In fact, parents are generous enough to introduce sexual knowledge, so that children can correctly understand gender differences, which is the correct approach now advocated. If children understand thoroughly, they will not be distorted and demonized, nor will they pay special attention to "sex" psychologically, and they will also greatly protect themselves from harm.
1, understanding the differences between men and women is the first step in educating children to protect themselves.
Parents should also consciously avoid this process. For example, boys are a little more sensible, and the task of taking a bath is naturally given to dad; When a girl changes clothes, her mother can deliberately close the door and tell her children that her father is a boy and girls can't watch when they change clothes. ...
Tell children that a person's body belongs to him, and no one has the right to look at or touch the private parts of the body, which are covered by small vests and underwear-except in two cases: when mom and dad bathe the child, or when the doctor examines the body; Tell children that if someone touches the private parts of TA's body, they must tell their parents at the first time.
2. Seize the appropriate opportunity to "teach" the children in time. In the cartoon "Bears Come and Go", Xiong Er, the bear, saw Cui Hua's eyes shining and wanted to kiss him. Some children will be shy when they see this. At this time, parents can take the opportunity to impart relevant knowledge to their children and let them know about sexual knowledge through correct guidance. Kissing is nothing to be ashamed of. Be generous and don't be coy. The more hidden, the more depressed, the more prone to problems.
3. Tell the child the name of the sexual organ scientifically and correctly. With the development of language, children will begin to ask about gender-related words. At this time, don't use other names to replace or avoid children. You should tell your child the names of the corresponding parts scientifically and correctly, so that children can feel as natural as other parts of the body and satisfy their curiosity.
Don't be ashamed to name those body organs. In the eyes of children who know nothing about sexual knowledge, they are just a part of the body like nose, eyes and ears. As parents, we should learn some knowledge about sex to enrich ourselves and learn some knowledge about sex education. With sufficient knowledge preparation, children can be correctly guided to understand "gender" and help them grow up healthily.
Parents should talk about sex in a natural manner.
Children's world is simple and full of curiosity. Parents can't treat him as an adult, and even think that the child has bad motives or moral problems. If parents are always vigilant, or talk about sex with their children in a cold and reproachful tone, children may grow up with misunderstandings about sex and affect their mental health.
Therefore, when talking about sex with children, parents don't have to answer irrelevant questions, or cover up, perfunctory prevarication, or regard it as dirty and indecent, and sternly reprimand it. Parents should first put their minds right and be generous-sex is just something a child needs to know sooner or later, and there is no need to hide it. The calmer parents are, the easier it is for children to have a correct understanding of the problems they are talking about.
If parents don't know anything about sex, children don't know their own bodies, don't know any secrets about sex, are curious and confused, and are afraid to ask their parents, so they have to turn to the internet, and may get one-sided, ugly and unhealthy information. Those children who have no ability to distinguish are addicted to bad websites and cannot extricate themselves; What's more, it forms all kinds of abnormal and distorted psychology, and even takes risks to satisfy morbid psychology.
5. Educate children to have good hygiene habits.
For example, girls should cultivate the order of wiping their bottoms from an early age, and boys should also wash their private parts frequently and know how to protect their penises. If children like to play with their sexual organs, it is not appropriate to reprimand or stop them with words such as "shame" at this time, which will make children have a bad evaluation of their health. Parents should first tell their children that their hands are dirty and easy to carry bacteria, which will make their penis sick. Secondly, they should divert their attention, tell his favorite stories or play his favorite games. After a long time, children will get rid of bad habits.
At the same time, we should teach children how to protect themselves, encourage children to be independent, ask children to be different from men and women, and especially teach children to respect women. Teach children the general moral principles of male-female communication and ask them to respect and love themselves.
6, the content of all ages should be focused.
Simple problems such as gender knowledge should be solved before the age of 5. Before puberty, sexual physiology education should be carried out; When teenagers develop, it is necessary to carry out sexual psychology and sexual morality education. In short, sex education for children should adhere to natural and appropriate principles, and should not be done deliberately, nor should we look at children's problems from an adult's perspective.
Sex education is also safety education. Its most important purpose is to protect our children. What are parents hiding? "Yellow Book" is just a substitute when you can't surf the Internet. Don't let children learn gender knowledge in the "yellow book".