One day, the teacher of my normal college happened to have a little light rain. He is walking at the school gate. Because there will be an affiliated primary school next to the normal college, most of the children in the affiliated primary school are faculty members in colleges and universities. Just as a limousine drove by, my mother opened the door in a panic and opened the umbrella. She is going to pick up her daughter. Her daughter stood at the school gate and shouted at her mother, you idiot! Come now. Our teacher walked and stood there in surprise. As a result, the next sentence is even more surprising. Mother said, I'm sorry I'm late. Therefore, it is not accidental that children are willful and have a big temper. We spoil him and are arrogant, so the wrong dish will have a great influence in the future.
"University" said that "knowing the order is the shortest way", and this order is wrong, so no one taught him how to be a man when he was a child. Therefore, a dutiful son is a dutiful son called a dutiful son. What is a dutiful son now? Filial piety, so the direction and order of filial piety is wrong and upside down, so the children taught are of course upside down and full of situations. Therefore, to teach children filial piety, we must first put the dishes right. So, friends, will you get proper food when you go back today? I remember when I was a child, my parents opened the refrigerator and took out the fruit. Who should I give it to first? For my grandparents' sake, if my father took the wrong fruit, I wouldn't be sitting here today. So does the order matter? Important, if I take it wrong, I must be a black sheep now, right! To be a grandson and a great-grandson, you must spoil 3 thousand. How can you not fall?
Therefore, to show filial piety to children, children will naturally learn. Now, some mothers buy some very special and expensive fruits and hide them. My parents-in-law will take it out immediately when they sleep: Come on, son, I bought it for you specially. People are not as good as heaven, and think it hurts children. Who will the children buy fruit for in the future? Don't wait for your son, but give it to your wife. Therefore, we still have to follow the right path to teach our children so that they will not be selfish. Because when parents perform filial piety, they will awaken his original good roots, and upward is the next effect. In our memory, our parents never talked about filial piety, no, but why are we born with this attitude? This is an example.
My mother will go back to grandma's house to see her parents in two or three weeks. After I am eighteen, I can drive, so I will drive my mother back to her family. In fact, children's frequent contact with the elderly is of great help to them, so that they can respect the elderly and enjoy family happiness. I remember when I was a child, my grandfather saw me and immediately brought drinks. After I finished one cup, he immediately opened the second cup, and after the second cup, he opened the third cup. I deeply felt his love for this grandson, so we have special respect for these elders. Selfishness comes from our spoiling him. As long as we think about being parents and others now, children will learn this attitude.
The second kind of courtesy, why is it rude? What is the reason? Without teaching, it is difficult for children to learn manners if their parents don't contact their relatives. Politeness is taught in Disciples Rules in detail, "Eat or sit, old people first, young people later", so you must give it to the old people first. Many of our children who study the Bible must stand by and wait for their elders to sit down before eating. Very disciplined. Once after I sat on it, the child was still rummaging the table there. I was very surprised. I said, why does the table turn? They said that their teacher taught them that if there is a grain on the table, it is impolite not to point to the subject. Look how careful the child is and how subtle his respect is. Turn the table around so that these stripes don't point at me.
Dear friends, does your child know where the theme is? The seat facing you as soon as you enter the door is the main seat, because the host can see the whole situation from there. As a result, a company had a meeting with another cooperative company, and an employee walked in together. The employee immediately jumped to the main seat and sat down, and his boss was also sitting there. Such a big man says that everything about him is embarrassing. So if you don't even know this courtesy, will there be a future? So politeness is very important. A person is polite, which helps a lot in life. A person is rude, and his words and deeds are different, which causes many obstacles and obstacles that he doesn't know. Why do people look down on me? He doesn't know, it's all because he doesn't know how to think of others in every gesture.
