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Selfishness is human nature, self-centered, regardless of other people's feelings. Selfishness is innate, just like a child trying to steal other children's toys for himself. Although it is understood, everyone knows that this is wrong. Therefore, the author thinks that students and counselors should put themselves in other's shoes. Communication is the catalyst to improve the relationship between teachers and students, and it is the "friend" and mentor of students.

Einstein said, "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish's ability by its ability to climb trees, it will think it is a fool all its life. " Therefore, every student is unique. Counselors can't look at people with colored glasses and judge a person's personality unilaterally. They should treat every student equally with a bowl of water, guide them according to their different situations, and make them become people who are beneficial to society.

Students should also understand the counselor, understand the counselor's good intentions and actively cooperate with the counselor's work.

(B) psychological communication

Psychological communication between teachers and students is the key to students' hearts. Counselors should patiently and deeply understand each student, fully understand each student's hobbies, family situation, personality and personality differences, and then find students' problems. Counselors should have a humble opinion, find problems from the subtle changes between classes or students, prescribe the right medicine, and nip in the bud.

Counselors should learn to use "magnifying glass", "mirror" and "microscope" when treating students: "magnifying glass"-to explore the advantages of students; "Mirror"-removing students' shortcomings; "Microscope"-Show students' personality.

In the relationship between teachers and students in colleges and universities, the relationship between school counselors and students is the closest. Because of the frequent daily contact and communication opportunities between counselors and students, counselors play a vital role in the growth of college students. At the same time, counselors are the link and bridge between schools and students. They can communicate directly with college students, understand their psychology, find problems in time and solve them.

Counselors' targeted ideological and political work for college students plays a very important role in improving students' comprehensive quality. Counselors are important life mentors for college students. They do ordinary things with the spirit of gardeners every day, watering every student with hard sweat, just like spring rain, silently nourishing students and making them grow sturdily.

(3) Good idea

A good idea is a kind of "harmony" of the school, the personality equality between counselors and students, and the mutual understanding and trust between friends. A good view of teachers and students should have these characteristics: first, honesty and trustworthiness, mutual trustworthiness, and honesty is the first step in life; Second, mutual respect, mutual understanding and respect between counselors and students; The third is to adapt to the needs of the other party, and not to meet the needs of one party at the expense of the interests of the other party;

Fourth, independence. The independence of students comes from growth, and the independence of teachers comes from responsibility. The two complement each other and make progress together. The best relationship between counselors and students should be the relationship between teachers and friends. Counselors regard students as their own children, students can regard counselors as their relatives, counselors love students, and students understand counselors.