ENFP often applies Ne's insight and creativity to people (F), but not to fields such as technology, finance, law and scientific research (T). In other words, ENFP likes to deal with people and is very keen to understand and explore the unique characteristics, talents, potentials, talents and possibilities of others. Then, as a coach, it is very happy to help others give full play to their personal talents. If you pay enough attention to it, then this sentence has hidden the foundation of self-career orientation that can enable most ENFP to give full play to their talents.
The whimsy brought by Ne to ENFP, and the personality trait that Fi brings to ENFP to please oneself-following the internal values. This makes ENFP always run like a fire, fighting for the future vision in his mind. Therefore, ENFP is called "Struggler" personality. Of course, 16 personality types have their own advantages and disadvantages. The focus of this paper is to take stock of the conventional shortcomings of ENFP, and give corresponding development suggestions, aiming to help readers of ENFP understand, remember and subconsciously detect their own ideological and behavioral misunderstandings, so as to make themselves more calm and wise in the Jianghu.
Why doesn't ENFP do business?
ENFP has three golden rice bowls, which are dedicated to "taking" and offering praise, encouragement and recognition. The first bowl is extroverted preference e, so the energy is mainly concentrated in the real world. Therefore, we expect others to pay attention to ourselves, and even ENFP with obvious extroverted preference likes to attract others' attention by grandstanding. ENFP believes that no amount of praise and recognition can do it. The second golden rice bowl is the second talent. Emotional preference makes ENFP naturally pay attention to harmony, like to recognize others and long for recognition, and fear even criticism and neglect. The third golden rice bowl, the perceptual attitude towards life P, probably makes the two butlers (Fei and Te) of ENFP very weak, and it is difficult to make a clear choice between values and rationality, which leads their master ENFP to lose himself on the road of desperately calling for love.
For example, ENFP doesn't like his current job, even if it is unpleasant. But it may be because the company leaders attach great importance to their talents, the company is humanized, provides a sense of belonging of mutual help and love, and colleagues in the department care about themselves. Under these circumstances, ENFP is likely to degenerate to "forget that you are here to work, not to fall in love", or think that "work is secondary, and the key is to have a group of interesting colleagues". And all these "off-track" performances actually show ENFP's concentration, focusing more on how to be happy than how to improve themselves. Therefore, it is difficult to maintain an irreplaceable position and value in the team, and it is likely to be the first object to be laid off when the company needs to lay off employees. It's ironic, but I hope ENFP readers will take it seriously. By the same token, even if a job can give full play to a person's talents, if colleagues are difficult to get along with, ENFP is likely to quit voluntarily. After this repetition, ENFP realized that he should keep a diary and look in the mirror, and then he realized that he was a little disappointed and tired.
There are countless ways to suggest the development of "ENFP doing nothing", but it is easier said than done. I think we should go back to the source, just as yeyu explained in Channel, and first define our career orientation-vision and mission. As long as the self-positioning is clear, it is not easy to be confused by radish and cabbage, and it is better to recognize which circles are beautiful, which companies should not stay for too long, and which companies will survive anyway. Because there is no absolute ideal environment to correspond to ENFP's idealism (NF). For example, in the face of a company that is suitable for developing talents but the working environment is not ideal, what does ENFP insist on? I think there is at least one: polish yourself quickly and become a freelancer as free as the wind. This is the core career path for ENFP to truly become a champion.
How did ENFP get out of control?
