Self-centered spoiled children always ask others to satisfy their wishes and emotional needs, but lack the ability to consider others' feelings and needs from the perspective of others. They seldom take the initiative to give love to others, because they are used to getting full attention and love from their families without paying. When I grow up, I feel that people around me should take care of him and satisfy him, which will bring great trouble to their interpersonal relationship. They can't establish stable and harmonious relationships with others. The principle of interpersonal communication is mutual benefit, and blindly asking for it will lead to the exhaustion of relationships.
Weak independence. Spoiled children have a strong dependence on their parents and family, poor mobility, and even small things have difficulties in choosing. Everyone is born with the nature to adapt to the environment, and if children live a life of "clothing makes a living" from childhood, and all things related to them are arranged by their parents, such children will be deprived of their natural ability to know and transform the world, which will not only affect their intelligence, but also affect their self-confidence, sense of accomplishment and sense of self-worth, resulting in their poor performance in study and work, messy life and easy to get along with others.
Values are chaotic. Children who have been spoiled since childhood can do whatever they want, and rarely touch the stimulation of mainstream values. People around us blindly talk and do things according to their temperament, lacking conscious training in their words and deeds according to mainstream values. A child who grows up in such an environment cannot be influenced by the values that adapt to social life. After he enters the society, there will be a series of problems. For example, if he thinks he likes something, he will try his best to keep it for himself, regardless of the nature and right or wrong of other people's feelings and behaviors.
Poor ability to resist setbacks. Spoiled children retreat when they encounter difficulties, and will be devastated when they encounter setbacks, losing the courage to live and the desire to grow and improve themselves. Children who grow up in a doting environment can always meet their demands and wishes in time. They hardly know what difficulties they have encountered in the process of realizing their wishes and what methods they need to solve them. They have hardly experienced the self-confidence and sense of accomplishment brought by their own efforts to solve problems. Therefore, once they leave their parents who sheltered them from the wind and rain and face difficulties and setbacks alone, they will feel desperate and helpless because they lack confidence and courage to overcome difficulties and experience and methods.
Here we need to mention the reasons why parents dote on their children. The reason why parents dote on their children may be because they are busy with work and spend less time with their children, so they will try their best to satisfy their children in material life and let them live comfortably and have fun. It may also be that parents didn't get good care from their families when they were young, or they didn't get enough emotional care from their spouses in marriage, so after having children, they doubled their love and made up for the emotional lack; It may also be a "benefit" exchange. Parents failed to realize some wishes and wanted their children to inherit their ambitions and realize their parents' goals, so they cared for their children and let them give up his path and continue the path that their parents did not finish. Parents should always be aware of whether they dote on their children and what are the reasons for doting on them, so as to adjust their words and deeds in time and strive to cultivate their children into an independent, caring, confident, responsible and adaptable self.