I attach great importance to daily communication with children. No matter how busy I am every day, I will spare at least 15 minutes to communicate with my children. Moreover, I will not criticize her seriously, but talk about the big and small things that happen at school every day like talking to her, including listening to her troubles and sincerely praising her. Sometimes I can do many things with this insignificant conversation time: I care about her health and so on. Of course, I am more concerned about the emotional needs of children. At this time, I can persuade her and help her find a way.

She told me that the teacher often said to her, "It's black when you are near Zhu Zhechi, and it's black when you are near Mexico." Personally, I think this sentence is very good. A good friend will directly affect children's academic performance and even their personality. I still clearly remember the first day of junior high school. She told me excitedly how many friends she made in a day, her personality and so on. So it is important to know which friends children have.

Another point is: encourage children not to rely on adults as much as possible. To put it bluntly, it means self-reliance and autonomy. I have a good friend, whose children are in the same grade as me, but two exams are actually the first in the school year (I never believe that children will have IQ differences), so I asked my friend how to learn. She told me that she was busy at work every day and didn't have time to watch her children study, so her children developed a good habit of independence, and they didn't have to set the alarm clock or make breakfast every morning. Before she gets up, the children get up silently, drink the milk already prepared in the refrigerator or their own heated meals, and then leave home silently for school; At night, too, I stay quietly in my room and study. When you are tired of studying, you will silently wash your face, brush your teeth and sleep. I think it's no big deal. My children can do it. But the fact surprised me: in the morning, the alarm clock she set for herself would be forced to turn off because she was sleepy. Finally, she had to bite the bread and run out of the house in a hurry. The night was terrible, too. I used to sit next to her and watch her do her homework. I can't sleep once I leave. It's past 10, and I still have to tell her to brush her teeth, wash her face and go to bed. I can't help thinking, yes, if my child can also have strong self-control, she won't want her parents to be busy, and she won't think about the plot of cartoons on TV when she does her homework, and her thoughts will float out of the window unconsciously during class. Why can't she be the first in the school year? So, I took great pains to educate her and found that my child was actually perfect. She learned to be independent in less than a week. Now she won't ask her father to get up in the middle of the night to talk about homework, nor will she be forced to wash her face and brush her teeth under my supervision. Her current concept is: why do I need my parents to supervise when it is obviously my own business? I want to do my own thing. My goal has been achieved and her grades have gone up.

I will never stop her from studying because her academic performance drops or affects her study. My father and I think reading is a kind of learning. From the perspective of learning, reading helps to write a composition and complete the reading practice of modern literature. When I was studying the examination paper at the parent-teacher conference, I found that there was a five-point question about reading famous books, which was enough to explain the importance of reading. Children are particularly willing to read Yilin, which is considered by many teachers, including parents, to be idle books and has nothing to do with learning. Of course, learning is very important, and reading is also very important, but now the study life of junior high school students is really tense, so it is a bit difficult for me to let her study. So I made her promise that she could read a book about Yilin, but she would write a book review and extract classic sentences. She agreed very readily and did it.

I won't put too much pressure on my child, nor will I force her to go to various cram schools. When I heard her say that a classmate in her class attended six cram schools a day: math, physics and English, I was absolutely scared. At first, she didn't attend any cram school. Finally, she cried and said to me, mom, I don't think I am good at math. I want to make amends. I don't want it to give me grades. It will affect my grades. Now, my children attend three cram schools: physics, mathematics and Chinese. I have plenty of time to do my homework. On Saturday, I will spend 3-4 hours swimming, 1-2 hours practicing the electronic piano. In front of the bookstore, I often see a mother dragging her children to buy books, but my children don't need them. I never force her to do any exercises. When I get into the habit of celebrating the holidays, she will ask me for money, tell me what counseling book she wants to buy, and then come back and get one for me to check. Sometimes she will say to me: I saw a book I like, so I bought it. I will finish it during the holiday. Her father and I laughed it off, and we wouldn't severely criticize her and tell her to read less leisure books and so on. Classmates often ask her how much exercise she does. After she told them, she scared her classmates and thought I forced her to do so. She said nothing, smiled and went on doing her own thing. Some students teased her and said, Lin Luna, your family runs a bookstore, right? I laughed with her. In fact, after all, my mother just gave her a little less pressure. She likes to observe her life as an observer and give her advice, but the child is conscious. Without my advice, she already knows what she should and shouldn't do. Therefore, sometimes, unnecessary pressure and care will only bring more negative effects.

The child is a very busy and tired representative of the Chinese class in the class, and receives homework every day. If other parents had told the teacher that they had left their jobs because of delaying their studies, it would not have helped me think of my sister's children and asked the teacher to give them a chance to exercise and let him be the monitor. This kind of opportunity is rare, so we should cherish it. The child earnestly fulfills his responsibility as a class representative, and sometimes goes home to complain to me: someone retaliates against her and deliberately makes her look bad. I said, "Do what you have to do, no matter what others think of you. You live for yourself, not for others. You are you, others are others. " She didn't say anything, but watching her class representatives is getting more and more leisurely. As a result, at the end of the parent-teacher conference, she was greatly praised. When I looked at her, she was a little embarrassed. I am naturally secretly happy for her, but this can't be shown, which will breed her pride. Finally, the representative of Chinese class brought her a lot of trouble, but it also had many benefits. When telling others a topic, she knows what she should pay attention to and can't go wrong. At the same time, it also improved her Chinese performance. Sometimes if she doesn't do well in the exam, she will think: it's over. As a representative of Chinese class, she is sure to be laughed at by others. In fact, this kind of self-esteem is not necessarily a good thing, it will stimulate the child's role model psychology. However, something went wrong. My classmates said that she was a representative of the "model" class, and I laughed, but later I realized that she had too many "violent" behaviors towards her classmates, which made them think that she was too strong to deal with, so I told her: Serve others with virtue. She's still a little like that, but a little better than before. I mean, she's serious. I am proud of my children. She really learned how to help others, how to be responsible, how to be strong and persistent, how to face difficulties calmly and how to do everything well. At the same time, she has grown up slowly.