Then, on the bright side, ENFP will be a Bole and noble person in many people's minds. Because ENFP thinks that everyone is a piece of gold and unique, ne, like a mentor, helps ENFP discover the different characteristics of everyone and point out the development direction for them. On the negative side, you will care too much about everyone's differences and often get out of control. Let's make a rational analysis from three aspects. ENFP readers should be steady and don't abandon me:
In the first aspect, ENFP believes that everyone has their own abilities and can exert great value. Therefore, ENFP will spend a lot of time to know everything about each other, thinking that the more it knows, the more it can help others. Yes, it's great. However, ENFP, a heart-to-heart understanding method, will certainly learn a lot of other people's painful experiences and misfortunes. At this time, ENFP will cry empathetically, feel sad from the heart, and it is difficult to pull out emotions. Ironically, when ENFP dried his tears and opened his eyes, he found that the work was delayed before the report was finished, or the negative emotions from other people's painful experiences were brought to work, which greatly reduced the work efficiency. Most importantly, this will make ENFP physically and mentally exhausted.
In the second aspect, ENFP believes that every colleague should be helped, especially the leaders of ENFP believe that every subordinate should go all out to provide counseling. That's what people do. The more they give to someone, the more they pursue some kind of "reward", such as hoping that their subordinates will become better. In other words, ENFP will have extremely high and idealized expectations for the subordinates they coach, and when the subordinates have not changed or even left, it is conceivable how sad they will be. On the other hand, ENFP may think that excellent subordinates have the ability to find food by themselves, and pay special attention to subordinates with poor ability. This has two disadvantages. One is that capable people, especially those with emotional preferences, will think that ENFP's parents are eccentric like children, thus generating rebellious psychology-deliberately smashing customers or leaving home-jumping ship; On the other hand, ENFP should concentrate its resources, time and energy on assisting people with strong abilities, because 80% of the department's performance comes from a few people with strong abilities. The result can be imagined. ENFP has paid a lot for the team, but it has not achieved tangible results. How can it get involved in the workplace? At this time, ENFP must be very depressed, thus setting self-limits, becoming timid and losing the liveliness, enthusiasm and self-confidence that ENFP should have.
In the third aspect, one of the disadvantages of average play is that ENFP will become very busy and become a "nanny" in the team, no, nanny. This management style can easily lead to: first, the team is not wolf, and even cultivate a group of little sheep; Secondly, subordinates can easily rely on ENFP and may annoy ENFP in every detail. In the end, ENFP is either too busy to think or too tired to think about strategic development.
Of course, all these styles and ways have two sides, and turning left means cohesion, loyalty, bole and nobility; Turning to the right is too emotional, too casual, and become a workplace nanny without professional style. Therefore, ENFP should never say, "I will never be so good again." Actually, it doesn't have to be black or white. I prefer you to say to yourself, "I will do this again in the future, because these are my talents and advantages." However, I have to learn to brake and control the rhythm, so that I can play back freely and attack and defend freely. "
ENFP Three Restraints in the Workplace
ENFP, remember that this is not impossible, but to restrain these three behaviors. The first kind of restraint, ENFP pays attention to interpersonal harmony and is good at praising others. These are ENFP's own personality characteristics, but we should selectively restrain or praise others. First of all, introverts will think that the praise of ENFP is too grandiose and superficial, that is, the praise of ENFP is looked down upon; Secondly, people with thinking preference will think that the praise of ENFP is hypocritical and artificial, while thinking prefers others to point out their needs for improvement. Therefore, the first restraint is that ENFP should not praise others casually, but also learn to watch others praise.
The second restraint, ENFP thinks too much (Ne), is willing to contribute (Fi), loves to play (EP), likes to take the lead and actively leads everyone to carry out work and activities together. It is this feature that makes ENFP like to do a lot of things for the team, whether in work or in life, as long as it is helpful to the team, they are willing to spend time and energy to treat it. This trait is the embodiment of ENFP's ability, which can gain a lot of friendship, but it must be restrained. There are three reasons: first, many thoughtful people will use the kindness of ENFP to "run errands" for themselves and simply use it; Second, some people are very scheming, and it is very likely that they will deliberately interfere with ENFP in this way, and they will make time to concentrate on their studies or work, in order to give ENFP a peak and let themselves win; Third, ENFP should realize that he is here to work, not a nanny. Although actively contributing to the team can get a lot of praise and praise, others will rely more and more on ENFP. When ENFP doesn't have time to help them deal with it, they can't adapt to it internally, and even alienate ENFP in reality. At this time, the low-latitude ENFP is likely to leave again due to injury.
