An adult looks cunning, indulgent and uncontrollable, mainly because of improper parental discipline.

Excessive indulgence will make children have no choice when choosing playmates, which may lead to various bad habits, and sometimes they may learn some bad habits. It is often seen that some unruly children gather on the roadside to gamble or abuse each other. Many times, I tried to convince these children and even tried to stop them.

I always feel sad when I see such a scene. They could have received a good education and become polite and common-sense children, but they didn't.

These children are very ignorant and often throw stones at each other, which leads to bleeding, injury and even broken eyes and disability. What a terrible thing! ? Even throwing snowballs, some children will choose the kind of frozen snowballs like stones to deliberately hurt each other.

Seeing children who are blind, lacking nose, missing fingers and broken feet is mostly due to injuries while playing. This often scares me.

Carl used to play with a group of friends. When I found those children very rude, I never let him be with them again. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with these children, because after all, children are not sensible and often do stupid things without the correct guidance of adults. Andy is a strong boy, just like the leader of a group of children. He has prestige, wisdom and very strong organizational skills. He often plays war games with younger children.

Maybe Andy was born with this gift. He managed the army in good order. But one day, the hero was finally defeated by the enemy.

That day, Andy divided his friends into two parts to play castle games. Andy led five or six children to guard the castle, and several others pretended to be enemies attacking the city.

Andy waved his sword-a stick, and stood bravely on a carriage pulling goods. He rested on his hips with one hand and a sword in his hand. He stepped on the high horse wheel and ordered his companion: "Down with the enemy …" It looked like a great hero.

At that time, his son Carl was among them. He fought alongside Andy. The enemy hurled stones and branches at them. Andy knocked them down one by one with his sword.

"Be sure to hold the castle." This is the unanimous idea of Andy and his partners. But the enemy's charge became more and more fierce, and they finally could not hold back.

One of the enemies, probably their leader, rushed into the carriage and kicked Andy in the back when he wasn't looking. Andy let out a cry and fell off the carriage.

At that time, I was receiving a guest at home, and I talked with this guest from afar about educating children. Carl ran home in a panic, but before he entered the door, he shouted in horror:

"Dad, this is not good ... something's wrong."

Judging from my son's expression, I know something unusual must have happened.

Led by my son, my guests and I arrived at the scene of the accident. I will never forget that scene, even my guests were frightened.

When Andy fell from the carriage, he just stepped on the wooden handle of a sickle on the ground. Coincidentally, the sickle bounced off the ground and the blade was inserted into Andy's thigh.

Andy fell to the ground, screaming in pain. No child dares to take off his sickle. Yes, it's terrible. Andy's legs are covered with blood. ...

"Andy is really a hero." Carl said this afterwards.

"Son, do you really think Andy is a hero?"

"Yes, he was injured to protect the castle. He is very brave. " Carl's eyes showed admiration.

"No, son, Andy is not a hero. As for the child who pushed Andy out of the car, he didn't even know. "

"Dad, didn't you say you should be brave? Isn't Andy very brave? "

At this time, I found that children are too simple to tell what to do and what not to do.

"Son, what are you doing today?"

"We are playing the game of attacking the castle."

"By the way, this is just a game. That's not a real battle. " I grasped the word "game" to enlighten Carl and let him distinguish between what is true and what is false.

"Carl, I know which heroes you all like, but heroes don't mean recklessness, let alone reckless fighting."

I stroked my son's head and told him some truth carefully.

"You are all good partners. If you are just playing games, why do you really want to play? Zhezi's war games can easily turn friends into enemies. You see, Andy will probably hold a grudge against the child who pushed him down forever, and maybe Andy will go after him. I don't want hatred between you and your friends. Hatred produces evil. "

"But Andy is really brave." Carl still doesn't understand the truth.

"I believe he is a brave boy and very clever. But what if you just kill and kill? Today, I cut my leg with a sickle. Tomorrow, I may be hit by a stone and my arm will be broken backstage. What good results will there be? An injured child can do nothing when he grows up. If he wants to be a general, he should know how to protect himself from now on. How can a man without arms and legs lead the army to fight against the enemy? "

"You are a child, can't grasp the discretion of the game. You know, the game is just a game. You can't do it with a real gun. If one day you really go to the battlefield and dare to fight with the enemy, you are a real hero. "

"Dad, I get it."

