Some children have all kinds of problems, in fact, the root cause is their parents, but their parents have a bad relationship. To improve the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, and the problem of children will naturally be solved. A netizen once said that her son was in his teens, especially attached to her and slept with her, and their relationship was in a mess. Therefore, children are angels sent by heaven to save their parents.
2. The importance of words and deeds. To educate children well, the most fundamental thing is to improve parents' own quality and standardize their words and deeds, because parents' words and deeds are affecting and educating children. Only when parents do what they say can children really listen to their parents and do what they say. Parents say one thing and do another, and children will only do what their parents say, not what their parents say. In other words, children don't look at what their parents say, but what their parents do.
Children must be raised by their parents before they are three years old. Everything can wait, and educating children can't wait. You can't say that after the baby was born, I went out to work and left the baby with my grandparents. When the child is old and goes to kindergarten or elementary school, I will come back to accompany her. This is the biggest hidden danger in educating children. Parents can have many choices in their work and lifestyle, but we can't have other choices in educating their children. We can only grow up with the child after she is born. The younger the child, the easier it is to form good habits. Children have bad habits when they are young, and parents can correct them in time, which can get twice the result with half the effort. If you don't care when you are a child, when the child reaches puberty, all kinds of problems will break out, and it will be too late to regret it. Children grew up with their parents and cultivated deep parent-child feelings with them. In this way, even if the child reaches puberty, it is somewhat rebellious, because both sides have deep love rooted in their hearts, and given correct guidance and advice, it will naturally transition and there will be no major problems.
Children separated from their parents since childhood are mostly brought up by the elderly, who spoil them too much and form many bad habits. In addition, there is no deep affection between them and their parents. Strengthening parents' education is not only difficult to correct children's bad habits, but also easy to have a tragedy of mutual harm with parents. A few days ago, a child of 14 years old in Yancheng, Jiangsu killed his mother. As we all know, similar situations often happen. Most of these tragedies are the sequelae of left-behind children. A year's plan lies in spring, and life lies in children. Prevention and scientific education in childhood are more important than prevention.
4. How to love children correctly? Every parent loves their children very much, but the problem now is that many parents don't know how to love their children correctly. Every child is an independent individual and lives in different environments, so the education methods for different children are not the same. Only by constantly learning correct educational concepts and methods, creating conditions for children to find what they really like to do and giving them support can parents let their children live the truest appearance, let their children's flower of life bloom and realize their own life value. This is the best way to educate their children.
When planting crops, farmers always carefully water and fertilize them after sowing, waiting for them to take root, sprout, blossom and bear fruit and wait for harvest, instead of artificially trampling or pulling out seedlings to encourage them. The same is true of educating children. You can't artificially put unbearable pressure on your child in the name of love, which is actually hurting her and destroying her. In life, if we can treat others with respect, trust and appreciation, then all problems will disappear. So are children. As long as parents, teachers and people around them treat children with respect, trust and appreciation, then children will naturally grow up healthily and happily.
The mother's quality determines the future child's life. The mother is usually the closest person to the child, and the mother has a greater spiritual influence on the child than the father. Some people say that one nanny is better than a dozen special-grade teachers. Because only the mother can fully grasp the child's personality, talent and physical condition, is the most qualified to choose the education method suitable for the child.