Then, interpersonal relationship is fertile ground for cultivating evergreen trees; Then, interpersonal relationship is the warm sunshine that gives flowers energy; Then, interpersonal relationship is bright gold that adds luster to the treasure house.
Without interpersonal relationship, the growth of college students will lose some fertile soil; Ignoring interpersonal relationships will inevitably lead to the loss of all the good things in the growth of college students; Improper understanding and handling of interpersonal relationships will cast a shadow on the growth and life of college students, which will eventually have various adverse effects. The university stage is the golden stage of life. Without a good growth opportunity and a good growth process, college students will lose a beautiful life scenery. Without bright colors, rich colors, galloping rhythms and cheerful notes, the road to success of college students will not be smooth and Ma Pingchuan, and their future will become bleak.
However, if we understand interpersonal relationships, be familiar with interpersonal relationships, attach importance to interpersonal relationships and handle interpersonal relationships well, college students will have all the beauty, all the knowledge and all the wisdom. Because interpersonal relationships are ubiquitous in college life, they can be seen everywhere in college life. It can even be said that college students are "older" than primary school students, junior high school students or senior high school students because their growth is a history of personal relationships.
As we all know, in the university campus, there are relationships between teachers and students, classmates, fellow villagers, individuals and classes, schools, fellow villagers' associations, alumni associations, parents and so on. Whether in classrooms, dormitories, laboratories, canteens and toilets, all kinds of interpersonal relationships are "compulsory courses" for college students to even step out of school every day. College students sometimes have to deal with street vendors, restaurant waiters, and grandparents in the vegetable market, which is different from primary and secondary school students. "Don't listen to things outside the window, just read sage books" and "Open your mouth to eat and reach for clothes". In addition to accepting the care of parents, the meticulous care of relatives and the patient guidance of teachers, I can hide when I don't want to communicate with others, but I can't do it for college students. The interpersonal communication of college students is often complicated. Independence, the reason why the society says this is because from the day when college students step into the university campus, it means that individuals begin to be independent and begin to infiltrate into the social circle of quasi-social groups. As we all know, there are individuals or groups who come from different social classes, different cultural backgrounds, different regions, different nationalities and even different countries, different skin colors and speak different languages on university campuses. Therefore, college students have a wide range of social contacts and many communication groups. With the development of science and technology, the progress of civilization and the harmony of society, they have never met. Knowing how to deal with interpersonal relationships in real life has naturally become the most important issue for college students in the process of success. Dealing with interpersonal relationships will make college students feel comfortable and healthy, and the road to growth will be smooth. The future of college students will be full of light and hope! However, if college students want to deal with interpersonal relationships in real life, they must first understand interpersonal relationships closely related to interpersonal relationships, because dealing with interpersonal relationships is a practice and an act; It is a practical operation to deal with the interaction between people in the process of material or spiritual communication in daily life. It is concrete, tangible and operable, and interpersonal relationship is a theory. It is intangible, abstract, understandable and understandable. Being familiar with interpersonal relationship theory is to point out the direction and provide principles for college students to correctly handle interpersonal relationship practice. It is the ideological guarantee, intellectual support and clear-cut stand in dealing with interpersonal practice. So, what is interpersonal relationship? Some people say that interpersonal relationship is a science and a social science that studies the interaction between people and its influencing factors. Others say that interpersonal relationship is an art, an art of life about how to deal with interpersonal relationship correctly, which is based on the characteristics of college students. I prefer the latter. Contemporary college students were born in the so-called "80s" and "90s" after the reform and opening up. They are active in thinking, energetic, interested and full of vigor. They not only have the lofty aspirations of people in the 1970s, but also have the tolerant and open personality unique to people in the 2nd/kloc-0th century. Therefore, college students have a strong demand for interpersonal communication. They try to get familiar with the world and gain friendship through interpersonal communication. In order to meet one's material and spiritual needs, especially in the mood of wanting to be accepted and understood, it is particularly urgent to treat interpersonal relationship as an art of life rather than a social science, so as to be closer to the fast-paced modern university life, closer to the university life practice with wider contacts and more contacts, and closer to the desire of college students with a little irritability in enthusiasm, paving the way for their success, removing obstacles and laying a solid foundation.
Secondly, if college students want to handle interpersonal relationships well and cultivate good interpersonal skills, they must learn to make good use of the art of interpersonal communication. Using interpersonal relationships well in practice requires college students to infiltrate from details. Professor Jin, an expert in modern etiquette, once said that education is embodied in details, which show quality and determine success or failure. As contemporary college students, they should show their vitality and passion in their daily life, or more accurately, in the etiquette norms. Our great motherland has been a country of etiquette since ancient times. For China college students who are descendants of modern China, paying attention to etiquette will never be limited to one or a few specific occasions, but should be emotional, meticulous and vivid. Confucius, an ancient sage, said, "If you don't know etiquette, you can't stand it." In modern university life, how can college students who don't know etiquette handle interpersonal relationships well, let alone have a United, friendly and energetic life and growth environment, let alone a bright future? To be a college student who knows etiquette and etiquette, according to the theory of business etiquette by Professor Jin, a modern etiquette expert (although it is business etiquette, I think it can be used for reference), we must establish the principle of respect-oriented, standardized in form and good at expression. Psychologically speaking, everyone is a natural egoist, and everyone wants others to recognize their own value, support themselves, accept themselves and like themselves. However, there is a famous saying, "To make others respect you, you should first respect the so-called' coming without being indecent'. We should respect others first, and others should naturally respect us. According to research, the foundation of interpersonal relationship is based on mutual concern and support between people. It is not difficult to imagine that we are more willing to associate with people who sincerely accept us and like us, and establish and maintain relationships with them.