Children's harm in the game comes from their ignorance. If parents can't guide carefully, the result is often unpredictable.

I often warn Carl not to take part in any children's fights, which is more serious than playing games. Not only does it harm the body, but it also leaves an unhealthy shadow in the young mind of the child.

Nothing in the world is more terrible than generating hatred in children's hearts. Hatred can make a person abuse his parents, despise everyone around him, and be doubly isolated.

Some children don't know right and wrong, good and evil because they don't get the right family education. Because their parents didn't give them good guidance in childhood, they were idle and bored. They didn't know there were many beautiful things in the world, didn't know reading, didn't know the charm of books, and didn't get happiness from literature and art.

How can they spend their childhood without proper guidance? Some children do nothing all day, some children take pleasure in fighting and bullying others, and some children are immersed in evil gambling. I don't see any bright future for these children.

These children are unfortunate because they are not well educated by their parents. Without a good family, they can have a meaningful and wonderful childhood.

Some people will say that a child's character and talent are innate. They once said, "My children are too bad to learn well. It's no use teaching him. " Every time I hear this, I feel very sad. If you don't trust your children, what good development will the weak children have?

I can tell such parents rudely: you are not worthy of being parents. The children themselves are good, and all their faults are because of you.

For the above reasons, I strictly ask Carl to choose a companion. I try to combine his children with the same hobbies. They can discuss a problem together and learn something good from each other.

I often read poetry with a child, play a role in a play, and sometimes argue about a problem. Whenever this time, I won't bother them, and I'm glad about it.

It is generally believed that children must play with children. Otherwise, children will find life boring, depressed and withdrawn.

I don't think so, but I gave in to most pressure and made some compromises. It's best to discuss with his wife and choose two little girls as his son's playmates.

But since Carl played games with the little girl, he began to become headstrong. He never lied, and even began to use some vulgar language, becoming self-righteous and arrogant. This change worries me.

I observed the situation when my son was playing with two little friends, and found that these two little girls followed him with everything, which made him have some changes.

To this end, I told the little girls not to listen to Carl. If Carl thinks he is self-righteous, just tell us. But to no avail, in the end we had to give up letting them play with Carl.

Why is this? I carefully analyzed the reasons afterwards.

First of all, they are well-educated children. Some people may feel that their good education will have some good influence on each other. In fact, everyone is competitive, not to mention children.

Both girls can sing and dance, and so can Carl. This is a question of who can do it well. Whenever two girls dance, Carl always tells them what to do, saying that they don't move properly and have bad posture. Then the girls will ask him to perform. Carl will jump up without hesitation. Because he is a boy, his movements are a little hard, not as soft and elegant as girls. At this time, girls will say that he dances too ugly.

This creates a contradiction.

As a result, the son and the girls quarreled fiercely. It would be better to argue about other issues, but they have their own views on dance. The son said that dancing should be powerful, and the girl said that dancing should be soft.

Because their knowledge and vocabulary are limited, it depends on who is faster and whose voice is louder. Carl is a boy. His tough tone often makes girls give up in arguments. Even if they are not satisfied, they can't find any reason to convince Carl.

Carl's victory was completely overwhelming. This will make him feel that girls are not as good as him, and his sense of superiority will arise. But in fact, he doesn't understand that his victory is not that he is better than them in knowledge.

In this wrong feeling, he became self-righteous and thought he knew everything.

And because he won many arguments, his son gradually looked down on his companions and thought that their intelligence was not as good as his own.

I found that my son began to lie in many cases to convince the girls that their argument went beyond the problem itself. In order to win, the son began to cheat them by hook or by crook, and even made up some stories.

These two girls, like Carl, are children with limited knowledge. Simple children are easy to be deceived, and potential dangers follow.

On the one hand, Carl changed from a liar to a liar. He cheated not for money, nor for anything else, but to win an argument. This will make him feel that cheating can help him get everything he wants, and this bad habit will endanger his future.

On the other hand, two girls became victims. They got the wrong knowledge from Carl, which will also have a bad influence on their future.

Because Carl has a certain knowledge, plus his imposing manner and lying tricks, he can get the upper hand anyway.

In this way, Carl made two girls admire him. Finally, they just listened to Carl and followed him.

Finally, Carl felt that he could boss them around at will, and often called them stupid and stupid, which led to some rude words.

to be continued ...