A kindergarten owner invited a Guangdong client and some young teachers to dinner. Dear friends, what kind of meal do you want to invite customers in Guangdong to eat? Sure, order Cantonese food. As a result, these teachers are all from Hunan. Hunan people like spicy food, so while eating, these teachers are there: why is this so bad and that so bad? What is the purpose of the boss taking these employees to dinner? The purpose is to help him greet the guests, but the boss can't sit at the door and serve food, so these worldly wisdom can be formed and learned in courtesy. So who does the boss like to take out best? He is the best at picking vegetables and pouring tea, which is much easier. Can your child pour tea? Whether we can catch the food or not and handle it properly, everyone will be happy to see it. With this attitude and ability, we can do great things and not do bad things. This has nothing to do with academic qualifications, but with training and experience. So when the boss saw these young teachers, he was helpless. He just didn't help, but he still screwed up. Suddenly a spicy dish was served, and they were very happy. The boss immediately turned it over to the customer in front of him. As a result, these teachers immediately turned it away in a few seconds, and then quickly picked it up by themselves. As a result, the boss quickly transferred customers, and they turned back. Therefore, politeness is very important. If you don't learn well, you will make many mistakes.
Politeness must be taught from an early age. Respect for the elderly begins with diet, and this attitude of respect will be internalized into his mind. There is a child whose teacher happened to be watching the video of the lecture. When the child passed by, he bent low and didn't block the teacher at all. Has this movement been taught? Did the teacher teach him that the old man is watching TV and we should squat down and walk over? Impossible to teach! Then why can children do it? Formed by respect, with this respect, he will think what I can do to respect people. All these ceremonies have the most important purpose, which is to internalize his intentions, always respect them and always think of others. Or walking, the same is true. A child happened to go to find a friend with his mother, who was still on the phone. He said to his mother, mom, sit down. His mother said you should sit down first, and he took another look at his mother: Mom, sit down! What are you doing as a child, telling you to sit down, so wordy? Mom, I can't sit without you; "Old people stand, young people don't sit, old people sit, and life is sitting." What should a mother do at this time? Sit down quickly; Don't say that your teacher teaches the same thing. It doesn't matter if you sit down now. The teacher taught for nothing. You have to cooperate with the teacher and cultivate his virtue.
"Long call, that is, generation call". In ancient times, because it was a big family, guests might come to their uncle. As younger generations, we should take the initiative to call our elders to meet our guests. Is it possible for guests to find it by themselves? That would be rude. It is impolite for us to receive guests ourselves. Let's look at it now. What will he do when a guest comes home and the child is watching TV? Mom, aunt wants to see you. Shouting loudly, he continued to watch his TV, and then the guest stood there wondering what to do. Is that so? Do you want to teach? Be cautious at first, and the sensitivity of education is very important. No child is born selfish, rude and lazy. Have you ever seen a child who doesn't want to move after birth? Then go to see a doctor. You must be ill. Children are alive and kicking, how can they be lazy? Failure to teach well at first will lead to the formation of bad habits in the future. So be sensitive and observe whether he has filial piety, respect and love. As long as you stay away from this intention, you should guide him as soon as possible.
Therefore, we should learn how to receive guests, not only at home, at school, but also at the company. We are at school and other teachers come to see us. When the students saw us, they also amplified their voices: Teacher, the teacher in the next class is looking for you. This is rude. In the company, you will say: Manager, is anyone looking for you? The manager said you needn't come tomorrow. Or if the guest comes and the manager is in a meeting, you can say at once: the manager is inside, go by yourself. The guest came in and was in a meeting. The manager was abrupt to see if he wanted to be received.
So it is very important to handle the advance and retreat. We will train our children. At this time, we don't need to talk about this. Etiquette education should be practiced by him. He taught him to greet guests when they came, invited them to sit down, poured him a cup of hot tea after they sat down, and then called his parents and elders to meet the guests. On that day, several children finished their studies, and an aunt came at lunch. On hearing the doorbell ring, all six people raised their hands: I want to answer it. Six people were eager to try, so they were deadlocked and all six received it. Suddenly the door opened and all six children bowed to say hello to the guests. As a result, my aunt was afraid to enter the house. She said she was flattered. She said that she had never received such a grand reception. If the next generation of children are like this, the country will have great hope. As a result, as soon as you enter the door, you should also teach them to put slippers in the position where guests can put them on immediately when they walk in, so that kindness can be implemented in every bit of life. When receiving guests, you should also think that if he wants to spend the night at home today, he may forget some daily necessities in a hurry, and then he will be embarrassed to take them away from you. You should prepare a towel and toothpaste with him. He brought it, even if it is useless, friends will think that you are thinking about him everywhere, friendship is getting deeper and deeper invisibly, and the gift will not be lost. This is reception.
