioning, Cheng Fei cried and said, "If you knew my past, you certainly wouldn't want to marry me."
The first time Wang Yang saw his girlfriend crying like this, he panicked and vowed, "No, even if you had something before, I don't mind."
Wang Yang thinks that he was cheated by love rat at best, which he can accept, and will be doubly kind to her in the future.
But Yue Yue told her that she was raped at the age of 18, which is an open secret and almost everyone near her home knows it.
Therefore, she seldom went home after going to college, and chose to stay in the local area after graduation. Because she has such an "unbearable" past, she refuses any possibility of heterosexual communication.
Wang Yang is an exception. He always appeared in her life, never leaving her, and gradually changed from unfamiliar to familiar, giving Cheng Fei enough sense of security.
If he wants to get married, he will know. So Yue Yue chose to take the initiative to confess to Wang Yang, and then Yue Yue turned to leave, because he felt that no boy could accept such himself.
After learning all this, Wang Yang hesitated briefly, and then said, "Never mind, I don't care if you are a virgin." .
I have tears in my eyes every month, thinking that this secret that has tortured me for many years has finally been accepted. But a few days later, I received a message from Wang Yang: "Sorry, I don't care if you are a virgin. My parents and I care about what others think of us in the future."
It turns out that when you are in love, vows of eternal love can only be regarded as a flash in the pan.
Even if he can give you his life. But I can't shelter you from the wind and rain. In fact, I think Wang Yang's behavior is really irresponsible. Accepting an unfortunate girl once is hard to accept other feelings. Once accepted, it is till death do us part. But people like him who have superficial contact and later say that their parents don't want to are more hateful than scum.
Conclusion: It takes a lot of courage for girls to be honest with each other after such an experience.
Mr. Hu Shi used a clever gender conversion metaphor: If an unarmed man met a robber with a gun and the robber asked you to hand over money to save his life, would you do as he said?
Rape itself is against the will of women. What's wrong with women?
There is a saying in Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise: "This society has a strong sense of taboo about sex. Rape a girl, many people think it is the girl's fault, and even the girl herself thinks it is her own fault. "
It is not the most difficult to report a case, but the most difficult thing is to face the second verbal injury of people around you.