I couldn't deduct my driver's license this afternoon because I didn't pay the traffic violation fine, so I asked my brother to help me get rid of it. Come to the traffic police brigade, queue up to get the number, and then go to the service counter to consult about eliminating points. I never even thought about it. I asked directly, the driver's license is full. Can I ask someone else to remove it for me? The policeman across the street said politely, we are not allowed to give points to others here. In this way, I went out helplessly. On the way out again, I thought of the conversation just now, and suddenly understood that I didn't speak in the right way, so I couldn't pee in front of the tiger! Later, I went back and went through the formalities smoothly. Suddenly feel the same meaning and get different results. Is this a stable society?
In my life words, I have always believed that being an honest and frank person is the basic principle of being a man. My parents have taught our brothers this way since childhood. In my hometown, my family is an ordinary rural person, my father is a teacher, my mother is a farmer, and my ancestors have no outstanding wealth. Everything we do depends on our own ability, and we never ask others to get promoted and get rich. I just need to take care of my acre of land. It is this idea that has always made me think that it is normal to be a frank person. I've been like this since I was a kid. I have always been a rebel in college, and anything that doesn't conform to the rules will produce my own complaints. I haven't changed my job until now. Fortunately, after graduation, I work as a skilled worker and don't need much social interaction, so my work is relatively smooth. However, with the transformation of my career, I did some sales work, and gradually found that my honest and frank personality troubled my career development. In order to do a good job, I can only do some basic manual work harder in exchange for the support of my boss, but I find that this is not the career I want, and I hope to make a change.
Because of work, many colleagues around me are like this and can't give themselves too much advice. They can only rely on their little knowledge to understand the value of social interaction. Fortunately, I made a good start with my own efforts, found my favorite career and started to maximize my social value. In this more than a year, from the honest and frank character at the beginning to the gentle character now, I found that my edges and corners became less sharp. The relationship with others is no longer a friend or an enemy, and there is an unfamiliar stranger in the middle. Wechat friends who don't talk are no longer deleted directly, but some of them are selectively retained. I don't know if there will be a better result waiting for me, but I want to say that I am willing to change a little and become more smooth.
Tell a story: Emperor Yang Di Yang Guang is a handsome man. Peiju seized this opportunity, collected rare treasures from all directions, exhibited them to show off to foreigners, and put wine and delicacies on the main street merchants, so that the conference semifinals who came here for business or tourism could eat and drink casually to show their generosity. Such shallow ostentation was laughed at by people of insight at that time, as if Pei Ju was an apple polisher. But this is secondary, the key is Yang-ti saw a dragon heart big yue, a thumbs-up to PeiJu said:
? "You know me. You helped me do what I wanted to do. " According to historical records, I know what I mean by dressing, and what I play is what I finished.
If you only behave well in front of Emperor Yang Di and his colleagues, you can only say that your level is passable. What really smart people are best at is wit, deliberation and improvisation. Pei Ju can please a tyrant like Yang Di. If he faced Li Shimin, what would he do? History really gave him a chance to test.
Words Li Shimin just upper began to rectify ChaoGang, he thought of a bad idea, send people to test the executives with property, as a result, there is a secretary with eyes open to accept gifts, was caught by Li Shimin.
Who is this guy? Pei Ju, of course. What bothers the boss most is that someone is doing something bad under his nose, so boss Li wants to kill him.
Seeing that Li Shimin was going to kill the minister who received the gift, Pei Ju said that he had something to say. He said, "Gifts should be severely punished, but the boss's methods are also problematic and impolite." Strangely, Pei Ju suddenly began to criticize the boss with righteous words. Which one is this?
Yes, this is the real tact. In layman's terms, this is called ordering according to people, and the boss can say whatever he likes. Yang guang likes face, so he gives face. Li Shimin likes honest and frank conversation.
Everything has negative effects, and the truth sometimes has obvious negative effects. White lies are not real deception, but to make others happy. Any white lie has a lubricating effect. People who use excuses use excuses to protect themselves or avoid hurting others.
In life, no matter how prominent the family background is and how outstanding the talent is, if you want to handle all social relations with friends, colleagues, family members and so on, so that your every move, every word and deed are lovable, bring happiness to people, and let your abilities be recognized, you need to be tactful and learn to be a man. A really mature person, because of the wind and frost, has to become sleek and sophisticated in order to survive, and is ruined by straight men, so be sleek and don't suffer! Success is an attitude towards life, and its alias is growth.