Then why is this happening? Many parents born after 7080 said that we were not like this at all when we were young. We are obedient and help with housework at home, and our parents only tell us about our study occasionally, so we have an instinctive sense of awe for our parents. What is the root cause of this phenomenon?
This phenomenon of children now is entirely caused by educational dislocation and parents' own family life habits. From the moment a child is born, he is a completely blank piece of paper. He is an angel without any shortcomings. Then why are there more and more bad habits as children grow up? Many parents complain that this is caused by the external environment, what schools are not good, and there are many unhealthy social atmosphere. Many senior intellectuals also think that I am a doctor and attach great importance to children's intellectual education, but children have become uncontrollable rebellious youths. In fact, most of us have never really thought about how to educate our children correctly. Based on my own growth and the problems encountered in children's education, I analyzed and summarized the following points: 1, the adverse effects of misplaced education on children; Many parents are under great pressure at work, and the care of their children is entirely given to grandparents, who usually spoil their children and chase after them when they eat. It's best to give him food at the table first, regardless of etiquette. When we were young, it was a rule to sit at the table and arrange seats according to seniority. The dishes in the bowl can only be taken in their own direction, not turned. Now, these rules are gone, and a large family always has to eat. Everyone else is waiting for death, and the "order of young and old" is completely reversed, so it is not surprising that children are old, selfish, self-centered and even disrespectful to their parents. 2. Moral education should be put in the first place; Many of our parents always pay more attention to their children's study, as if everything will be fine as long as they study well and any shortcomings can be tolerated. This is the biggest educational misunderstanding! If you get good grades, you can go to a good university and find a good job, yes, but in the workplace, you should get along well with others and unite and help each other. A person who is too selfish and self-centered will run into a wall wherever he goes. A person's greatest attribute should be sociality, not IQ and the knowledge he learned at school. 3. The most important thing in children's education is the cultivation of habits, and the cultivation of good habits is also very important for learning; Many parents understand this, but it is too late to find out in junior high school, and many habits have been difficult to correct. Bad habits such as procrastination, lying, being late, etc. , will eventually affect the future study and life. 4. Parents are the real first teachers of children. Parents' behavior has a great influence on children, and good example behavior is far better than oral preaching. The data shows that the proportion of children of teachers, civil servants and other families is very high. This is because they are role models themselves and must pay attention to their words and deeds. Most teachers go home to correct homework and prepare lessons besides cooking and housework, which affects children invisibly. In this family atmosphere, many children like reading, and they like reading. On the other hand, those parents hold their mobile phones until they go to bed as soon as they get home. How can children not play mobile phones and games?
Education is a great undertaking, which requires every parent to think hard and cultivate a qualified and excellent child.