As soon as the guest comes in, ask her to sit down and bring a cup of tea: Aunt, please have a cup of tea. Wait a minute, I'll call my mother. This is a family reception; The same is true in the company. When we can cope with the advance and retreat in this way, others' trust in us will be higher and higher, and children will do one thing well from beginning to end, and their sense of responsibility will be enhanced, and they will also finish what they started. When the elders at home are away, he will take the initiative to come back, and when he is away, he will call someone. Be sure to come back and finish. My mother is not here. One of my elders is not here, uncle. what can I do for you? Do you want to tell me? I will tell my elder when he comes back. Or if you are in a hurry, what is my father's phone number? You can contact him directly, and he can get things done. How many children did you ask him to call someone and finally disappeared? Then I asked him if I didn't ask you to call the teacher. Why did you disappear? He said he couldn't find it, and he didn't come back to finish it. Whether a child can finish what he started is all in the dribs and drabs of life. We should pay attention to it and remind it.
Besides the courtesy of meeting and answering the phone, you should also be polite when answering the phone, so politeness must be implemented in your life, and respect must always be mentioned. Raise your hand if you have trained your child to answer the phone? This is very important. It is very likely that your good reputation outside was ruined by your children. Call. Is your mother here? No, where to? I don't know, the old man still wants to talk, and the phone has hung up, which will make him feel rude; This friend is a good man, how can he teach his children like this? So be polite when answering the phone. Pick up the phone: hello, this is XXX, who are you looking for? Is your mother here? My mother is here. A moment, please. I'll get her. Go find her at once. I'm sorry if my mother is not here, but my mother is not here now. Where can I find her? what can I do for you? Can I take a message for you? Or if you are in a hurry, you can call my mother on her cell phone. What's the phone number? Children naturally know how to handle things and how to handle things. Strangely, the more polite a person is, the more willing he is to do so. So this is a reception gift.
There is also the etiquette of greeting. When people meet, the etiquette in China is to respect each other, while the etiquette in the West is to shake hands. Dear friends, how to shake hands? We should also pay attention to and teach this. Do any friends want to come out and demonstrate? Let's cooperate. Come on, let's do it. Teacher Yang will come. When we met, I respected China's etiquette and paid my respects. Otherwise, I happen to have dirty hands and am embarrassed to shake hands. The etiquette of shaking hands should first pay attention to the eyes. For example, when shaking hands, hello, hello. Is that polite? On many occasions, a bunch of people came to shake hands with him. How does the other person feel when shaking hands here and there? Deal with it, so pay attention to your eyes.
Again, this grip is very important. Hello, hello, (normal, it doesn't matter), do you always give people a grip like this, as if to touch it, hello, hello, no strength; Ok, ok, ok, is this the case? What's this feeling? Not sincere, so the grip should be moderate. Hello, hello. Can you hold it too hard? This will make the other person very painful, so the grip strength should be moderate. It's not too late to hug, don't hug all the time. Hello, hello, he doesn't even know whether you want to let go or not. Especially when you see beautiful girls, you can't hold them all the time, otherwise people won't dare to come next time. Also, this grip is in a moderate position. Don't hold it too much in and out. It's very strange. This is a handshake. Pay attention to your eyes, strength and position. Ok, let's clap for teacher Yang. This is something to pay attention to when shaking hands.
Again, the order of shaking hands is also very important. Should the elder reach out first or the younger generation reach out and shake hands first? Is it a man or a woman who reaches out first? You should shake hands many times. Is the officer or the subordinate reaching out first? Well, we can't vote democratically at this time. In fact, when you calm down, you can deduce etiquette. For example, for boys and girls, it is not very embarrassing for you to reach out to girls first, so it is more appropriate for girls to reach out first. When you see a girl who doesn't put out all her hands, you will be there if others don't. It's embarrassing. Moreover, the chief executive has a high status and may face many people every day. We should not take the initiative to reach out. We just stand aside. After all, we are elders and officers. We just smile and bow. It's not rude for the Chief Executive to extend his hand, otherwise he doesn't know who you are. If the Chief Executive is any more arrogant, it will be embarrassing if you stretch out your hand and retract it. Therefore, it is a natural reaction that the official reaches out first and the elder reaches out first.
