I think it may be that we are introverted, so we don't have many friends and girlfriends, so we feel lonely. We are all striving for the future, and sometimes we feel lost and lonely with a little frustration. It doesn't matter. When I am lonely, I listen to music, play ball, or communicate with you on my mobile phone. If you feel lonely, you can learn to forget your troubles. Isn't it time for us to work hard for the future? Or find a friend of the opposite sex who you think is very good, send a text message to chat or something, of course, without hindering others' study and life!

If you find yourself eating alone in the canteen for a long time, don't worry. It's normal to be alone in college. Your friends are afraid that you think you have no free space, so don't think you have no friends! We are not alone because we have more free space than others!

I have graduated for many years, but I don't think I was lonely when I was in college. On the contrary, I saw many things that were novel to me, and saw various lifestyles, which was very helpful to me.

Going to college feels lonely, probably because I left home and lived in a foreign country. My middle school partners also went their separate ways, and I didn't have familiar environment and friends, nor did I make new circles.

In fact, in addition to further study, university is also a transition from students to the workplace. University is a small society, and you can find your future direction at will during your college years. At this age, there are still trial and error costs, and there are many options to choose from.

With a goal, you won't be lonely.

The reason why you have such questions shows that you are still confused in college and your interpersonal relationship may not be very good. As an experienced person, I want to give you some advice, hoping it will help.

I had your troubles when I was in college. I have a lot of free time and don't know what to do. I feel that I haven't learned anything in college for four years, not as good as high school. But I went to work and found that I really learned a lot. In particular, professional knowledge, which was previously considered as empty talk, has been well applied in practical work. In fact, what we can learn is what we usually learn bit by bit, that is, what teachers who think we know nothing give me bit by bit. In the four years of college, we have learned not only professional knowledge, but also the truth of being a man, the way of doing things and the ability to learn. These are all very important and accumulated inadvertently. As an experienced person, I feel that I must cherish my college time and not waste my parents' money. Give yourself more plans to enrich yourself so that you won't feel bored all day.

There are many things to learn in college. What do you think is the main study? Which is more important, learning knowledge or exercising ability? There are many and miscellaneous studies in universities, but they can be roughly divided into two categories-those taught in class and those not taught in class, namely knowledge, culture and dealing with people. Both are equally important, emphasizing that there is no difference between primary and secondary. No matter how strong a person's ability is, it is no use without knowledge and culture as the foundation. Similarly, no matter how rich a person's knowledge is, he has no ability to express and communicate, and no matter how vast his knowledge is, he can only let it rot in his stomach.

You must stick to your usual classes, join as many clubs and student organizations as possible without affecting your grades, constantly expand your life circle, meet all kinds of people, and improve your ability in all aspects. Don't blindly look at others, including and especially your roommates and classmates, because you need to go out and get out of this circle, you can gradually break through, from dormitory to student organization to school to off-campus, and constantly expand your life circle. You don't have to be like everyone else. Everyone will succeed, won't they?

College may not be as interesting as we thought before we came. When I first came into contact, I believe that the biggest feeling of most people is loss. But slowly, you will find that the university is not as colorful as you think, because the color of the university itself is painted by yourself. You should have a perfect model in your heart, and keep trying to describe and realize it for such a beautiful model, then it will eventually become like that! This is why some people think the same school is so shabby, while others miss it all their lives.

I have seen a program of Oriental TV before, and I still remember a passage said by a professor at Fudan University. He said that universities are also a society, and key universities are different from ordinary two books and three books, but there is no essential difference. All universities are recognized by the people of China and the Ministry of Education, and all agree with their students' academic qualifications. There is no essential difference from this point of view. Since the university is a society, there are various social phenomena. If you want to paint four years in any color, it is that color. You insist on painting yourself black for four years, and then all you see is black. If you paint these four years colorful, your four-year world will also be colorful. So I think this passage is very suitable for college students who are confused and at a loss in college like you.

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I just came to school in my first year of college. There are many girls in our major. The little girl in our class is broad-minded. I didn't know much about the twists and turns between girls at that time. When I first came, I shared a dormitory with the monitor. At that time, the Communist Youth League Secretary and the monitor who was not the monitor at that time said that I would compete with her for the position of monitor. I went to the teacher's office to fill out a form, and in her mouth it became flattering the teacher and speaking ill of the little girl in class. I don't know why I became the target of public criticism at that time, and then I was bullied and framed by my roommate. I didn't know much at that time, but I only knew how to cry. I cried when I was wronged, cried when I was bullied, and didn't know whether to refute or cry when I was framed. Later, I wanted to drop out of school, but I always felt that I was easy to bully and slowly began to prove myself.

The first semester of freshman year is probably my darkest day. Later, I began to participate in various competitions and often went to the teacher's office for running. I didn't complain to others about how I was bullied and wronged, and I seldom cried in front of others. Slowly, all the teachers in that office know me, and my classmates dare not offend me. I was promoted to the student union by the teacher (at that time, the student union was very strict, and only the monitor and the communist youth league secretary could enter). Those unfriendly classmates began to follow me actively. But then thinking about revenge faded.