As for formal norms, it is also important to be good at expression. The so-called "courtesy comes from vulgarity, vulgarity comes from courtesy", which pays attention to formal norms and appropriateness of expression. It is also an important aspect for college students to correctly use and deal with interpersonal relationships, provide good conditions for their university growth and life, and accumulate contacts and rich experience for their success. As long as they are primates, they will have rich emotional psychology as the essence of heaven and earth. In the development of human civilization for thousands of years, human beings have always paid attention to expressing people's rich inner feelings through appropriate forms and appropriate language. Unfortunately, some college students don't understand this truth or pay attention to its application in real life, which leads to poor interpersonal relationships and hurts the feelings of classmates and friends, so that they live in unfriendly, cooperative and harmonious interpersonal relationships all day long, which greatly damages their physical and mental health. In fact, many unprincipled disputes, discord between chickens and dogs, gossip and misunderstandings of relatives and classmates all stem from the neglect of formal norms and inappropriate expressions. Speaking of this, some college students may feel that their formal norms are not standardized, their expression is good or not, and what's more, they claim to have personality. As a result, they wear slippers in class and their mobile phones ring in class; It is not shameful to wear a scarf when cooking and jump the queue; Drive out of the way, overtake and grab the road; Riding is not humble, running for the door; Don't give up running for student positions and sit in the right place; Unclear clothes, improper shoes and socks, heavy makeup, and affectation to participate in group activities; When discussing with classmates and teachers, you don't pay attention to your words, make rude remarks, take them out of context and make irresponsible remarks. Who would want to deal with such a person? Who would want to live in such an environment? Over time, the relationship between people has alienated, and strangers have become strangers without answering when they meet. Without solidarity, friendship and mutual assistance, applause, smiles and flowers, the health status of college students is poor. No matter on any occasion or at any time, college students should pay attention to their own formal norms and standards of verbal expression, which is not only an important embodiment of a person's quality, education and culture, but also a good self-discipline and sublimation of personal quality. Only by paying attention to their own formal norms and standards of speech expression can college students strengthen self-training in practice, improve their psychological quality and communicate with a positive attitude; Only by paying attention to the norms of their own forms and the standards of verbal expression can college students shape a good personal image in practice, cultivate all kinds of good communication qualities, enhance their personal charm and enhance their personal popularity. Having said that, the author has a unique feeling. I used to be a man of few words. More accurately, I should be a person who is used to speaking frankly, never considering the object and scene of communication, and once got together with my classmates. A classmate may want to "pretend to be cool", pose in front of everyone and sing a poem drunk. As a result, the poem is wrong, and the bull's head is not right, which is self-defeating. At that time, the author immediately pointed out his mistakes in public. As a result, the man quarreled with the author sideways, which embarrassed the parties. If the author knew how to pay attention to formal norms and was good at expressing, it would not cause unnecessary noise.
Finally, if college students want to handle interpersonal relationships well, cultivate good interpersonal skills and realize their dreams of becoming talents, they must formally realize their social values and break the closed mode and canned thinking mode. Cha Ehol said: "What kind of thoughts, what kind of behavior; What kind of behavior and habits; What kind of habits, what kind of personality; What kind of personality, what kind of fate. " After all, college students should walk out of the school's "ivory tower" and face all-round social life. In today's competitive society, a person without communication skills, like a ship on land, will never drift into the magnificent sea. In order to meet the needs of the future society, they can only play their talents steadily and maturely in the increasingly vivid and complicated interpersonal relationships. Only by embodying one's own value can one be in an invincible position in the highly competitive modern society and properly handle interpersonal relationships. Dealing with communicative activities, intellectual activities and emotional art activities is a thorny matter in itself, and it is impossible to do it overnight. This requires college students to establish firm beliefs and lofty ideals, keep learning in communication, make progress in learning, develop synchronously in development, and improve in development, not because of a little difficulty. Don't refuse to take a step forward because of one or two social failures. In reality, some students often feel inferior, conceited and self-destructive because of social exclusion and misunderstanding, and even show suspicious, sensitive, narrow-minded, short-sighted, self-centered and arrogant personality traits, which cause great psychological and spiritual pressure on themselves and ruin their road to success. In fact, he is not afraid of failure. He will persevere, persevere, be fearless of hardships, forge ahead, make extensive friends with different social groups, and pave the way for himself with his long-term accumulated contacts.
Interpersonal relationship and college students' success are twin brothers. In modern society, if interpersonal relationships are not handled well, college students can only fight alone on the road to success, and the result is often difficult to call their names, which will become empty talk, become an ethereal dream and lose the value of existence; Without the desire, ideas, wisdom and potential to become a talent, it is impossible for college students to deal with interpersonal relationships well, because dealing with interpersonal relationships is a science and an art, which requires us to understand and master human nature and ourselves. Only those college students who want to become talents, hope to become talents and want to become talents can pursue, try, advance, surpass and finally.