After shaking hands, the introduction will not be rude, and people will get along with each other. When you know each other, you should take the initiative to introduce each other. If you don't introduce yourself, you won't know how to address each other that day. Awkward. Is the order of introduction elder to younger, or younger to elder? Shall I introduce the man to the woman first, or the woman to the man first? Dear friends, are you crazy now? It is correct to introduce the guests to the host. In fact, this order is just the opposite of shaking hands, introducing the younger generation to the elders. Actually, let's think about it. You have a friend today. Will you bring your father? Dad, come on, I'll introduce you to a classmate. Isn't that weird? Come on, sir, let me introduce you to a friend of mine. That's rude. Therefore, the elders must be our junior to greet the elders, and the subordinates must introduce them to the superiors. Both men and women are like this. It must be a courtesy for a man to introduce himself to a woman.
Come again, when we meet, we will also hand over our business cards. We also pay attention to this courtesy. Many people took out their business cards. Come on, one for you, one for me and one for him. Will others attach great importance to your issuing business cards like this? No, so politeness means respecting yourself in addition to respecting others. The so-called self-esteem means that you respect yourself, and then others respect you. Self-esteem means that others value you. As the saying goes, "If you don't respect yourself, you will be insulted by others, so why should a person let others point fingers?" He may even dress too casually. "Disciples' Rules" says that "the crown should be straight, the knot should be tied, and socks and shoes should matter." In fact, we make ourselves clean and tidy, that is, we respect others, and we can't lose this gift. If I wear a T-shirt on the stage today, do you want to listen to me? Then stop talking.
So handing out business cards is the same. You should respect yourself and others. Pass the business card with both hands, and the other person can see it as soon as he takes it. You don't want to use it backwards. It's strange that he should hold it upside down, or look at it this way. When we receive the business card, you should immediately see his surname, for example, his surname is Chen, followed by the manager. Hello, Manager Chen. Once you call this name, you will get a good first impression. Don't put it in your pocket at once, then say his last name at the beginning of eating, and then pick it up and have a look. That's rude, so it will make people feel comfortable to deal with the advance and retreat. Don't put a famous film on the table, and then the vegetable soup falls down when you are picking vegetables; Or someone took it and put it on a chair, and they all sat down. He saw that his business card was insulted by vegetable soup, so can this business be done? It is out of the question. Therefore, in our life, we should learn more, which is teaching.
A mother mentioned that when she was a child, she always cut a plate of fruit to invite guests. Once, a guest happened to come and she was not at home. Her daughter is in the third grade. As a result, when she came in, she saw the guests and a plate of fruit on the table. Who did this? Her daughter did it, so this example is very important. Laziness again. How is laziness caused? We all know that children are active when they are young. When my nephew was almost two years old, his mother was cleaning the table once. He ran over and just after she left, he picked up a rag and wiped it. Does he want to clean the table? Imitation, I think it's fun. As a result, as soon as his mother came, she told him, Xiao Wei, it's filial to know how to help her mother at such a young age. As soon as the child listened, he wiped it hard, and the child was encouraged. Then he said to him, as long as you can clean the four corners again, the table will be cleaned. Not only affirm his filial piety, but also teach him how to do things. Therefore, when children are young, they will be responsible for their own lives and cherish cleanliness, so they will not be lazy.
The first sentence of "Zhu Zi's Family Instructions" mentioned, "At dawn, you should clean the court, keep it clean inside and outside, rest when you are faint, and follow the rules when you close the door." Who has worked in life before? What children want to do is diligence. Mr. Zeng Guofan mentioned that it depends on three things: the first thing is what time to sleep in the morning. If everyone sleeps late, the family style will fail, and sleeping so late will become more and more lazy and comfortable; The second thing is to see if the children have done housework. Mr Zeng Guofan was the governor of four provinces. In the Qing dynasty, no one in the Han people was older than him, but the children did the housework not for the servants, but by themselves. There are many benefits of labor, which we will analyze later. Mr. Zeng Guofan said that the third is to see if future generations can read sage books. Therefore, "although children and grandchildren are stupid, they must read the scriptures." Only by reading the Bible can we distinguish right from wrong, good from evil.
