On psychological differences between men and women.
Sexual psychological differences between men and women and mate selection psychology
abstract
Both humans and animals are handed down from the previous generation. As for sex, it is innate. Teenagers know nothing about sex. They are slowly exploring and looking for excitement. It is said that sex can be exciting and satisfying. But the psychological differences between men and women are different, and there are many factors.
Sexual psychology, concept of mate selection
Women, love is the main psychological factor of female sexual desire. In women's hearts, warm love and warmth often rank first. The unhappiness in daily life has a great influence on women's sexual desire. For example, work career is not smooth, quarreling with husband, disobedient children, busy housework and so on. , will destroy women's emotions, distract women's energy, inhibit the nerves that improve the sensitivity of stimulation, thus affecting the production of sexual desire. The psychological state of women in sexual life is much more complicated than that of men. They are usually shy, shy and embarrassed. Therefore, women's sexual desire is often unable to be expressed emotionally, reasonably and fully. Moreover, women's sexual desire and impulse are slower than men's, so women need to have a stage of sexual preparation and caressing before sex. Without this stage, it is difficult for women to reach orgasm in sexual life, but they will feel disgusted. Vision does not stimulate women's sexual desire like men. Women's exposed sex organs can quickly stimulate men's sexual desire and accelerate the erection of men's penis, while men's exposed sex organs will not stimulate most women, on the contrary, sometimes hinder women's sexual desire. When excited, it has a stronger effect on women's sense of touch than men's. Therefore, in sexual life, women are particularly eager for their husbands to kiss and touch sexy parts.
Speaking of mate selection psychology. Women's mate selection conditions are more specific and demanding, and they pay more attention to practical problems, especially economic aspects. Many women are very dependent and enjoy success. They always want to find a man with status, talent and money. Women pay more attention to men's figure, temperament, personality, talent and so on. And the rational color is strong. They are more interested in a man's personality and spirit than his appearance and figure, and they pay more attention to his inner qualities. Women are easily influenced by peers and social trends. Women often have the psychology of keeping up with the joneses when choosing a spouse, which is mostly due to women's self-esteem and vanity. For example,
Men, from a psychological point of view, are usually in a dominant position, more analytical, more extroverted and more active than women. Especially near the climax, his movements become more and more active and urgent. Men's sexual requirements, after entering maturity, need a variety of sexual intercourse except sexual intercourse, such as kissing, cuddling, caressing, talking and so on. ? Love? Play an important role in men's sexual life. Only sexual intercourse based on love is a truly happy combination. In other words, the deeper the feelings, the stronger the pleasure of sexual intercourse. Men also have a preparation process before sexual intercourse. It is generally believed that men can have sex at any time, but in fact, most men are extremely interested in intimate behavior before intercourse. Men's mate selection conditions are becoming more and more relaxed. Most women are required to be beautiful, gentle, emotional and aesthetic, and their spouse selection is more realistic and can be adjusted at any time.
refer to
1, Liu Liu,? Healthy sexual psychological orientation of men and women? Modern Health B, No.4, 2004.
2. Tianya community
On the second psychological difference between men and women
Similarities and differences between men and women's psychology
Psychological similarities and differences between men and women In daily life, there are often some sayings: Women have better language skills than men? ,? Men are rational, women are emotional? ,? Women have a poor sense of direction? Wait a minute. The differences between men and women are innate in physical characteristics, but are these psychological differences in personality, thinking and feelings also innate? This has always been a controversial issue.
One of Freud's famous ideas is that. Anatomyisdestiny？ That is, our main character is determined by gender. This conclusion is still controversial. As we know, certain psychological characteristics tend to appear more easily in a certain gender, but rarely in the opposite sex (for example, men cry less). It is true that there are some male characteristics and female characteristics in each of us. And it seems that as women become more and more independent economically and their social status gradually improves, the psychological difference between men and women in modern society seems to be getting smaller and smaller. Obviously, women will have more psychological characteristics unique to men in the traditional sense; At the same time, men will have more psychological characteristics of traditional women, which is an irresistible trend.
There is no doubt that human nature has strong plasticity, and our psychological characteristics will constantly change with the development of society. However, the differences in psychological characteristics between men and women caused by the fundamental physiological differences between men and women will never completely disappear or blend. After all, a man can never be a mother. For most men, they never want to be the object of reproduction. This may be Freud's original intention.