The second year began a busy day, with various competitions and activities every day. Going out early and coming back late looks very fulfilling, but I don't have any friends. Except for a senior who is very kind to me, I basically seem to be familiar with everyone in my class, but in fact I don't even have anyone to eat. Although I am full, I am also lonely.

In the third year, I quit all my posts and seldom took part in activities. Have dinner with the little girl in the class every day after school, and discuss what nice clothes to buy and what color lipstick to wear. Although many people say that I fell a lot, I am very happy every day. I don't have to go to a meeting without eating, and I don't have to stay in the office and play computer every day. I don't have to sleep whenever I want, and I don't have to worry about many things every day.

In fact, many little girls around me have experienced the same process as me. I think this may be a process that most people will go through. As long as you stick to it, you will find that life is still beautiful and the university is still very happy.

Ps: I am a Si, a girl who inspires herself on the front line of gossip. We can exchange if we want.

Anytime!

This view reminds me of an article I read before. The author talked about his college life. In order to get along with others, he didn't choose to do things with his roommates that he wasn't interested in. It's really good, in my opinion, because quite a few of them are like me. Of course, it's not that I have a bad relationship with my roommates. They like to stay in the dormitory. For some reasons, clubs and students quit, and a large part of them love freedom.

I was a class committee at that time, and I usually had more communication with my classmates and teachers. On the other hand, it is a community. A school-level club, people from all departments have opportunities to contact and have many activities, so they are often not in the dormitory. If I have time, I will stay in the dormitory. They said that if I stayed in the dormitory often, they would die in the dormitory.

Everyone's choice, I think my choice is quite good. I met many people, experienced some things and saw more things I didn't know before. In fact, I owe a lot to my dormitory and missed many dormitory activities. Once I just started school, I celebrated my birthday with two roommates and prepared a dinner party on Friday night. Just after I ordered the food, I was told that the department would have a meeting. This is really a very important meeting, and I have to go. We have to leave.

A person running on the road will have feelings. If you choose one, you owe the other. But can you really be happy if you live wholeheartedly in the dormitory? No, everyone who has experienced it knows that there are many internal contradictions in university dormitories, especially girls' dormitories. A friend told me that sometimes being in the dormitory is a torment. Seemingly calm, no one speaks, but in fact, everyone in the dormitory is paying attention to each other's movements.

Is it completely harmonious in the club? Of course not. There is connotation between departments and associations. But fortunately, I have gained friends all my life in the community and really like them. Even after graduation, we will be apart, but the experience of several years will not be forgotten.

Back to the question, is loneliness the normal state of college life? Yes, not only that, but also in life.

Lonely, I feel lonely.

When I was in high school, I made up my mind not to enter the student union of the university.

There are three reasons: First, I think the argument that students can exercise their life skills is empty. Why can't they practice life skills? Why do they go to the student union? Second, I hate bureaucratic corruption in the student union; Third, I think the socialization of the student union is very tiring.

Because of these three points, I resolutely gave up the interview of the student union.

Many friends around me went to various departments and associations. I think they are busy.

I feel carefree and want to fly when I am free.

At first, I liked quiet time. I watched them busy interviewing until ten o'clock in the evening every day, watching them go out for dinner every week, and watching them work hard for various activities until late at night.

I feel relaxed, and this relaxed pleasure gives me a lot of happiness.

Later, I found that my college life circle was just like this: the students I met in the dormitory and classroom in twos and threes. There is no one else.

Every time my roommate and I walk on campus, many people greet her, but no one greets me. (Roommate is from the Student Union)

I'm starting to get a little depressed.

Later, I was not interested in all the activities held by the school. My roommate signed up for many activities. I think she is very busy. She feels full and worthwhile.

I began to reflect on myself, why didn't I take part in anything? Why do you lose interest in everything?

Actually, I'm not lazy, not too lazy to attend.

I'm just confused I thought I had seen through a lot, and I was proud of myself.

But what I get is loneliness.

I've been in college for more than a semester, and I don't know more than forty people at school.

I don't think it is necessary to know each other. I think everything is boring.

Presumably this is the mentality of the lonely.

But I am not quiet every day. I'm not the transparent type. I always laugh in the dormitory, and I will not be silent in class.

My loneliness is that I can't recognize my environment. Because of this, I will escape.

Under the banner of seeing through everything, alienate everything.

First of all, you can't be lonely.

That's for sure. No one is born lonely. As long as you are gregarious in college, as long as you follow others and become like them, you will not be lonely. On many social platforms, we often see many small partners deliberately integrate into the circle of people around them in order to escape loneliness. Even if they feel uncomfortable in this circle, they still stubbornly refuse to go inside. I didn't understand it at first, but later I found the answer in a chat with my roommate.

Roommate Xiao Mu joined the interest club as soon as she entered the university. At first, he was happy. He feels that he has finally found something he loves and is willing to do his best for this club. But then he told me that he didn't really want to go. Xiao Mu said: "I was very excited before, and everyone didn't know me very well. The love in my heart has brought us together, and I cherish it. But then they gradually changed, got used to parties and liked to talk on the wine table. All kinds of formalism made his scalp numb. "

"But I can't quit. I feel that resigning is a bit inhuman. I am afraid of a person's feelings. "

I think this may reflect the hearts of most people.

