Letting go of children's learning does not mean letting parents ignore learning and let go, does it? Stockings? Let go, any process of cultivating study habits takes time to verify, and it is not emphasized by teachers. All children are fit to let go. Students who have not established their study habits in the third grade and have incorrect study attitudes may get farther and farther away from good study habits after their parents relax their discipline. Parents should know their children, know where the degree of study and counseling is, when to let go, and how to let go should also have principles and bottom lines. As long as parents grasp this principle and bottom line, they can easily let go.
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Communicate with the children first and tell the rules and parents' bottom line.
Letting children learn is not a unilateral act of parents, but requires the cooperation of parents and children. After the plan begins to cultivate the awareness of autonomous learning, parents need to be prepared. First of all, you should know your child, and feel that in the third grade, the child has been able to have certain standardized learning behavior and learning initiative. Under this premise, parents should also communicate with their children, that is, respect their opinions. Some students like the feeling that their parents sit with them when they study. They don't like being locked in the house to do their homework. Therefore, communication is the first step to let go.
Secondly, parents should talk about their own rules and bottom line. Putting down learning is not to ignore children, but also to hope that children can understand and not to take chances. Instead, parents feel that their children have made progress in their studies and hope that their children can make greater progress, so they want their children to achieve their learning goals in primary schools. Clear the responsibility of learning, parents should show their cards to their children. Not all parents will study around their children, and parents also have their own things.
Finally, I also hope that children can manage their studies well and set a time period for them to practice by themselves. Maybe the parents will find that the child has not finished well, give the child some time and the parents some time to adapt. This is the result of joint efforts of parents and children. If the child can carry it out seriously, there will be a reward It doesn't matter if the child doesn't do well enough. Parents don't worry, and then slowly transition. Constantly passing on the concept of autonomous learning to children is the basic principle of cultivating study habits.
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Learn to let go, but also step by step, not overnight.
It is necessary for parents to let go of their children's learning step by step, not at once. Parents have two hands, which should be raised in the process of learning. The children have mastered the skill of climbing the learning peak. If parents put their hands down, then if children step on the air, the impact on learning is still relatively large. Therefore, parents should put one hand first, and then put down the other hand when the child climbs more skillfully. Parents will ask, then how can I judge which hand to put? When will it be displayed?
Take Chinese as an example. In grade one or two, our parents do everything by themselves, dictation, writing, learning process and even living habits. After finishing their homework, they must tidy up their desks and schoolbags. Then after the third grade, there are some habits that children will develop, so there is no need to emphasize them. In Chinese learning, dictation continues, but parents don't have to accompany them. When encountering unfamiliar words, it is more important to teach children to look up the dictionary than parents to report the answers on their own initiative. Check the children's homework every day and urge them to finish it by themselves. Don't stare in Chinese, but also ask them to take out their math homework and write quickly. Parents can read books or study by themselves when accompanying students, so that children can understand that your homework and study are your business, and parents also have their own things to do.
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Parents should do a good job in psychological construction for themselves.
In the process of letting go, it is not that children can't adapt, but that parents are unwilling to let go of their studies. Parents are too strong in their children's learning. I believe that only by doing it yourself, paving the way and planting trees for children can children have excellent development. In fact, what have parents been playing during their children's learning? Help deliver it? Your role and guidance are the right direction for children.
Cultivating autonomous learning is not to teach children to solve problems, but a long-term process. In this process, parents' educational methods and principles determine whether children can grow into independent people. Grasp three principles: communicate first, then let go, and finally do a good job in psychological construction so that parents and children can spend this time smoothly. What other problems have you encountered in helping your children learn? Welcome to leave a comment.