Spoil and over-educate

Children are superior at home and enjoy special treatment; Easily meet the various requirements of children; The whole family takes children as the center and takes care of all children's affairs; Children aged three or four still have to be fed and can't wear clothes, while children aged five or six still don't do any housework.

These are all manifestations of doting on children. Children who grow up in this way of education can easily develop selfish, arrogant, point-dependent, lazy, self-centered and unsympathetic characters! ? Sense of responsibility, lack of patience and hard-working spirit will inevitably be frustrated in interpersonal communication and social adaptation.

No matter how much parents love their children, they should also have a degree. Every rule should be taught to children, so that they can be responsible for their words and deeds and form good habits; If you are willing to let go, don't do anything for your child. Let him learn to be independent and grateful by doing this.

Often complain, emotional pressure.

Many parents always like to show their unhappiness and hardships in life, sighing and unhappy every day, and even complaining and telling their children all the time. "Our family is poor, so you should study hard and let us live up to your expectations." "People like your father want nothing, and you should never learn from him." "Look how hard mom and dad work every day, all for you." Although children are young, their ability to perceive emotions is not stronger than that of adults. Poor, sometimes even if parents don't talk, children can feel that kind of depression. A sad atmosphere.

Children who grow up in this environment are easy to form pessimistic, negative, sensitive and inferior, fragile and timid characters. Children's world should be simple, beautiful, bright and happy, but if you force him to have so many complicated and negative things in the adult world, it will cause him serious psychological pressure and affect his physical and mental health. As parents, please try your best to create a warm and pleasant growth atmosphere for your children.

Violent communication

Many parents are kind to their children, but don't know how to communicate with them. They often hurt their children without knowing it because they can't speak well. Emotional neglect, negative attacks, irony and ridicule, and comparing children with others all belong to "violent communication."

The child showed the finished handicrafts to his mother with great interest, and her mother was also busy with her own affairs. "Go away, no time to watch"; The child made a small mistake. "If you can't do this little thing well, what's the use in the future?"

Children who have been hurt by their parents' words for a long time are full of unsafe factors, sensitive and suspicious, easy to feel inferior, and suffer from loss. Every child is unique and has its own bright spot. As parents, we should know more about our children, accompany them attentively, and discover their advantages and strengths, instead of blindly denying the blow.

Strict autocracy

It should not be overlooked that some parents still believe in the educational model of "filial son under the stick" and become "tiger mother" and "wolf father". They are very strict with their children's education, demanding and controlling, and often beat and scold.

Psychologist Baker once said: "Parents are too strict with their children, which may force them to form good habits, but it will also make them feel uneasy, dependent, timid, afraid to speak out, unwilling to work hard and unwilling to participate in creative activities. In comparison, this kind of parenting is not worth the candle. "

Parents are too strict and autocratic, and the children they teach usually form two personalities: first, they are timid, too obedient and dependent, have no opinion, and only follow Nuo Nuo; The other one is stubborn, deviant and easy to go astray. In the final analysis, this kind of education still does not regard children as equal and independent individuals, and regards children as their own accessories. They can only obey their parents' arrangements and live according to the requirements of adults.

If parents notice this, they should adjust their mentality in time. Children have their own growth potential, and you don't have to say or do anything. Pay more attention to children's independent consciousness and listen to his opinions and ideas.