It sounds realistic, but it's true. Real life is not an idol drama, and real people and things are more complicated. When you live a good life, others envy you, but ignore your suffering for it; When your life is not smooth, people will constantly remind you that you made a wrong choice. So once you make a choice, you must go forward bravely.
As we grow up, problems such as study, work, love, marriage and education come into our lives step by step. We made many choices. More often, the choice is not good or bad, but the comparison of the results makes it look good or bad. Sometimes I feel tired and comfort myself. I will have a good rest after this, but in fact everything is connected and endless. In this process of constant choice, some people are more and more confused, and some people gradually have control over their lives and live their own style.
Speaking of choice, it comes from reading a new book "When We Meet" produced by reading at ten o'clock. This is a collection of 2 1 authors' articles, recording stories one by one, and each article can read the author's attitude or choice towards life, just like the feeling of an old friend telling you stories, which is warm and meaningful, just like:
Ai Xiaoyang-"Good luck is a kind of ability" means choosing to believe that good luck is a comprehensive embodiment of vision, perseverance, cultivation and management ability;
Yang Xiwen-"The part where reading can change fate" is to choose to believe that reading is the most cost-effective way to success, so that people can gradually enrich their material and spiritual, and no longer lose control of what they like;
Li Xiaoyi-"True Excellence is not dazzling" means choosing to believe that the better people are, the more normal they are;
Abisha-May you never break with beauty is to choose to believe in beauty and hope that you will never break with beauty.
"Walking in the world, no one can live like running water. But we must always remember that all processes and results need to be borne by ourselves. "
Just graduated from college, a female classmate in the class is pregnant and ready to get married. Speaking of this, it was originally a happy thing, but everyone did not always support it when chatting privately, because we have witnessed her in love, and her boyfriend is a doctor. She is very proud of this, but she is too passive in love because a message from her boyfriend stood us up. People naturally complain more often.
Because I was pregnant, I naturally didn't go to work after marriage. The content of her circle of friends quickly turned negative from the beginning of her happy life. Later, their daughter was born. Not long after, they publicly divorced for the custody of their children. Finally, the dust settled and the daughter belonged to her. She began to look for a job and try her own life.
After the divorce, she wrote a long article, mentioning that her husband beat her during pregnancy, and there were many trivial things that broke her heart one by one. In just one and a half years, she experienced pregnancy, marriage, childbirth, divorce and job hunting. We outsiders are very sad, but she found the problem and knew that she was too dependent on her husband and even lost herself. The good news is that at the end of the article, she said,
It is too dangerous to put your life on another person wholeheartedly, because there are too many uncertainties in it, which is far less comfortable and calm than choosing to control your life by yourself. Before making all the choices, put all the principles of being responsible for yourself at the forefront, so that no matter what happens, it won't end in complaining again and again.
The first life creed written by Matsuura Yataro in 100 basics is that you are responsible for everything, and it is useless to complain. He wrote: "Good things and bad things, we will all experience all kinds of things. No matter what happens, I think "everything is my own making". Don't blame others and society, and don't hate this society. No matter what happens, handle it yourself and take the initiative to take responsibility. Generally speaking, you can solve all the problems by yourself. Only with the consciousness that "the key to convincing yourself lies in yourself" can you go your own way without relying on others. "
In the article "I don't believe in anything, maybe I have too little knowledge" written by Zhu Rabbit, the author asked several friends when they believed in the existence of art. One of them said that when he walked into the Uffizi Art Museum and saw the work "The Birth of Venus" with his own eyes, at that moment, he believed that there really was such a thing as art in the world. Before, he doubted art and thought it was a lie and arty. Now he feels that if he had not closed his mind to accept art, he would not have missed so many possibilities and enjoyed the benefits brought by art earlier.
In Xiao Shuo, Gao talked about that his preference for literary and artistic works (books, paintings, music) has undergone many stages of change. When I was a child, I liked relatively simple content. Only when you grow up and have more contact can you appreciate more meaningful, powerful and diverse works. For example, he likes couplets, watches beautiful and colorful paintings and decadent voices, and appreciates critical realism literature, Picasso's paintings and rock music. I think this change can only be achieved by growing up slowly and not closing your heart.
The above are works of art and literature, but they are aimed at all aspects of life and have not closed their hearts. Don't say "how is it possible" or "I don't believe it". The more you know, the bigger the pattern will be, and naturally you can accept more possibilities in life.
"From easily believing to questioning everything, there is a rational light. Then from not believing in anything to being willing to believe again, there is learning and pattern behind this. " -To the rabbit.
Mr. Wang Zengqi once wrote in an essay: "First, I hope young people can accumulate more knowledge about life. Second, I advise you not to be too narrow-minded and try everything. " He thinks that his interest in plants, insects and fish shows that he has a wide range of interests in people. Many things, at first glance, are not used to eating, but they taste after eating. What seems to be an essay on food is actually related to life and literary creation, that is, don't close yourself up and accept more possibilities.
In life, in the face of some attempts and habitual retreat, the road of life will become more and more mediocre, and it is more difficult for people who attribute everything to luck to succeed. For example, when learning a new skill, some people give up quickly, and some people learn, so when others succeed, there is no reason to just say that the other person is lucky and draw conclusions.
There are many choices on the road of life. If we can be responsible for everything, not close our hearts and accept more possibilities, we can accept everything step by step with live high demeanor. I hope we can meet this world and live up to our choice.
I hope that "everything in the world meets" can also bring you unique feelings, and I hope these words are also beautiful encounters in your life.