Nowadays, many parents educate their children that you just need to read the book well and do nothing else, which is harmful to children. Let's see the difference between doing housework and not doing housework. I will think about it, and it is the students who have made me. As it happens, I have a student. From the last semester of Grade One to the next semester of Grade Six, there is not a time when his grades are not the first. Dear friends, is such a child excellent? That's great. However, the sweeping work assigned to her is lazy and eloquent, which will give you many excuses, but the students complained a lot, everyone was dissatisfied and the teacher was eccentric. At this time, we will deal with it. It's hard for people to commit crimes. Class is like taking a small country, and it also needs to calm people's hearts, so I called her mother. Of course, your speech must be artistic. You can't speak ill of your daughter from the beginning, then she can't accept it.
Therefore, we have a rule when talking with people. When we meet people, we should know how to encourage them first, praise them first, praise them two or three times, and then criticize them, so that their hearts can bear it better. So I first affirmed her daughter's contribution to the class during this time. Then I didn't directly say that her daughter was lazy and didn't do sweeping. We just told our parents that doing housework has many advantages. The first advantage is good health. Many young girls are sick and tired when they are in their twenties, and they have no strength to do anything. Therefore, we can see that many 80-year-old women are still plowing with hoes. Who is in good health? Then why is that old woman in such good health? Working since childhood, my muscles are smooth, my body has been tempered, and my body has grown up, so in fact, my fortune is interdependent.
I often tell my father that you have a good life and we have a bad life. They were all surprised. When we were young, you were lucky that the food was not as good as yours. What I said is wrong, because you were bitter when you were young, you often worked, and you were so strong. So my father is in his sixties and much stronger than me. Every time I go out with my parents, when I drive, my father will ask me: Do you want to change? Are you tired? My father won't get tired after driving for hours. A friend said: You are very filial and live with your parents. I feel ashamed. I don't take care of my parents at all, but my parents take care of me. Therefore, working more will make your body and blood healthy. This is the first one. How much does physical health affect? A lifetime.
People who work hard will deeply feel the efforts of others. Why don't children know how to be grateful now? You did everything for him, and he thought it was right. What is there to be grateful for? He is angry with you instead of doing it. There was a mother whose children went to junior high school. She filled his kettle with water every day and brought it to class for decades. Suddenly one day she took it a little late and gave it to her son. After taking it, her son scolded her: I'm going to be late, it's all your fault. She was suddenly awakened by scolding. He should do it by himself. As a result, I help him every day He didn't thank me and scolded me, saying that I made him late, so my mother woke up and stopped serving him. As a result, her children grew up quickly, because they said they would cook their own lunch after coming back, and now her children are good at cooking lunch. So if you help your child too much, he will grow less.
We saw that people in the past were teenagers and knew all kinds of martial arts. Why? From practice. Nowadays, many people get married and may not be able to cook. Of course, boys should also learn to cook, otherwise no one at home can cook. Where can we eat every day? What happens when you eat out, eat out, and eat for a long time? When I got sick, it was oily and salty outside, and my cholesterol was high. I went to Haikou by myself. After I went there, I lived alone. I had to cook, wash clothes and mop the floor by myself, and I had to do all the housework at home by myself. Who will suddenly come to mind when I mop the floor? Suddenly I will think of a song called "Only Mom is Good in the World", and my gratitude will come out. So you let your children mop the floor. He said it was hard to mop the floor. As a result, I thought that my mother had to go to work every day, cook after work and do so many things. My mother didn't shout tired either. I was tired when I did this, and I had respect for my mother. If you don't let him do it since he was a child, suddenly he is in high school, and one day there is nothing you can do. Mom is so tired, you are still watching TV and don't come to help. Your son looks at you helplessly and innocently, and then continues to watch his TV. There is nothing you can do at this time.
Many of our teachers will tell our children that it is very hard for our mothers to give birth to us. We should first think of thanking our parents for our birthdays, instead of asking for a lot of gifts and cakes. A little girl is in the fourth grade. She was also very educated after listening to it. She went back and decided to cook for her mother, so she fried a cucumber. As soon as I entered the kitchen, I was not tall enough, so I moved a chair and stood up. So if you ask your child to do something, his problem-solving ability is in the process of doing it, and he will find a way. After moving the chair, the oil poured and sprayed up. She was afraid, so she put a big hand on her hand and continued to fry cucumbers. When you pour the cucumber, the oil is sprayed higher. She was anxious to find her father's helmet and put it on her head. This is called armed to the teeth, fried cucumber. Did the child's mood change when she took out the cucumber dish, although it was only for a moment? Will she be picky about her mother's cooking in the future? No, she knows it's not easy, so she'll appreciate it.