When children's exam results are not ideal, they are actually very sad. If children dare to tell their parents, then parents must not put all the responsibility on their children when facing this situation. Children dare to tell their parents, indicating that they are already blaming themselves. At this time, children need the support of their parents.
If children are afraid to tell their parents, parents should not worry. It shows that children also attach importance to test scores, but they are afraid to tell their parents because they are afraid. Parents should not be angry at this time and think that their children are lying or something, but learn to communicate with their children and encourage them. After all, an exam result really can't fully explain anything.
However, if the child's exam results have been unsatisfactory. Parents can't let go, let alone think that their children are scum of the school and give up without learning talent. Parents should work together with their children to help them improve their academic performance. Then, what should parents say to their children if their test scores are not satisfactory? There are four points to pay attention to. Let's give you a detailed introduction.
1. If the child's exam results are not ideal, parents should keep calm and accept it.
Parents must not scold their children if their exam results are not satisfactory. Don't lose your temper, blame or intimidate children. Because, your emotions will not only affect children, but also easily cause children's psychological burden.
Some parents, seeing that their children's grades are not satisfactory, often can't help but say something to their children that their children are not as good as others' children. I don't know if I am familiar with it. These words can easily hurt children's self-confidence. Children also have dignity. If they are hit too hard, not only their self-esteem will be affected, but also their rebellious mentality will appear. Some parents always feel that their children don't listen to anything because they have formed a psychological confrontation with themselves.
When children's grades are not satisfactory, parents should first adjust their mentality, recognize the reality and accept their children. Only when parents accept this fact psychologically can they treat their children rationally.
2. Don't tell your children what other students are like, and don't compare your own children with others' children.
If the child's exam results are not ideal, don't say that the child is not as good as others. Don't tell your children: why can other children do so well in the exam? This will seriously affect children's mental health and hurt their self-esteem and self-confidence to some extent.
The child's heart is fragile and suspicious. If parents tell their children that some children are stupid and inferior to others because of their unsatisfactory exam results, they will have an idea that they are inferior to others. When children label themselves as "stupid" in their hearts, they will gradually form psychological pressure.
When children give themselves psychological hints for a long time that they are inferior to others and that they are stupid, it will form a kind of pressure. This kind of pressure and influence is irreversible and the consequences are quite serious.
3. Even if the children's test scores are not ideal, parents should pay attention to digging and discovering the advantages of their children and encourage them to make progress.
Parents should never think that their children are useless if their grades are not satisfactory. Even students with poor academic performance must have an advantage.
As parents, it is to discover the advantages of children. As long as parents are careful enough, they will certainly find the advantages of their children from the details. This can encourage children to make progress slowly.
For example, if a child is lively, you can praise him. After that, I have been praising the children and guiding them correctly. In this way, children can make progress easily, study with peace of mind, actively change themselves and do better.
4. If the children's test results are not satisfactory, parents can find out the reasons for their poor test together with their children and make a study plan.
For children, if the exam results are not ideal, there must be many reasons. However, for children, they may not have the ability to find the reason. At this time, you need the help of your parents.
Parents can work with their children to find out why their children didn't do well in the exam, whether they didn't learn the basic knowledge well or the learning method was incorrect. I believe that with the help of parents, children will definitely find the reason.
Adjust according to the child's actual situation and practice in a targeted manner. Just like the right medicine, so as to really help children.
To sum up, when children's exam results are not satisfactory, parents must take action instead of turning a blind eye. I'm not angry with my children. Be sure to master the right methods and work hard with your children.