Family education is the education that has the most profound influence on children, and the cultivation of parents will also stay on children.
Children grow up, study and work. As parents, we can't stay with our children all our lives. And love and education can accompany children all their lives.
Nowadays, society is more open and love is more free, so it is not surprising that people get married and leave quickly. At the same time, many single-parent families have been born. Children from such special families need the love and education of their parents more. As long as there is enough love and good education, even single-parent families are not terrible.
There is a teahouse called "Sanbaozhai" outside my community. The boss of Sanbaozhai, surnamed Li, divorced his wife and took his 4-year-old son alone.
There is a super big green parrot in front of the shop. Whenever a guest comes in, the parrot will shake its head from side to side, "Hello, hello!" " "Constant greetings add a bit of interest to the teahouse.
One night, two figures, one large and one small, stood at the door of the teahouse. I just got home from work, and I'm going to buy a new bag of tea.
"Are you playing a game or being played by a game! How can you hit people? " Looking closer, it turned out to be Li Laoban and his son. The little boy in front bowed his head shyly when he saw a guest approaching.
Boss Li's son threw sandbags with his friends in the game, because he argued about who won and who lost, and pushed down another friend. Boss Li taught his son a lesson, took his son to apologize to his friends and sent a bag of tea to others. When he left, he heard his son whisper to Boss Li, "Dad, I know I was wrong. I will be reasonable if I can't fight in the future. " The son realized his mistake and made a bet with his father, promising not to make it again.
Although it is only a small matter, we can see the educational model of boss Li. He didn't spoil his son because he lacked maternal love. If there is a mistake, there is a mistake, and if there is a mistake, you must bear the responsibility. Only by knowing and correcting mistakes can we grow up in mistakes.
Many children are different from us now. When we were young, they spoiled everywhere. They are afraid of melting in the mouth and falling into their hands.
There are often some ridiculous situations on the internet: there is a little friction between children, and parents of both sides not only fail to educate their children well, but become one, and finally become contradictions between adults and even fight. Under the influence of this wrong way, children will not reflect on their own problems in the future, but will only blame others.
There is also a situation where children do something wrong, parents indiscriminately, come up with a severe criticism, and even severe beatings and corporal punishment. This extreme approach is also not desirable. In the long run, it is easy for children to form inferiority and rebellious character. These wrong education methods will affect the healthy growth of children.
Family education is far more important than we thought. Parents are the best teachers for children, and children are also a mirror for parents.
In the book Positive Discipline, the author jane nelsen broke the usual norm of parents: excessive doting or severe punishment is ineffective education. If you want to be a qualified parent, you must learn positive discipline.
Active discipline advocates that parents and children make rules together, so that children can fully participate and actively think and solve problems.
When a child does something wrong, parents should first understand the cause and effect of the matter, not let emotions lead them by the nose, but show understanding to the child and bring the child closer.
Then guiding and educating children can make them reflect on their behavior, what they did wrong, what the consequences will be, and how to deal with the same situation again.
It is much better for children to think about these problems on their own initiative than for parents to preach directly. Finally, make rules with your children, and if you make a mistake next time, what kind of punishment will you receive.
Love and education are two wings to help children grow up. May every child fly higher and farther on these wings.