A long time ago, everyone would object to teachers' corporal punishment of children, but later, with the law, teachers can punish children appropriately within a reasonable range. I still remember an article called Peking University that boy was very naughty. His father disciplined him since he was a child, but he was very naughty. Every time he makes a mistake, his father will educate him with a stick. Later, he gradually stopped being naughty, learned to improve himself, and finally was admitted to a prestigious school. There has always been an old saying in China that there is a dutiful son under the stick, so there is nothing wrong with punishing children appropriately, as long as it is not too much, it can also play a positive role.
However, if the child is in a rebellious period, it is recommended not to physically punish the child, because the child has rebellious psychology and is easy. The parent-child relationship is fading. Every family should find a suitable way to deal with the relationship with their children, and also observe whether the children are in a rebellious period and adjust their plans according to their situation.
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Some children are too naughty, commonly known as Xiong Haizi. When they go to relatives' homes, they will tamper with other people's things and destroy other people's property, and they are very rude. For example, in a hot pot restaurant, Xiong Haizi buckled the hot pot on the girl who ate it because the girl didn't give him her mobile phone.
In this case, parents. We must educate our children well and don't hit them directly, because the children themselves don't think too much about others, and the effect of a meal may be worse, so parents are very likely to hit their children by mistake when they are extremely angry.
Second, violent communication is not as good as calm conversation.
Every family has a different way of education. Some people advocate the effect of beating children, while others do not. There are different ways to treat different children, but the best way is to educate them slowly. Many educational books mention that a child is a seed and will grow up slowly under the cultivation of parents. Parents should take good care of them, so that their children can distinguish and handle things reasonably. It's not a good idea to hit children blindly.
Everyone must have heard the story that Washington cut down his cherry tree. Washington's father didn't choose to hit the child, but told him something was wrong. Finally, Washington became a well-known celebrity. On the contrary, however, the textbook also mentions that another child broke a bowl at home and was accidentally beaten by his parents.
After his uncle's children broke the doll at home, he didn't make any gestures, just comforted others. So this parent's education method is very problematic. Treat the child seriously and patiently, teach him the truth instead of hitting him directly, so that the child will only be afraid, will not really handle things well, and will leave the child with inferiority complex. Children eat a meal, although it was effective at that time, but parents should consider it in the long run. This kind of treatment won't last long. Communicating with children will make children understand a lot of truth and won't make it again next time.
Third, the treatment methods in different periods are also different.
Parents must have a headache and their children are naughty. This problem should be viewed in stages. Childhood and adolescence are handled differently.
(1) childhood
During this period, when children make mistakes, parents can be less depressed. Tell the child to clap his hands gently, and then reason with him, so that the child will not make such a mistake again next time and will remember what his parents said. If you hit the child directly, he will only feel pain, he will be afraid of his parents, which will greatly affect the parent-child relationship. I still remember that my uncle was forced to study and grew up by his grandfather. Later, his grandfather died, and he didn't show any sadness. Therefore, in childhood, parents can simply use corporal punishment to deal with it, which is more reasonable.
(2) Adolescence
Children in this period are very rebellious, and even many children are proud of not respecting their parents. For example, many heroes in Metamorphosis have little respect for their parents and have a very poor relationship with them. In many periods, we can see that the parents of urban heroes will beat their children. At this time, the child is in a rebellious period, and the effect of hitting the child is poor, but it will only be counterproductive and the relationship will become very cold. During this period, children are very reluctant to listen to their parents' discipline. Parents can take a soft approach to close the distance with their children, cook for their children, spend more time chatting with their children, understand their thoughts and avoid using violence to solve problems.
Fourth, nonviolent communication, calmly face children.
Some children are unwilling to listen to their parents, no matter whether their parents respect their teaching or not, and no matter when they hit them. At this time, parents should consider their own countermeasures. They can use both hard and soft, influence him with love and warm him with true feelings.
(1) Learn to take care of children's emotions.
Parents should not be too busy at ordinary times, learn to take care of their children's emotions, face their children calmly, and don't rush to blame when their children make mistakes. Communicate with them patiently, point out their mistakes and teach them how to correct them. Non-violent communication is much more effective than violence. After all, everyone wants to be treated well. Sometimes parents beat their children, and children will feel that their parents don't respect themselves. This is an insult to yourself. Calm communication represents parents, and treating yourself as the same person will have a sense of accomplishment, so that children will be more obedient.
(2) Family Forum
It is best for families to hold a forum once a week, so that children can discuss their current views and point out their own problems. Parents can also help him find ways together, so that children will feel more involved. This not only increases the communication between members, but also makes the relationship closer. This is a very good solution. Even if the child is not good, giving him enough sense of ceremony will make him feel respected and valued, not too rebellious, and can listen to his parents.