I force myself blindly, just to make others not look at me differently. I would rather be unhappy than jump out of the fence and accept that I am lonely but happy.

A person will not be lonely, as long as you learn to enjoy it.

Before the National Day holiday, my classmates asked me how I planned to spend the National Day holiday. I said reading, writing and communicating with myself. He gave me a white look and said that I was the person he felt most at home. How boring. Why don't I go surfing with you? I shook my head and stopped talking. Really lonely? Is it really boring? I was sitting in the classroom when I wrote this article. During the holiday, there were few people. When I saw a gray day outside, I felt free. At least I didn't feel lonely. On the contrary, I feel very fulfilled. On weekdays, I am overwhelmed by heavy courses. These days, I have enough time to do what I want. I feel very happy and satisfied. I don't think loneliness is a derogatory term. It can also be a feeling of happiness, and it can be pleasant and sweet. I like being alone, because I spend most of my time on what I like. I like lonely environment, because I can communicate with myself in quiet time.

During this period, I learned to reflect on myself. When I was alone, I learned to communicate with my heart and ask myself what I really want to do in the future. Say to yourself what I want? Is this the life you want to live these days? Perhaps many people think that self-reflection is a bit low-level and even ridiculous. You may say that this is something that teachers have often mentioned to do since childhood, but you haven't done it. Even if you do, you just deal with yourself and satisfy your heart.

When you really ask yourself, I wonder if you are lonely, and you should have the answer.

Aristotle once said, "A loner is either a beast or a god." Let me guess, you and I should both be gods.

The university itself is a sacred learning place, but for most students, it is a laissez-faire place. Four years of college life can be unknown or unknown. The following is my own experience of lonely life in college:

When I was a freshman, I walked into the university campus with a learning attitude. Every day is basically a classroom, dormitory, library, and nothing else overlaps. Later, I met a girl in the club. Yes, we are in love. The playground and Woods became my main positions, and I stayed together all day. Although there was not much money at that time and going out to play was frugal, I was really happy.

For a long time, I broke up in April of my sophomore year. Maybe it was because I played games every day and left her in the cold that she abandoned me. Stay in the dormitory, play games and sleep all day after breaking up. In addition to the required courses, I even ordered takeout. I live this life every day, and it's amazing to be decadent for half a year.

In May of my junior year, I suddenly felt that such campus life felt like waiting for death. I work night shift in a KTV in the city, sleep in the dormitory during the day, meet all kinds of guests, and listen to the girls who accompany the wine to tell their own stories. There are not only parties, but also many different stories. Although sometimes I feel tired, I think about the boring life in school and look at my classmates. Might as well find something to do outside.

I was still engaged in that job until the eve of my internship in my senior year. Later, after graduation, I officially worked, and I gradually entered social life. I won't be bored or empty. The pressure on me is pushing you forward. Come on, social man!

Universities always feel lonely. When you come to school from your hometown, you find that your high school friends and junior high school classmates are gone. Freshmen come from all corners of the country, each with his own living habits and personality. You will feel uncomfortable, not suitable for this city, not suitable for this school, not suitable for the university way.

University teachers are no longer like high school teachers. They may be your neighbors or live upstairs. They won't always wait for you to ask exercises in the office. They accompany you to study at night, and the university teacher disappears after class. So you feel lonely.

College roommates may be playing games, League of Legends, the glory of the king. You don't think time should be wasted on such meaningless games. So you feel lonely.

College roommates are not necessarily the people you like, but it is fate that you live in a dormitory. You should live in harmony and not affect each other. After all, you will meet many colleagues, leaders, partners and business friends on the road, not necessarily people who appreciate each other, but you should learn to handle this relationship well from college. You may not be good friends, but you are not necessarily enemies. After all, four years is a long time.

Lonely moments will still appear in the middle of the night, missing my hometown, confused about the future, and afraid of the CET-4, but when I am lonely, I must learn to get along with myself so that I can grow up. After all, Jay Chou, my favorite when I was a child, wrote in the lyrics: Behind the glory is a kind of loneliness.

You can read, study and exercise when you are lonely, but don't question yourself why you can't fall in love with mobile games or chicken eating games with your roommates. There is no need to change yourself to fit in.

20 10 went to college in Shanghai in September. As it is the first time to come to such a big city as Shanghai, it gives us foreigners a sense of freshness and fear.

Freshmen and juniors read books in the library from Monday to Friday.10am to 5pm, about accounting, securities and futures. Focusing on these three lessons is also a strength. There are thousands of orders at home. You must study hard and read more books before you can find a good job after graduation.

My senior year is finally about to graduate. After filming graduation photo, several students went to Shanghai Wildlife Park together. This is my only trip during my four years in college, and I spent 20 yuan on the ticket.

Looking back seven years later, I don't think so. I didn't take part in various practical activities except reading books, which made me feel inferior.

Therefore, I am not lonely after four years of college, but a sense of inferiority after graduation.