Learn to endure temporary discomfort, trouble, and even necessary pain. Therefore, we must stop the following behaviors of children in time, never be soft, and never turn tolerance into connivance-
(1) stealing
The child shows you a pair of pocket crystal shoes and tells you that they were picked up from the floor of the child's house.
The way to reach the standard: take the child to return the goods immediately, and let him apologize in person: "I'm sorry, I took your things home to play, and now I will return them to you." Please forgive me. " Let children learn to admit their mistakes bravely with the help of the process of returning things to their original owners.
3, 4-year-old children have no concept of "real right" and sense of belonging. They think that what they like and want is their own. In this regard, parents should never adopt the attitude of "never again". Remember an old saying: don't do it because of small kindness, don't do it because of small evil. ?
(2) don't do it.
The children were playing with sand, and one of them caught his friend's toy bulldozer, but it didn't work. He bit the other's little hand in one bite. And the bulldozer took care of it.
Practice of reaching the standard: Dr. Dong Jinyu, a family of parenting education, believes that parents must seriously criticize the biting child and let him know that biting is wrong and has caused harm to the child, and must apologize in person; At the same time, let him know that if the child is unwilling to lend him toys to play with, he should learn to accept this disappointment.
In addition to criticism and reasoning, a certain punishment is essential, and the opposite treatment is presented to him: caring for and comforting the bitten child. Let children understand that attacking others is not only impossible, but also won't get any benefits, and then consciously abandon the attack.
③ Should I sleep?
It's time to go to bed at night 10, but the children are spreading dolls and plush toys on the bed.
The way to reach the standard: point to the cartoon wall clock on the wall to signal that the child should go to bed and tell him to rest on time to ensure that he is not late for kindergarten the next day. No child will take the initiative to go to bed, and they will never have enough fun.
If parents allow their children to stay up late again and again, it will be difficult to develop regular work and rest and good living habits. Therefore, no matter what reason the child is looking for, parents must find ways to refuse.
You can't walk when you see toys?
In the supermarket, you refused to buy Barbie dolls, but your daughter clung to them tightly and sat on the ground no matter how you explained it.
The way to reach the standard: show your attitude to your child: don't buy toys today, because you just bought a Barbie doll not long ago.
If the child doesn't listen to his parents and makes trouble without reason, he might as well ignore it and continue to choose other items, or pretend to leave and let the child sit on the ground and cry. Compromise is unwise, otherwise it will aggravate the child's willfulness.
After the children calm down, let them know that sensible children are attractive, and the result of splashing water and crying is nothing and annoying.
⑤ Cover up the truth with "lies"
8-year-old children smashed vases with martial arts. When mom asked, he said it was the cat at home.
Standard practice: Encourage children to tell the truth: "Tell mom, what's going on?" It's not terrible to drop the vase, it's terrible not to admit it. Mothers like children who are honest and responsible for their actions. "In order to dispel the child's concerns and encourage him to tell the truth,' hug' him and praise him for the first time.
Children over the age of 6 or 7 know that lying is wrong, but they do it to escape punishment. If you believe what he said, or even if you don't, you won't pursue it, which is equivalent to encouraging this bad habit, so that children are likely to get deeper and deeper in the quagmire of lies.