1, self-centered
With the development of China's economy and the implementation of family planning, the number of only children in families is increasing, which leads to the whole family center revolving around "Little Emperor" and "Little Princess". Parents do everything for children, and children are heaven and earth. Finally, it causes students' sense of self-superiority and self-centeredness, and the outstanding performance is selfishness. This mentality is bound to be deformed. Children grow up to be spoiled and pampered. Few people criticize them, suffer little, and go to extremes in the face of setbacks. In recent years, the rising trend of adolescent suicide rate is evidence. Self-centered students are mostly withdrawn and indifferent. They consider themselves first, or only themselves, lacking friendly spirit of mutual assistance. Moreover, students have a strong vanity and are most eager for famous brands in food and clothing. They have a strong sense of self-superiority, lack of communication with others and lack of cooperation consciousness. Therefore, in interpersonal relationship, it is always unpopular with classmates and there is no good interpersonal relationship.
Step 2 be tired of learning
Learning is hard work, but now some students are spoiled from childhood, always reaching for clothes and vegetables, unable to bear hardships, lacking the spirit of hard work and perseverance to overcome problems, so their grades are often poor. Some children are ashamed of their poor grades, but instead of studying hard to improve their grades, they are opportunistic, clever and even cheat in the examination room. For example, over the years, a large number of students have cheated in the college entrance examination and senior high school entrance examination. Some students with poor grades are called "poor students". Poor students are often given the cold shoulder, and their advantages and advantages are not found and valued. Students have the psychology of "broken cans and broken falls", which is easy to form resistance to teachers and produce rebellious psychology, which is what teachers often call "problem students" Because of poor grades or doing something wrong, I am often accused and criticized, which leads to excessive psychological pressure and weariness of learning. In addition to rebellious psychology, weariness of learning also includes students' self-spiritual victory. When students encounter something unsatisfactory, they don't actively find reasons to make up for it, but work hard for the benefit, but admit that they are unlucky and find a reason that is not a reason to comfort themselves and accept themselves. For example, if you didn't do well in the exam, you can say that you helped those students who studied well. If you don't have your own differences, how can you show their goodness?
An analysis of the causes of psychological problems of contemporary middle school students;
The problems existing in the psychological quality of contemporary primary and secondary school students are not only related to their own psychological development stage, but also closely related to their social environment. Let's look at an example:
According to a set of information publicly reported by China, China is the largest country in the world in child suicide. In the ranking of the causes of children's suicide in China, study pressure ranks first (45.5%), followed by puppy love (22.7%) and parents' divorce (13.6%). According to a survey, 24.39 primary and middle school students in Shanghai have suicidal thoughts, 5.85% children have attempted suicide, and 1.7 1% primary and middle school students have attempted suicide.
Among the causes of middle school students' suicide cases, we can see that the main reasons for middle school students' mental health problems are as follows.
1, school factor
Students spend a long time in school, and their psychological quality is greatly influenced by the school. School education is also the most important factor affecting students' mental health.
At present, China is carrying out examination-oriented education, which has played a positive role in a certain period of time, but with the development and progress of society, this system of selecting candidates has become more and more harmful. Primary and secondary school students are directly related to exam-oriented education. They learn the knowledge of textbooks under the requirements of taking exams, and teachers pursue the rate of enrollment. Their concern for students is mostly confined to their studies. When students' grades dropped, they didn't find the reason well. Instead of slowly counseling students' psychological problems, most of them blame or tell their parents, which leads to an insurmountable generation gap between teachers and students and no good communication between teachers and students. According to the survey, the vast majority of teachers are biased, paying special attention to students with good grades and ignoring students with poor grades, which leads to a great psychological burden on students with good grades, and students with poor grades are disheartened and even broken, so there is a phenomenon of working hard or abandoning school. Students form an invisible competitive pressure in their study, which leads to interpersonal tension and insincere communication between classmates, leading to many students' autism or depression.
2. Family factors
Family is an important place to mold children's emotion, character and will and form a healthy psychology. Parsons called the family "the factory that makes personality". Parents' psychological quality, moral behavior and cultural accomplishment play a vital role in their children's achievements and growth.
At present, the divorce rate in China is gradually rising. Parents in many families are divided, hostile, nervous, quarreling and even getting along with each other by force for a long time, which leads to children's anxiety, paranoia, sensitivity and uneasiness, and it is difficult to get along with classmates and teachers, forming a withdrawn character, which will seriously lead to psychopathy and anti-social behavior. On the contrary, the family dotes on the children too much, which makes them lose many opportunities for hands-on exercise, leading to high self-centeredness, inferiority and narcissism, easy to form dependence, poor self-care ability and poor psychological endurance, and easy to be frustrated in life.
3. Social factors
Society is a big dye vat. Although primary and secondary school students have not yet entered the society, the social environment permeates their lives. With the rapid development of modern civilization, facing the ever-changing and complicated modern life, the pace of people's life is accelerating, and the desire of the whole society to pursue material things is expanding day by day, ignoring the rich and colorful spiritual needs. The life of primary and secondary school students in real society is deeply influenced by it. Now many primary and middle school students blindly pursue famous brands. For vanity and comparison, even at any cost, some students sold their healthy kidneys to buy iPad2 or iphon4, which led to health problems and finally chose not to return. Some students are addicted to the internet and can't tell fantasy from reality. Times make heroes, but if we can't recognize the times and make use of them, we will eventually be destroyed by them. In this vast world, many primary and middle school students are confused, at a loss, without good interpersonal relationships, and once they encounter setbacks, their psychological obstacles are serious.