The old man and the young man died suddenly after giving up their seats in an argument.

At 4: 30 pm on the 9th, when a 9 19 bus in Zhengzhou was driving to the intersection of Qinling Road on Zhongyuan Road, an old man suddenly fell to the ground and died suddenly. The passenger in the car said that the old man had an argument with a young man because of the problem of giving up his seat and slapped the young man four times in the face. When the family members of the elderly were questioned by emergency personnel, they said that the elderly had heart disease. At 6 o'clock in the afternoon, the technicians of the bus company rushed to the scene to cooperate with the police to check the surveillance video. The police did not disclose the content of the video. At present, the incident remains to be investigated by the police.

According to past cases, young people who have disputes with the elderly are likely to bear legal responsibility. According to the law, according to the degree and nature of the subjective fault of the actor, "angering people" may have three different legal consequences: if young people know that the elderly have heart disease, they may get angry and deliberately pursue the result of angering each other. Then, subjectively, it is intentional and has an inevitable causal relationship with the death consequences of the victim, that is, it constitutes a crime and must bear criminal responsibility. If the young people are subjectively at fault, but they do not pursue the purpose of the other party's death, then the "anger" in this case essentially constitutes a tort of civil legal adjustment. If the young man is not at fault, the other party will not bear the responsibility of accidental anger, but we know from known reports that the young man and the old man did have a dispute.

Don't let me: the old man sits on the girl.

Because the elderly are not given their seats on the means of transportation, there are not a few abusive disputes. What's more, old people sit on "rude" young people. Last year 165438+1October16, at 7 o'clock in the morning, the netizen "it's time" and another female colleague took the 202 bus to work. After getting on the bus, they found their seats smoothly. An old man who got on the bus later "asked" to give their seats. Because I felt violated, my colleague "it's time" and didn't give his seat to the old man. I didn't expect the old man to sit on the girl swearing. Later, the reporter and the netizen got in touch through Weibo. She told reporters that her female colleague had been crying since she went to work in the morning because she was frightened, and her mood was very unstable.

Let nature take its course: the girl complained that she was beaten after giving her seat to the old man.

Someone complained after giving up his seat, which caused a curse. Zhu Xiao, a girl from Shenyang, and her mother plan to go shopping in Zhongjie, and get on the bus from Lianhua Street Terminal 2 15. Zhu Xiao and her mother are sitting in the orange seat in tandem. Because there is still a distance, Zhu Xiao is used to playing with his head down with his mobile phone. 10 minutes later, the bus arrived at the 463rd Hospital Station of the People's Liberation Army. Zhu Xiao suddenly heard someone say, "The old man had a heart attack. Why not give up your seat? " Zhu Xiao looked up. A 70-year-old grandfather stood in front of her left, so he stood up slowly and offered his seat, muttering, "Why do so many people let me give my seat?" What do you mean? " At this time, the old man had sat down, and a lady (who later learned that she was the old man's daughter-in-law) asked, "What's the matter? You don't want to let you give up your seat! " Then she reached out and slapped Zhu Xiao ... Coincidentally, the little girl who kindly gave up her seat on the Wuhan bus was also scolded and pushed, but she didn't complain, but chose to give up her seat between the woman holding the child and the old man, and then she was insulted by the old man.

Why not let your seat make the elderly so "violent"

Of course, the first thing we want to emphasize is that, after all, there are only a few elderly people who abuse and beat people because they don't give up their seats on the bus. We meet more amiable and kind-hearted old people. If you give up your seat, they will definitely say thank you. If you can only make one or two stops, they will even refuse. More than 80 elderly people even gave "good friend cards" and "gratitude cards" to those who gave up their seats on the bus ... So what are the reasons for these "violent" elderly people?

Some old people's bad temper is related to aging.

Some old people's "no thanks" or grumpy attitude towards their seats is not entirely a normal healthy psychology, but is directly related to the growth of age and the aging of body and brain. The chief physician of the Department of Neurology, Peking University Third Hospital, said that the elderly's temperament changes greatly, and they often lose their temper inexplicably. Most of them are related to pathological brain aging, which even means that brain lesions such as cerebral infarction, insufficient blood supply to the brain, brain atrophy, cerebral arteriosclerosis and Alzheimer's disease may occur, and they must go to the hospital for treatment.

If young people can realize this, they will all take a "don't mind" attitude towards their abnormal words and deeds. When they see that the old man can give up his seat on his own initiative, it is inconvenient to give up his seat, and they turn a deaf ear to some harsh words of the old man. Just like the old people at home, the occasional "anger" may be unacceptable to the younger generation, but it can't completely deny the hard work and kindness of the old people all their lives, and it can't help but respect or even fail to fulfill their support obligations.

Moral kidnapping behind disrespect for the elderly.

