First, don't blame him too much. Children of this age are very disgusted with their parents' scolding. You should try to communicate with him rationally. So, what is puppy love? Puppy love refers to the behavior of underage men and women to establish a love relationship prematurely. /kloc-teenagers under 0/8 should not fall in love with middle school students, which belongs to puppy love. Teenagers' puppy love behavior has the following characteristics: 1. Teenagers who are hazy and puppy love don't know the development outcome of puppy love relationship. They are mainly eager to get in touch with the opposite sex alone, but they lack a clear understanding of how to form a family in the future, how to deal with the relationship between love and school, and how to distinguish friendship from love. 2. Contradictory teenagers with puppy love relationship are also full of contradictions. They want to contact, but they are afraid of being discovered. Pleasure and pain coexist in the process of puppy love. 3. Variant puppy love relationship is a kind of emotional relationship full of changes and extremely unstable. One-on-one puppy love relationship between teenagers lacks durability and generally does not last long. 4. The puppy love behaviors of different teenagers are obviously different. In terms of behavior, some teenagers' puppy love behavior is very hidden, and they convey their feelings through letters and telephone calls. But some teenagers are very open, and many occasions are like lovers. On the relationship level, the main activity of most teenagers who are in puppy love is to chat together and exchange unrequited love. From the perspective of interpersonal relationship, it is not beyond the normal relationship. People have deep relationships. Besides talking about feelings, they even have sex. In terms of age preference, girls like men who are older and more mature than themselves. At the same age, most girls are active. Boys like girls younger than themselves and show their masculinity in communication. The types of puppy love can be summarized into eight types: the first type is adoration, that is, the phenomenon of puppy love between teenagers due to mutual admiration. According to the different objects of admiration, it can be divided into: instrument type, that is, puppy love caused by loving each other's external appearance; Expertise is puppy love caused by envy of each other's abilities and expertise; Personality type is puppy love caused by liking each other's excellent personality. The second kind, curiosity, is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by curiosity about the opposite sex. Strong curiosity about the opposite sex is a natural psychological phenomenon of teenagers with the development of sexual consciousness. Because of physical development and sexual maturity, teenagers are prone to sexual impulses, become very sensitive to the opposite sex, and are eager to understand the psychology and physiology of the opposite sex and the attitude of the opposite sex towards themselves. In order to satisfy this curiosity, I want to establish a "love" relationship with heterosexual friends. The third kind, imitation, is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by imitating other people's behavior. The objects of imitation mainly come from social life, film and television works and newspapers and books. Fourth, conformity, that is, puppy love caused by the pressure of people around you. People around you refer to the same age group. The fifth type, pleasure type, is the phenomenon of puppy love in order to get a pleasant emotional experience. The intimate communication between men and women in adolescence often brings pleasant experiences to both sides, which will further promote the intimate communication between teenagers and gradually turn into puppy love. Sixth, compensatory, that is, in order to obtain emotional compensation and alleviate the frustrated puppy love phenomenon. Emotional compensation means that when teenagers are frustrated academically or emotionally, some teenagers hope to get emotional compensation from the opposite sex through puppy love out of competitive psychology or in order to get rid of emotional trauma. Seventh, the reverse type, that is, the phenomenon of puppy love caused by improper intervention by others in adolescent sexual intercourse. The typical psychology is "You forbid me to do this, but I will do it anyway". Under the action of rebellious psychology, normal heterosexual communication will rapidly develop into puppy love relationship. Eighth, pathological type, that is, puppy love caused by pathological reasons. In contemporary society, some teenagers are precocious, physically like adults, or psychologically precocious, or sexually perverted due to overnutrition, sexual hormones in some foods, or physical diseases, family inheritance and other reasons. All these will induce the phenomenon of puppy love among teenagers. To properly handle the problem of puppy love, we can start from the following aspects: (1) We should clearly recognize the harm of puppy love and overcome this immature feeling with reason. The most direct harm of puppy love is that it seriously interferes with learning. Because you think about the opposite sex you like all day and all night, it will make you have no mind to study and it is difficult to concentrate in class. Because you don't listen carefully, your academic performance will get worse and worse. Some people say that the attraction of career, the drive of love and the reaction of discrimination and oppression are the three major driving forces of life. Therefore, if puppy love is handled well, it can produce "synergy". Relevant statistics show that most of those who had intimate relationships in middle school neglected their studies and failed in love, and some even changed from "deep love" to "deep hatred". On the contrary, most teenagers who bury their love in their hearts and concentrate on their studies not only have a successful career, but also get the favor of heaven. Therefore, teenagers should take a long-term view and overcome their feelings with reason. The true meaning of persistence is to conquer yourself. If you can beat yourself, you will get rid of puppy love. (2) Pay attention to mental health, don't watch inappropriate newspapers and magazines, film and television programs, focus on learning, read more biographies of great men, cultivate willpower and set lofty goals. Some teenagers are in puppy love or unrequited love, and like to exaggerate their position in each other's minds, thinking that their words and deeds are related to themselves and even influenced by themselves. The other party's performance dropped and was criticized by the teacher, thinking that it was because of himself, so I felt sorry for the other party; The other person has been depressed or lost weight recently, thinking that this is because the other person misses himself, so he is very moved. This kind of psychology of teenagers is actually a kind of "self-love". In this yearning for the opposite sex, teenagers get nothing but poor academic performance! (3) We should correctly handle the relationship between puppy love and normal communication between boys and girls. Every adolescent boy and girl, with the gradual maturity of physiology, will begin to pay attention to the opposite sex students, hoping to get to know them and communicate with them. This is a normal psychological phenomenon. Teenagers' attachment to the opposite sex is not what some parents and teachers think, but a shameful thing. This has little to do with moral quality. Most teenagers have "puppy love" or "unrequited love" for their favorite opposite sex. The key is how teenagers correctly handle the relationship between puppy love and normal communication between boys and girls. Don't be overly sensitive, don't think that the opposite sex is in love with you, and don't always show love to others. (4) Take part in more group activities, distract attention, don't like the opposite sex alone, and don't associate with the opposite sex alone. By participating in meaningful group activities, you can cultivate your own sentiment, set up lofty ideals, and get help and friendship from your classmates. At the same time, doing so can distract your attention from puppy love and relieve your troubles. It can also calm your mind and dilute your strong feelings for the opposite sex you like. There is no puppy love now, and it may happen soon. Therefore, we should try to avoid communicating with students of the opposite sex alone, because the flame of teenagers' "love" will be ignited by the opposite sex at any time due to physiological and psychological factors. At that time, even if you wanted to destroy it, it was hard to do it. (5) Try to get rid of puppy love. When someone expresses love or courtship and has love for the opposite sex, the following methods can be adopted: ① Transfer method: transfer energy to study and replace immature feelings with the pleasure of exploring knowledge. Cold treatment: gradually alienate each other to cool the hot relationship. (3) Shelving method: stop the relationship, so that the hearts of both sides are not open to each other and maintain a pure and precious friendship. I wish your child get rid of inappropriate love as soon as possible and hope to adopt!