Many parents think that children will be cured after being scolded for a while, just to let them remember for a long time. Is it necessary to go online? In fact, the child will not think that you are doing this for his own good. In the child's mind, he feels that his parents no longer love him and don't like him. If parents always beat and scold, the child's heart will be more and more missing. In the long run, it is easy for children to feel inferior, and even lead to rebellious and aggressive personality.
Perhaps most parents are still influenced by traditional ideas to some extent, and think that the old saying "Don't spoil the child, you will have a dutiful son under the stick" is actually that everyone makes mistakes, let alone children. In the process of children's growth, parents should allow their children to make some mistakes and try to understand and be considerate of them, instead of being harsh.
Many times, parents beat and scold their children not because of their own mistakes, but because parents vent their bad emotions on their children. For example, if a child cries, the parents will be unhappy, so all negative emotions will be thrown at the child.
Having said so much about the disadvantages of beating and scolding children, how should parents educate their children correctly?
Growth is not achieved overnight. Try to respect and understand children.
To understand every behavior of children, for example, which stage is the most important for children to have rebellious emotions? How likely are you to stand on your own feet? When a child has a certain emotion or a certain bad behavior, don't rush to suppress it. Try to understand why the child does it first. Did some students at school put up with his anger? Or what children of the same age have, he is not satisfied here. Try to ask first, understand the specific reasons of the problem, and then take corresponding measures. Only by fully understanding children can we learn to respect them and feel empathy. Sometimes it's not that children don't want to do well, but some aspects, such as their hands-on ability is really worse than that of ordinary children, so they can't finish the manual tasks in class in time. If the parents know the real reason, the child has actually tried his best, not intentionally failing to finish it. Communication in this case can be agreed with the child. Children often want their parents to give them comfort and support, and their parents should be more tolerant and accepting, so that they can have the motivation to make progress.
Children's growth is not achieved overnight. Every day, they may encounter some problems or obstacles to their growth. We should be more patient, communicate and coach with them.
Less preaching and more time for practical education.
In other words, the same education will be better, that is, "less preaching." For example, "Why are you still playing and haven't done your homework?" Go and write! "You can put it another way:" If you don't finish your homework, you will have less game time. Dad is still waiting to play games with you. You should cheer up. " .
Practical education can help children do more things that they can, and help them well and praise them appropriately in this process. Exercise children in the process of doing things. Let him realize what kind of behavior will be recognized by his parents, what kind of behavior will make progress and what kind of behavior is wrong.
Specific to small things, parents can try to do:
1. Read with children and set an example for them. After all, a good study partner is very important.
2. Children study at home, parents should not play mobile phones to watch TV, and create a good learning environment for their children.
Don't scold the child for his small mistakes.
4. Don't compare with other children blindly, after all, academic performance is not the standard to judge children.
Respect your children and don't let others know the secrets they share with you.
6. If you have something happy, share it with your children in time so that they can feel your happiness.
7. Leave real "play" time and space for children.
8. Don't quarrel in front of the children.
9. Pay attention to the cultivation of children's living ability and behavior habits.
10. Don't buy what children want. Let him know the relationship between labor and income.