Everything has two sides. Some old people are grumpy because of objective reasons, and there are indeed a few old people who regard their old "weakness" as the capital to kidnap morality and turn weakness into strength, and regard their old age as an excuse to disrespect themselves. There is no denying that everyone is old, there is no doubt about it. However, when you are old, you should not be arrogant and unreasonable, do whatever you want, or even infringe on the legitimate rights and interests of others.

Although we advocate respecting the old and loving the young, giving seats to the old, the weak, women and children as a social civilization, it is only a kind of morality after all, but hitting people is illegal and even criminal. The law should be moral, but breaking the law must pay a price. So, you can condemn those who don't give up their seats in your heart. Note that in a real society ruled by law, you can only condemn them in your heart, because any moral crusade you make may be an insult to the other person's personality. There is no doubt that insulting others requires legal responsibility. In the final analysis, morality is a kind of self-discipline and law is heteronomy. You can attack others with the law, but you can't demand others with morality.

Bad people get old and old people get bad.

In fact, the phrase "the old man is not getting worse, but the bad man is getting older" has been circulating on the Internet in China for a long time. Those old people who are rude under the guise of age are hateful and disrespectful. Not all old people are bad? This is like asking whether all young people are bad people, and the answer isno. Although all the above-mentioned old people have bad self-esteem, it is unfair to let all the old people bear the blame. If it is argued that the elderly who have experienced a certain era are "bad", then such an argument is rather hasty.

Should I give my seat to the old man?

Without legal support, it depends entirely on moral guidance.

The argument about whether to give or not to give on the bus has a long history and has become a very small but old topic. Without hostility and violence, it may never be clear, nor can it be clear who is right or wrong. Maybe everyone will say, I can be indifferent until my turn.

The law does not stipulate that you must give up your seat to the elderly, which can only be achieved through morality. At any time, morality can only appear in people's free choice and can only be produced in people's initiative. The same is true on the issue of giving up seats. If there is no moral guidance, people will only see the choice but not the responsibility. They will take the right as an indifferent excuse, accept their slack, identify with the numbness of society, and thus put themselves in a society that lacks morality and warmth.

Mutual understanding can give seats to those who need them more.

In the movie Search, the heroine played by Gao Yuanyuan was accused of low morality because she didn't give her seat to the old man. After media exposure and netizen search, no one knew that she was at a loss because she was terminally ill on the bus. In fact, indifference is often caused by lack of communication. If young people can't let their seats communicate with the elderly for various reasons, they should try to be considerate of young people, because the relationship between people is based on mutual understanding.

In Andingmen Street, Beijing 100, more than 0 elderly people sent an initiative to the elderly in the city: morning exercises, we don't grab the bus with young people, give up the morning and evening rush hours, and travel with office workers at the wrong peak. More than 20 elderly volunteers in Zhengzhou took to the streets and issued the initiative of "giving their seats to young people", which is more like a performance art and expressing an "understanding". Respecting and caring for the elderly is the attitude of young people; Understanding the difficulties of young people is an attitude that an old man should have.

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Why don't the Japanese give their seats to the elderly?

anonymous

Anyone who has been to Japan will appreciate Japanese manners. But even so, when they saw the young people sitting casually and the old people standing in the Japanese tram car, they couldn't help wondering: "The Japanese are so polite, why don't they give up their seats when they meet the old people in the tram?"

Why don't polite Japanese give up their seats? In fact, when I first came to Japan, this problem also bothered me. But after living in Japan for more than ten years, I found that giving up my seat in Japan is not a "courtesy problem" at all, but a "skill problem".

For example, a university teacher I know, A Zi, is almost sixty years old. Because of her white hair, her visual age seems to be a little older than her actual age. Usually, Teacher A is quite cheerful, but once I met her sigh, I couldn't help asking, "Teacher A, what's wrong with you? What unhappy things have you encountered? " As a result, Teacher A replied: When I took the tram in the morning, someone actually gave her a seat!

"alas! Am I old enough to give up? " Teacher A stroked her white hair and said sadly. Teacher A was unhappy all day because she was given her seat. For the first time, she felt reminded: "You are old!" "Perhaps most Japanese people who grew up in the same cultural background seem to feel the same way about the depression of people like Teacher A, which goes without saying. Therefore, in Japanese trams, people as old as Teacher A are basically not given seats. But I once offered my seat to a mother with a baby in her arms on the tram, and the result was still unsatisfactory: the mother with a baby in her arms repeatedly thanked her and refused to sit down, saying that it was only two or three stops away from her and there was no need to sit down. Later, a Japanese friend of mine told me that even if you kindly give up your seat, it doesn't mean that others should accept your kindness. Some Japanese are afraid of giving people "trouble" and unwilling to accept the kindness of others, while others are too strong to be "taken care of".

