The first taboo: you can't help your boyfriend and mother in a hurry.
Some sisters will definitely say that you can't look blank for the first time. When you see your boyfriend or mother cooking or washing vegetables, you should naturally take the lead. This is completely wrong. As the saying goes: what is the bottom?
People's first impression is very important. If you make an impression on your boyfriend and mother for the first time, this impression will be deeply rooted in people's hearts. Unless you are willing to be a virtuous little daughter-in-law all your life (it is not excluded that some people are prone to self-abuse), you must keep your ass steady and never move without eating.
After the first effort, people will ask you according to this standard. No matter what you do in the future, almost everyone thinks you are lazy or pretentious.
Don't do too well for the time being, lest you ask too much in the future. I'm not here to teach my sisters to be lazy, but to teach you when to do and when not to do it. I hope you can understand my pain.
The second taboo: don't be influenced by your boyfriend and mother.
In love or marriage, one of the two people always has the advantage, that is, one of them is stronger. That person can be your boyfriend, but his family can't know.
Think about it. When people see their son being so car-scrapping in front of his girlfriend, will they treat you like a dish in the future? If your boyfriend listens to himself, dare his mother despise you? She is not afraid of losing her son.
So you can't be influenced by him in front of your boyfriend and mother, and you can't show fear. You should be strong.
The third taboo: know how to instruct your boyfriend to do things.
Most of the old people's ideas are: a man is the head of the family, so he can't do housework or go into the kitchen. But ask the daughter-in-law now who agrees with this view.
Today's daughter-in-law is not raised by her husband's family as in the past. She put her husband's position on her head. Now some women earn more than their husbands. At the same working hours, why should a woman wait on her husband like her grandfather when she goes home? Home belongs to two people, and so does housework.
If I don't reverse this situation in front of my mother for the first time, I will be so tired that I will vomit blood for a while, and people will think it's right. It doesn't matter if we women do some work. It is chilling that people do not show their due gratitude or gratitude.
As long as you are a timid sister who doesn't want to live in the future, you must learn to teach your boyfriend a lesson in front of your future in-laws. The first time you didn't give him an order, and then you let him work, my boyfriend felt that something was wrong at home. You should take this as a habit to cultivate him and establish new ideas in his mother's mind.
The fourth taboo: you don't have to keep saying things to please his mother and his family.
It's true that the sisters want to leave a good impression on their future in-laws during their first visit. The mistake is that some people are soft-hearted and afraid of hard work. The more you please them, the more mistakes they make. People don't take flattery as courtesy, but when you are afraid of him.
If the future husband's family is the kind that you respect him, he will also respect your family. Please work hard. This will also enhance your relationship with future in-laws.
But for the first time, you know what people are like. Some sisters think their fiance is polite and friendly to their husbands. I'm telling you, this is all wet Don't look for the shadow of in-laws in your future husband.
It is said that loving mothers often lose their children, and vice versa. Most obedient sons have a "crazy" mother. If you say what others like to hear the first time you come to the door, if you don't say a word about what others think after marriage, I'm afraid the world will be in chaos. Knowing that people's shortcomings are habitual, I believe that smart people will not be used to giving such shortcomings to others.
Therefore, sisters don't have to please blindly, just be polite and restrained. I am not here to teach my sisters to be rude women. I'm just here to teach you to be modest and behave properly (don't embarrass your parents).
The fifth taboo: in the future, I will be stupid.
Some spicy mothers-in-law touched the soft underbelly of young women, knowing that the fledgling kannika nimtragol was embarrassed to speak for her own interests, so she proposed bride price and dowry at this time.
For example, some future mother-in-law will say, "Your brother-in-law has been admitted to college this year, and there is really no money at home. You should eat more snacks yourself. "
At this time, the prospective daughter-in-law is generally embarrassed to say that this is wrong. If you don't talk, people will take you as the default, and it will be your fault to quarrel again in the future.
What was the result? It's just that you married yourself, but you can't say that others are wrong, because you agree with yourself. No one can take advantage in this world. No one will give you money unless you fight for it. Afterwards, I will say, "I have technology there. My wife didn't spend a penny, and my wife's house is still attached. " Then you are depressed alone.
Women don't know how to respect themselves, so don't expect their in-laws to respect you in the future. Therefore, we must be able to pull our faces down on key issues and be able to defend and attack when necessary. For the deaf-mute future husband, take the initiative to attack. You can't be dumb when others are dumb. Otherwise, fight for it when you get married, and your mother-in-law will say, "Then you didn't say it." This sentence choked you to death.
Sixth: Don't give money for the first time (it's more appropriate to bring a small gift like something to eat).
Sometimes young couples sum up what gifts to bring to the man's house for the first time. When they can't figure it out, they simply send it in RMB.
Here, I told you not to bring money. Not stingy. Please see if the following analysis is reasonable.
The first is the question of how much. You said you don't know what other parents like. Give me some money. But have you thought about how much money to give? Maybe in your eyes, the right amount is Mao Mao's rain in her husband's eyes. Maybe you will be accused of being a cheapskate. Do you think you are not wronged? Or conversely, if you want to pay more, people can't find out why. Have you thought about the future?
Ask again: what is the bottom? The more you pay at the first door, the greater people's expectations for your future. For convenience, we use numbers to represent things.
For the first time, you gave 1000 yuan. I wanted to show it to my parents-in-law for the Spring Festival after marriage, but I couldn't come up with 1000 yuan later. What should I do? Then give 500 less filial piety. This is the most normal thing in your eyes. When you get to the troubled in-laws, it tastes terrible. 3354. For the first visit, give 1000 yuan. How to pay 500 yuan for the Spring Festival after marriage? Are we getting less and less serious about the old couple?
Sisters, don't believe in such a family. Besides, after all, in-laws are not better than their parents, and who knows what they are thinking. One more thing is better than one less thing. In order to avoid future reference, it is better to give some gifts for the first time.