There are many psychological differences between men and women. For example, most men are most worried about not looking like men. So men have been trying to prove that they look like men. ? Saving face? 、? Do men cry lightly? Is the best portrayal of it. Most women are most worried about looking like women, so women have been trying to prove their worth far more than that.
Among many differences, the most typical psychological differences between men and women mainly include:
1. Women's self-awareness is usually much stronger than that of men. Men generally don't pay as much attention to what the outside world thinks of them as women do. So far, we have come to the conclusion that women are more easily influenced by others than men.
2. The reaction of men under pressure is usually that they like to think about solutions to problems alone; On the other hand, women prefer to discuss her problems with others in the same situation.
Gifts often have completely different meanings for men and women. Men usually only regard gifts as an object and have no special other representative significance. For women, gifts usually exceed the original value of the items. In their subconscious, gifts are often humanized, a symbol of love and a standard to measure how deep love is.
Women usually like to announce their engagement or marriage to the outside world, such as family, friends or colleagues, while men do much less. For women, marriage is the beginning of a new life and the last reunion of lovers. For men, marriage often has different meanings. It means more responsibility, obligation, hard work and work-even often just work, not play. From this perspective, we may infer why many men don't want to get married at all.
Of course, apart from differences, men and women also have many psychological similarities. Jung's personality analysis theory holds that there is a female component in the male body, that is, Anima; There is also a male component in women called animus. The existence of Anima and animus is the basis of mutual understanding between men and women. Because there is only similarity between the two sexes, there is the basis and possibility of further understanding of personality. ? A woman's heart, looking for a needle in a haystack? In fact, it is said from the perspective of a young man with no experience and little Anima in his body. In fact, there is not much psychological difference between the two sexes. Women's hearts are not like most people? Submarine needle? So elusive.
However, some scholars believe that the psychological differences between men and women are more influenced by acquired factors and have little to do with physiology. Of course, there is no doubt about the gender differences between men and women in physiological functions, but the psychological differences between the two sexes are mainly caused by acquired factors such as the environment in which they grew up as children and the environment in which they lived as adults. Acquired factors have a great influence on a person. Now academic circles think that genetic inheritance will even be influenced by acquired. For example, whether a group of genes can be expressed normally and in what way are closely related to the acquired environment.
Is the big environment causing people's psychology? Datong? Is the reason and the individual's coping ability caused by individuals? Small difference? The main reason. But these are not directly related to gender. For example, he said that people were more likely to be in a state of anxiety, fear and insecurity during World War II and China's ""period, which was caused by the environmental background? Datong? . However, the individual's different ways of coping with the environment have formed differences among individuals. For example, children who also grew up in a broken family environment, some children are more sensible than their peers and know how to care for their parents; However, some children are less sensible than their peers and even resent their parents. That's why? Small difference? Typical example.
Understanding the psychological similarities and differences between men and women plays an important role in our lives. Psychological differences between men and women often determine the different starting points for men and women to look at and solve problems, and these differences can easily lead to conflicts and contradictions between men and women, such as between husband and wife, colleagues, parents and children, friends and so on. What is even more frightening is that most of us don't realize this. Therefore, when there are different opinions between the opposite sex, if we can stand in each other's position and take into account the differences in psychological characteristics between men and women, we can reduce conflicts and contradictions.
Tolerance is very important when communicating between the two sexes. Try to understand after tolerating. Some understandings cannot be reached overnight, and it takes a long time to run in with each other. If two people have strong personalities, communication will become very difficult. At this time, it is particularly important to strengthen personal cultivation, especially to learn to accept others. Tolerance, personal accomplishment and personal acceptance play an important role in sexual communication.
At the same time, gender differences are not the only communication barriers. The real communication barrier comes from always trying to judge each other's meaning with their own knowledge and experience. Because everyone has a different background, communication will inevitably bring obstacles. It can be said that in addition to the so-called? Confidante? Few people can really communicate fully. This is actually the same root of many problems. To solve this problem, people need to develop the habit of judging others without their own knowledge and experience, but to observe and experience on the spot and taste what the other person wants to express.
From this, I personally think that there are undeniable similarities and differences between men and women in psychology, and in any case, the influence of gender can not be ignored. Of course, we can't deny the influence of acquired factors. By studying the psychological differences between men and women, understanding the psychological similarities and differences between men and women will not only help to understand the basic knowledge of psychology, but also play a very important role in our lives. For example, we can learn to understand and get close to others through psychological analysis of others, and we can also have a deep understanding of some phenomena in society.