The third restraint, ENFP not only pays attention to interpersonal harmony, but also tends to establish closer interpersonal relationships. This is a taboo in the workplace. When there are departments and customers colliding with each other, and they are all fighting for performance for promotion and salary increase, ENFP is likely to be used as a gun, viciously attacked, or exposed to personal privacy, and so on. Therefore, ENFP likes to establish personal communication habits, which is very unfavorable to ENFP's career development. Remember to exercise restraint. There is a saying that colleagues are not enemies, nor friends, but * * *. ENFP must learn to keep a safe distance from colleagues, one is to protect their privacy, the other is not to get into trouble.
Aim at freelancers
Generally speaking, ENFP doesn't like enterprises with strict systems and serious structures. There is a simple reason. Such enterprises are too rigid and too serious. ENFP not only feels that it is not fun and inflexible, but also feels that it is suppressed. Such enterprises are indeed far from the passion and freedom-loving nature of ENFP. However, not every ENFP can meet an enterprise with "people-oriented, relaxed working environment, humorous boss and often encouraging and supporting himself". And often at this time, many ENFP may choose to leave without thinking.
Of course, leaving a job is a trivial matter, not right or wrong. One thing that deserves ENFP's attention is that when you are unhappy, want to complain or are ready to leave, you must calm down and consider thoroughly: whether my present career can give full play to my talents; What talents can be brought into play; And the extent to which the main work content gives play to individual talents; What is the reason for wanting to leave? Wait a minute. When ENFP learned to carefully evaluate these factors before leaving, its status was improved again. If you can give full play to your talents in your current job, and it is consistent with your career orientation, then it is recommended that you don't leave easily, settle down and make serious use of the platform-accumulate experience in serving customers, get to know people in the industry and improve your professional skills. Finally, keep practicing and arm yourself into a freelancer! Finally, remember two things. First of all, ENFP is the most suitable personality type for freelancers. Secondly, most companies in the market are similar, mainly working to support their families. It is necessary to jump at both ends every three days. Except, of course, ENFP's Alto Jumping BMW. For example, someone asked you to be vice president.
ENFP must understand.
At the beginning, we have analyzed two talents of ENFP, Ne and Fi, and made them try their best to do two things. One is to gain insight into other people's talents, and then help others develop their own talents; The second is to understand and solve the troubles of others (heart-to-heart). Therefore, the clever and witty ENFP knows that the best way to gain insight into other people's talents and understand their troubles is to establish personal relationships with others in order to gain a deeper understanding of their past. This personal workplace communication brings many negative comments to ENFP, and these negative feedbacks run counter to the original intention of ENFP-helping others:
First of all, people with thinking preferences don't like personal relationships, and they are not good at and don't like to talk about their inner feelings. Therefore, they will feel that ENFP is looking for trouble, harassing their work, and thus resenting ENFP; Secondly, the first kind of talents are introverts (Fi), such as INFP. They pay great attention to their privacy and are easily frightened by the enthusiasm and excessive concern of ENFP. They may think that ENFP is up to something, so they keep a distance of 3 meters from ENFP. Personality types, such as E(S/N)TJ type, will feel that personal preferences of ENFP seriously affect work efficiency, because they are task-oriented. Therefore, if you meet such a boss, ENFP may be severely criticized and even fired.
Of course, this paper only counts the core shortcomings of ENFP. From the perspective of personal development, ENFP is the most suitable personality type to become a freelancer and make money with hobbies; From the perspective of career orientation, ENFP can give full play to its talents and maximize its sense of accomplishment and career satisfaction when engaging in education, training, headhunting, art, public relations, consulting, coaching and inspiring others.