Editor Xin's mother

Not long ago, Gao Xiao invited a friend to eat hot pot after work. During the dinner, a jaw-dropping thing happened, which he still remembers: while eating hot pot, Xiong Haizi at the next table pointed at Gao Xiao and said loudly, "This uncle is like Logger Vick!" After that, I hit Gao Xiao several times. Gao Xiao taught the children a few words. When the father heard this, he let the child go back with a black face. When Gao Xiao saw it, he didn't care anymore.

Just as the soup was boiling, Gao Xiao and his colleagues were about to order. Xiong Haizi at the next table came running quickly, spat in Gao Xiao's pot and ran back. Gao Xiao said angrily, "What are you doing? How did your parents educate you? " At this time, the child's mother heard it and said, "He is just a child. As an adult and a child, what do you care? " Gao Xiao was so angry that he picked up his cell phone and wanted to call the police. The father of the child reluctantly apologized when he saw the black face, compensated for the cost of the hot pot, and left with the child. Obviously, this child is "Xiong Haizi" who is overindulged by his family.

What kind of influence will parents overindulge their children?

1. Selfish and self-centered.

Children who are overindulged by their parents are prone to excessive self-inclination and are self-centered in everything. In the long run, such a child will become a person who never considers the feelings of others, does not distinguish between right and wrong, and lacks responsibility.

2. The psychological endurance becomes worse

Children who have been spoiled by their parents since childhood always live a life of reaching for food with clothes. At the same time, parents also meet their children's various requirements unconditionally and bottomless, which will make them feel that everything can be obtained through heart-to-heart. Children grow up, step into the society, encounter some setbacks, or encounter some unsatisfactory things, they lose confidence in themselves and lose the motivation to struggle.

3. It is not conducive to the correct guidance of teachers to children.

Children spoiled by their parents often complain to their parents after being criticized by their teachers because they can't do whatever they want at school. On the contrary, some unreasonable parents complain that teachers are meddling, find many excuses for their doting behavior, and convince themselves that it is right to love and spoil their children. Make it difficult for teachers to carry out teaching work.

Some parents are really "afraid of holding hands and falling" to their children, and they have cultivated their children into flowers in the greenhouse for a long time, so that children have missed the opportunity of independence since childhood. In the long run, children become too dependent on their parents and cannot be independent.

1. Don't satisfy your child without a bottom line.

Any request for children should be carefully considered. Don't compromise your child because he is afraid of crying and cheating. Let children know that every penny of their parents is hard-won.

2. Don't do everything.

Let children form the habit of doing things by themselves from an early age. You can't help them eat and dress because of their ignorance. Appropriate rewards can be used to let them do some housework within their power.

Don't protect children

In daily life, when dealing with children's affairs, don't blindly protect children just because they are your own. This attitude will make children feel that they are not wrong. If we think that children are too young to be sensible and should be tolerated, children will also think that they are young and adults will not care about themselves, thus relying on their age to do evil.

A child is like a blank sheet of paper, and every stroke on it will leave a mark in the child's life with the words and deeds of parents. Parents should face up to their children's education and not ruin their children's life in the name of love. Parents should educate their children correctly, which is responsible for their children and for themselves!