One day when my son came home from school, I filled the bathtub with water as usual and prepared to take my son to take a bath. Unexpectedly, he said uncharacteristically, "Mom, I don't want you to help me take a bath anymore!" " ""why? "I asked with a smile." Because I am a boy, the physiology teacher said that my penis can't be seen by my mother casually! "Oh, my God, son, where did you learn this strange theory? I am angry and funny: "Binbin, you are still young, it is normal for your mother to bathe you." "I took off his shorts while comforting my son. Unexpectedly, he pushed me away and shouted, "Don't touch me, I have my own privacy!" " "I had to give up when I saw the serious appearance, but I secretly blamed the child's teacher for making a mountain out of a molehill.
That night, I carefully asked my son what else the teacher said in the physiology class. Binbin's answer surprised me. It turned out that teacher Binbin showed them nude photos of men and women, letting the children know that the most obvious difference between men and women's physiological structure lies in genitals. My son glared at me and said generously, "The teacher said that boys' penises and girls' genitals belong to their own privacy, and no one can peek or touch them except doctors."
What I didn't expect was that my son not only knew the physiological knowledge of human development, sexual maturity and female pregnancy and childbirth, but even when he was less than ten years old, he was able to talk about the value of life and the importance of friendship between men and women. It seems that American's sexual enlightenment education for children also runs through human's education of cherishing life and caring for the opposite sex.
Speak freely, an unforgettable sex education class
Soon after his son entered middle school, his personality changed obviously. Not only has his manners become deeper than before, but he has always paid no attention to his appearance and began to tidy up himself seriously. Obviously, adolescent sons began to care about their image in the eyes of female classmates.
One day, Binbin brought back a notice from the school to his parents, saying that there was a sex education class at the school on weekends, including contraception and prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. The notice pointed out that parents must sign the receipt if they don't agree to their children's attending classes. In the future, if their children miscarry and get AIDS, etc. Parents shouldn't accuse the school of poor education. At the end of the notice, parents are welcome to attend sex education classes at school.
At the beginning of the class, this beautiful young female teacher wrote a big word "sex" on the blackboard. Then she smiled and asked everyone, "Students, what do you think when you see the word" sex "?"
A boy with curly hair spoke first: "Sex reminds me of nocturnal emission." Someone immediately laughed out loud.
A slightly shy girl whispered, "Sex reminds me of pregnancy." I saw many classmates snickering.
A black-headed Asian boy suddenly said, "Sex reminds me of making love!" " There was a commotion in the classroom at once, and many girls blushed.
At this moment, a stout dark-skinned boy whispered, "Sex reminds me of naked women ..." As soon as the voice fell, the students burst into laughter. Some students threw pens and notebooks at him and the classroom seemed to be boiling.
Next, the children continued to talk without restraint. Their imaginations are so rich. The young female teacher kept writing on the blackboard: "Sex, abortion, kissing, sexy ..." Some words that adults usually find difficult to say were said by the children without any sense of shame and filth.
After the classroom was quiet, the female teacher looked at a blackboard full of words and frowned and said, "You said so much, but you missed something inextricably linked with' sex' ..."
The children began to guess in a low voice. At this time, the female teacher turned around and wrote "love" on the blackboard without saying a word! The classroom suddenly became silent-"love!" The female teacher's voice is full of feelings: "love is the most sacred and noble feeling between the two sexes, and sex without love is a body without soul!" When people talk about sexiness, they ignore that sex is based on love. Early pregnancy, abortion and sexually transmitted diseases in life are often caused by irresponsible sexual behavior ... "
The female teacher's words were very infectious, and the children who just giggled became solemn. Next, the female teacher told the children that sex is natural and wonderful, but middle school students' early involvement in sex is not good for their health and study, and unplanned pregnancy and abortion are also very painful.
Finally, the female teacher played a CD introducing contraceptive methods, and the children watched it carefully. The expression of concentration is like looking at a mathematical three-dimensional picture.
It turns out that I am worrying about nothing.
In a blink of an eye, Binbin is in the ninth grade. Just when I was worried about whether my son could safely survive the restless period of youth, it suddenly came to the news that public schools provided condoms to high school students free of charge through the proposal of the education authorities in new york. Many parents in China are very dissatisfied with this. In my opinion, this practice is tantamount to implying or encouraging children to steal forbidden fruits.
I hurried to my son's school and asked the school to explain the absurd practice of providing condoms. I was received by a counselor in charge of student work. She seems to know the traditional culture of China very well, and she speaks in an orderly way: "I have met many parents in China, and you are too strict with your children. Blind purpose imprisonment is stupid and dangerous. " She seemed to see my surprise, and then said, "When children enter adolescence, their hormone secretion surges and their sexual function develops rapidly. Under the influence of various external stimuli, their demands for venting sexual excitement and tension will become stronger and stronger. However, children do not have the living conditions of adults, and their sexual needs are suppressed, resulting in adolescent anxiety. Who can guarantee that their children will not make deviant things on impulse? " After a pause, she added, "Isn't there an idiom in China called' nip in the bud'? The school provides condoms to children only to eliminate hidden dangers! Condom itself will not increase students' sexual activities, but it can effectively reduce teenage pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Don't you think so? "
I was deeply moved by the counselor's words. I have to admit that condoms provided by schools seem absurd, but they are full of human nature.
One weekend not long after, my son and I were watching TV together, and a long kiss and bed scene suddenly appeared on the screen. I can't help but get nervous and want to change the channel, but my son has the remote control. I can't sit still, but I can't sit still when I look at my son. I don't look at anything else. I'm not embarrassed at all. I thought to myself, "This kid is so mature that he is as cool as a cucumber when watching sex dramas." "Mom, don't stare at me like that. Your son won't dream. " Suddenly, my son "cone" me.
Since my son started the conversation, I quickly seized the opportunity to ask, "Binbin, do you have a girlfriend?" The son casually replied, "Yes, I have an abnormal relationship with her!" " "My heart can't help pounding. Seeing my nervous appearance, my son gave me a proud look and joked, "Don't be so nervous, I'm joking with you!" " "He got up and turned off the TV, and unexpectedly asked me," Mom, do you think I have male charm? " Looking at my brave son, I deliberately smiled without saying a word. My son suddenly made a surprising remark: "I will wait until I go to college to find a smart and sexy female classmate to be my lover." For the sake of her destined to appear in this life, I am studying hard now, not touching women, and ensuring that I will be admitted to a first-class university in the United States two years later! "
I can't help glaring. My son is much more mature than I expected. The son who has experienced sexual enlightenment and adolescent sex education has been able to cope with "sex" calmly. "Sex" is natural and wonderful in the son's mind. In the western society full of temptations, the son restrained the physiological agitation of adolescence with mature and healthy sexual consciousness. If I ever worried that my son would get lost in the "sea of sex" in new york, it was totally unfounded.
(Miao Shugao is taken from China Daily)