First, focus on the main points.
As a child's mother, when there are differences with her mother-in-law in parenting style, if it is a relatively small problem, she can choose to turn a blind eye and not care too much about her mother-in-law. For example, the mother-in-law likes to hold the child and let the child sleep by shaking, but some mothers like the child to sleep next to them. This is just another way, which has no influence on the child's future growth, so the mother doesn't need to care.
If a child usually likes to wear what clothes, or her mother-in-law dresses her children in clothes that she thinks look good, but when her mother doesn't like it, she will give in as a daughter-in-law. After all, everyone's aesthetics are different. It doesn't matter what clothes you wear as long as you don't let your child catch cold.
Mother-in-law, after all, has been there before, and she must be very experienced in raising children. As a daughter-in-law, she only needs to grasp the key points, such as children's education, children's daily eating habits and so on. Once she finds a mistake, she can correct it in time, so that she can get along well with her mother-in-law.
Second, correct mentality and respect the elderly.
When the mother-in-law takes care of the children, she sacrifices her old age to take care of the children's diet and daily life. For the elderly, taking care of children is also a tiring job, but the elderly are willing. At this time, as a daughter-in-law, we need to be grateful. When educating children at ordinary times, don't remind them to do what they can in front of their mother-in-law.
When I get along with my mother-in-law, I usually give in to her. As long as it doesn't affect the healthy growth of children, I won't say anything. Even if my mother-in-law has problems with her parenting style, I will communicate with her rationally and try to find a point acceptable to each other, so that there will be no contradiction with her mother-in-law and it will be conducive to family harmony.
Some old people may have bad living habits, or they can't agree with their mother-in-law's little habits because they live in different years. For example, the mother-in-law will feed the child with her own chopsticks, kiss the child's mouth with her own mouth and so on. At this time, as a daughter-in-law, she can communicate with the elderly alone afterwards and talk about the disadvantages of doing so. Mother-in-law will also pay attention to the children.
Third, let the life of the elderly be colorful.
When my mother-in-law and I take care of the children together, her mother-in-law not only revolves around the children every day, but also has her own life. I will dance square dance in the community, chat with my friends about my family, and sometimes take part in some activities in the community. If I am busy, I will let my mother-in-law take care of my children.
This will not only make the mother-in-law feel respected, but also avoid conflicts due to parenting problems. It will also make the life of the elderly rich and colorful, the elderly happy and the family harmonious.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a big problem since ancient times, especially in the way of parenting. It is normal to have differences. As long as they communicate well with each other, the elderly can have their own lives when they take care of their children. Don't turn around the children all day, so that the old man won't put all his thoughts on the children, and the contradiction with his wife will naturally be much less.