1, respect children's "sophistry"-feedback effect. Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents usually angrily call their children's behavior "sophistry". In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education. Education is a two-way process. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They just "teach" themselves and don't care about the feedback from their children. Such education often fails to achieve the goals that parents want.

2. Analyze and respect children's feedback. When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze the children's feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions. However, it is worth noting that whether it is "sophistry" or not, parents must respect their children's feedback. In the above-mentioned educational cases, when the child tells the reason why "our classmates say so", the mother yells at the child without analyzing the child's feedback. Is this disrespect for children's feedback? Performance. Therefore, the mother also knows the true reaction of the child's feedback-she doesn't think "you are so stupid" is a dirty word. It is conceivable that parents will misunderstand their children's feedback and suppress it. For a long time, children will never give positive feedback to their mothers' education. Without the cooperation of children, parents are doomed to have no way to educate their children.

3. Give targeted education to the problems reflected by children. When analyzing the problems reflected by children, parents can carry out targeted education according to their feedback. For example, if children don't know the importance of politeness when asking questions, parents will never know it again. They can use examples and reasons to illustrate the importance of politeness and guide children to be polite good children; If the problem reflected by children is that they don't want to know and don't want to take responsibility for their recent wrong words and deeds. Parents should encourage their children to be a person who can correct mistakes and dare to act. In short, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and carefully analyzing children's feedback is the primary prerequisite for achieving educational goals.

4, family education can not be inconsistent-watch theorem. Psychologists have done this experiment: give a person a watch, and when someone asks him the time, he can tell it quickly and confidently; However, when the person is given two different watches, the person on the watch can't tell the time quickly. Because two watches can't tell a person a more accurate time, it will make observers lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this phenomenon "observation phenomenon" and come to a conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation in doing things. Later, people called this conclusion "Watch Theorem".