Therefore, in Japanese trams, the phenomenon of giving up seats is really less. Besides Japanese indifference to "respecting the elderly" and no habit of helping the elderly to give up their seats, it is also because in this aging society of Japan, many Japanese people have a completely different understanding of "old" from China. For example, I know a Japanese lady who works in a bakery. Every time I go to buy bread, I can't help but praise her for "you are so energetic" when I see her holding the bread tray high and striding around the bakery! Then the Japanese wife proudly replied, "I am only 62 years old and still very young." Of course I am in good spirits! " "I heard the Japanese lady's answer at first, but if I think about it carefully, I will find that 60 years old is really a very young number for the long-lived Japanese who live to 100 years old. No wonder Japanese woman writer Chiyo Uno finally realized that she had "stepped into old age" at the age of 88.

Therefore, for some Japanese who don't want to be old, don't want to give people trouble and don't want to be taken care of, it is sometimes really difficult to judge whether the other party really needs to give up their seats if they don't have good mind-reading skills when taking the tram. Therefore, when you give up your seat in Japan, don't jump up from your seat excitedly, hold the other person's hand politely and say enthusiastically, "Grandma, please sit down." This will be heartbreaking. The best way to give up your seat in Japan is to pretend that you are about to get off the bus, turn around and walk to the door, or simply walk to another car. In short, all you have to do is stand up without saying a word, walk away and make room for your seat. If the other person needs that empty seat, he will naturally walk over and sit down.

Don't just consider legal obligations in the dispute over giving up your seat.

Ma Peng Yu

Core Tip: Maintaining social harmony and order cannot be driven by moral forces. Don't just consider whether this is a legal obligation in the dispute over seat. Because the law is only the bottom line, not the only standard to measure social progress.

At 4: 30 pm on September 9, an old man suddenly fell to the ground and died suddenly on a bus in Zhengzhou. The passenger in the car said that the old man had an argument with a young man because of the problem of giving up his seat. The old man asked the young man to give up his seat, but the young man didn't. The two abused each other in the dispute. The old man slapped the young man four times, but the young man didn't fight back. When the family members of the elderly were questioned by emergency personnel, they said that the elderly had heart disease. (Dahe Daily September 10)

In the past two years, there have been more and more episodes of bus seat disputes. But this episode is not a concerto, but the noise of civilization. Looking through the past news, we can see that the seat dispute has been happening around us. Just when the competition for seats is becoming more and more common, people are not surprised. This time, a tragedy happened, and the old man passed away, which makes people feel sad. Because such a thing happened in one seat on one trip, it should not be, and no one would want such a tragedy to happen.

Although there is no law that clearly stipulates that young people must give up their seats to the elderly on the bus, we all know that giving up their seats is also a moral obligation. Although it is not legally mandatory, it is morally binding. Everyone has an old day and needs the care and help of others. Only by starting from the self, letting virtue pass and making the society progress in a more civilized way can indifference not be frozen into ice, and we will not face the chill of refusing to give up our seats when we are old.

At present, some young people are not conscious enough on the bus. In the face of sick and pregnant passengers of all ages, it is very common not to give up your seat. There are also many people who occupy their love seats and pretend to sleep and play mobile phones. Therefore, the elderly with moral advantages can't stand it, and their fists and feet add up and spread like a virus. Although we saw quarrels and slaps again this time, it only takes a slap to make a sound. If young people are more conscious and less self-righteous, they will not cause disputes and bring themselves such tragedies and troubles. Many people are saying that "the old man has gone bad", but isn't the "bad" old man because of the imbalance between the old and the young?

Indeed, not giving up your seat is just a moral flaw and should not be solved with fists and slaps. And violence can't make you conscious, and you may also bear legal responsibility for it. To cultivate a good social atmosphere, laws need to play a role, especially when disputes arise and rights are violated. However, maintaining social harmony and order is inseparable from the promotion of moral forces, so don't just think about whether this is a legal obligation in the dispute over giving up your seat. Because the law is only the bottom line, not the only standard to measure social progress. Therefore, I hope more young people can consciously assume the responsibility of respecting the elderly and loving the young, let virtue spread, and resolve the hostility of the elderly with care.

At the same time, we should also emphasize the responsibility of public transport operators. Is the setting of special seats reasonable? Is the transportation capacity guaranteed? Even whether drivers and flight attendants remind young passengers in time after the old people get on the bus must be considered. A seat not only tests the virtue of passengers, but also reflects the sense of responsibility of public managers. A sense of giving up your seat without a slap in the face. Stimulating your seat awareness requires education and guidance. A broadcast and a look may solve the problem. Never let young people and old people "let go" on the issue of giving up their seats.