For a mother, one of the most comforting things in the world is that the other half loves the baby deeply. But sometimes, this is also the biggest headache for mothers. That is to say, when disciplining children by themselves, the other half who loves the baby not only has the strength to protect the baby, but also has the strength to pit the mother and collude with the baby to punish the "wicked" mother. Of course, sometimes, this "little man" is dad.
In Xiaoxiao's family, this wicked man is his mother. In the eyes of smiling, my mother will always be the unlovable woman who loves to quarrel with herself. Once in winter, I smiled and wanted to eat ice cream, but my mother didn't agree. Pear flower with wronged smile brought rain, eagerly grilled ice cream cabinet, dad relented, smiled and hugged, and buy buy bought it. Mom doesn't want to compromise, not as fast as dad, and the ice cream has reached the baby's mouth. It's too late to buy now.
Another time, I smiled mischievously and deliberately ran to the dining table to pee without taking off my pants. Still looking smug, I asked my parents to come and see my "labor achievements". Looking at the dining table destroyed by this Xiong Haizi, I can't bear to look straight.
No matter how good her temper is, my mother can't help it. This behavior is really bad. So I asked to smile and not change my pants. I have to clean the table with my mother first. This guy is not kidding at first sight. It's really uncomfortable to wear wet and sticky pants. The same trick, crying, and defending that it was not intentional.
The crying attracted my father, and as expected, my father began to unite with Eva again, as close as enemies. He picked her up, smiled and muttered, "She's bothering you. Kick her."
There are too many such things. Children seem to be getting closer and closer to their fathers, but only when they do something wrong. Mothers' discipline is becoming more and more indifferent and superficial, and they tend to develop like Xiong Haizi. Let mom be helpless and angry.
Like smiling mothers, many people will encounter this problem when educating their children. When you are educating your children, someone will always come out to slander you. This person is sometimes his father, sometimes his mother, sometimes his grandparents at home, and sometimes his grandparents.
So many strength nurses are actually the real strength pit baby. First, let children not realize their mistakes, let alone correct them. Second, the disciplinarian has no authority in front of the children, so it can be said that he can not listen. There will be no authoritative role in the family in the future, let alone no rules. Third, children can't tell right from wrong. This is the source of willful connivance, because it is always allowed.
The correct way is to treat the child as an independent individual based on the principle of doing things instead of people. He needs to realize what he has done and be responsible for his actions.
It is correct and objective to be a disciplined person. Other members of the family can do their own thing, don't make trouble. If you really have no choice, please support the right side, not who is small and who is right. If you really care about your children, be a quiet audience.
If the disciplinarian over-interprets the child's behavior, such as the child accidentally soiling clothes and breaking dishes, it will be repaired. Welcome to destroy Taiwan Province at this time. I have seen some remarks that in order to maintain the authority of the disciplinarian and unify the standards, even if it is wrong, it is best to communicate privately.
In fact, children need to distinguish right from wrong and treat them equally. When children are treated unfairly, someone will come out to defend justice, which will help children establish a correct view of right and wrong and establish rules.