In cultivating children with high emotional intelligence, some people say that the educational quality of parents, that is, educational concepts, methods and abilities, determines the success or failure of family education.
Among them, the concept of education is parents' cognition of children's education. The better the educational cognition, the better the education children will receive. Parents' cognition from low to high represents different parenting levels.
First, parents educate their children attentively, but there is no scientific method.
Many parents love their children and want their children to be excellent, but how can we cultivate a promising child?
Their cognition and practice of children's education are: meticulous life, tight study and indifference.
Because parents are committed to their children's study, anything in their children's study may affect their parents' hearts. Children's grades have improved and parents are happy; Parents are angry, angry and disappointed that their children's grades are neglected. In order to make their children get good grades, parents often take many improper methods, such as beating and scolding their children.
However, parents don't understand the real reasons for their children's poor grades and ignore their psychological needs, so there is no scientific solution.
Yin Fei, an associate professor at the School of Education Science of Nanjing Normal University, once said that most parents are more concerned about their children's academic problems, but their methods are often not professional enough.
On the first level, parents love their children and have some intentions to educate them, but there is no scientific education method. At the same time, parents only care about their children's grades and ignore their spiritual needs, which may lead to various problems for their children.
Martin, a famous host, said in a speech: The biggest problem of China's parents is not to beat and scold, but to disagree.
Second, parents attach importance to their children's education and adopt proper methods.
Parents at the second level have devoted more attention to the education of their children and adopted scientific and appropriate methods to cultivate excellent children.
I have seen a short film "Dream Caused by Bean Sprouts" adapted from a true story.
A little girl saw that the business of selling bean sprouts in the market was very good and said to her mother, let's grow bean sprouts and sell them.
Mom smiled and said, let's try.
So they prepared beans, soil and utensils and began to plant bean sprouts, but the first bean sprout failed.
The girl was disappointed, but the mother smiled and said to her daughter, it doesn't matter. Let's try again.
The mother accompanied her daughter to read the instructions for planting bean sprouts, found out the reason for the failure and continued the experiment, but because there was no way to water the bean sprouts, the experiment failed again.
Although the number in the passbook decreased day by day, the mother did not flinch and decided to continue the experiment with her daughter.
This time, my mother thought of a good way to solve the problem of watering bean sprouts. She and her daughter poked holes in the plastic bottles they picked up, then tied the plastic bottles to bamboo poles and sprinkled water on the bean sprouts from the holes, so they could water the bean sprouts.
Finally, the bean sprouts were planted successfully, and the mother continued to encourage the girl: Do you want to try to plant something else?
This girl is at her mother's house? Shall we try? With her encouragement, she won the scholarship of Sarnrak project until she graduated from undergraduate course, and then successfully got her doctorate and went to Sweden to do research.
The girl said that she had such achievements, which was her mother's? Shall we try? This sentence, this ordinary sentence is like a magical nutrient, nourishing her curiosity, inspiring her courage to explore and letting her go all the way.
Educators point out that among all types of parents, only? Support? Children educated by their parents will have higher happiness index and greater courage in the future.
The so-called support is actually to understand children's psychology, support their decisions, encourage them and try their best to help them. Such parents are the strong backing of children, which increases their courage to overcome difficulties until they succeed.
Third, parents are willing to read for their children.
Tolstoy said: The essence of educating children lies in educating themselves, and self-education is the most powerful way for parents to influence their children.
Parents who keep learning and don't give up their efforts are the best role models to influence their children; Parents who stop growing up can't keep up with their children's growth, but they will only drift away from their children and have nothing to say.
In Thirty, Gu Jia is a mother who keeps learning.
She has a scientific view on children's education.
The kindergarten child was frightened because of his epilepsy. In order to eliminate the child's shadow, she entertained the child's father to restore the scene and let the child know what epilepsy is through stories. In this way, she not only protected her son's childlike innocence, but also taught him to be kind to others.
Although she is a full-time mother at home, she will exercise and manage her body very self-disciplined: Mrs. Wang is full of praise for her West Point; In order to help Mrs. Wang name the asteroid, she went to learn boring knowledge.
There is a saying in the documentary Mirror:
In order to cultivate an excellent child, parents' self-growth is the greatest and best influence on the child.
Jenny? Alimu said: it is not terrible for children to have shortcomings. What is terrible is that parents, as the leaders of their children's lives, lack correct family education concepts and teaching methods.