Raising children, like planting crops, requires a series of processes such as sowing, fertilizing, watering, weeding and harvesting. China's parents are the hardest in the world, and none of them can be desperate for their children. Hard-earned money, but willing to spend money on education After attending an off-campus remedial class, I will transfer to the next one and forcibly feed my children spiritual food. Behind this kind of educational anxiety is the influence of the big environment and social atmosphere, which forms an atmosphere in which children are not allowed to lose at the starting line. So today, let's take a look at why parents in today's era are particularly anxious about education.

1. "The cost of failure is too high"

The parents of such children usually start from non-first-tier cities (including intellectual struggle) and just gain a foothold in first-tier cities, but they are not rich yet. They are well aware of the hardships of struggle, because every time they go to school, they have witnessed the fate of a large number of peers being eliminated around them; They are deeply afraid that their children will become those "eliminated" friends in those years and feel that they can't afford to lose.

2. The current selection system will make parents anxious.

Aside from the first college entrance examination, the senior high school entrance examination is enough for parents to worry about. As long as there are junior high school students at home, it is difficult for parents not to be anxious. Although junior high school belongs to the compulsory education stage, the senior high school entrance examination after three years of junior high school has the nature of selection. How dare parents relax their children's study when the general-vocational ratio is roughly the same? At present, most parents are not satisfied with secondary vocational education, which means that attending high school has become the goal of many parents. But look at how difficult it is to get into high school now. Take our city as an example. The total score of the senior high school entrance examination is 6 10, and it takes at least 530 to get into a high school, let alone a key high school. Just look at this score and you will know how fierce the competition is. Secondary vocational education can't meet the needs of parents, and attending high school has become the goal of many families. In this case, can education not be anxious?

3. Parents expect to surpass their children's "zone of proximal development"

Every parent has an "ideal child" in his heart. When there is a huge gap between this "ideal child" and the real child, and this gap cannot be bridged in the short term or even in the long term, parents will be hysterical, and a series of negative emotions such as worry, fear, tension and anger will flock to them. Tong's ideal presupposition in A Little Parting is: he will be admitted to a key high school before 100, then he will be admitted to a key university, find a good job, and then reach the peak of his life. However, reality is always cruel. Fang Duoduo's crazy tutoring and study under the strict control of his mother still failed to reach the goal of 100 before her mother. To this end, children are distressed in every way, demanding more from their daughters, and the relationship between mother and daughter is becoming more and more tense.