Second, the purpose is not clear, and the behavior result is "deteriorated".
"Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" advocates treating others with forgiveness, which is good, but it should also be measured to prevent "going too far". We should consider the purpose and position of the person who implements this method. Different positions are forgiveness, but the results will be different. Lu Kun, a Confucian in the Ming Dynasty, once said: "A lecherous person forgives people's lust, a wealthy person forgives people's greed, a good drinker forgives people's drunkenness, and an easy-going person forgives people's laziness. They have never treated others with their own judgment, and they have never ignored others, and the thieves of Tao are also, so those who forgive them cannot but judge. " This is not to blame others, but because of the wrong starting point and position, which seriously damages the purity and sublimity of this method, so we should implement it carefully.
From a modern point of view, "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" should be limited when it is implemented. Infinite tolerance is not true tolerance, but tolerance. In modern society, it is important to treat people with tolerance, which can guide people who have done wrong to consciously correct their mistakes when they realize their own. However, in real life, people tend to blindly tolerate, especially for some small mistakes, which are considered to be human nature and blindly tolerant, but they harm themselves, others and society.
For example. There are many moral anomie in today's society. Not only is a well-known economics professor whoring, but also in the society's unprincipled tolerance for such behavior. I looked at the online messages and found that many people expressed sympathy for him. Some people think that this intellectual is "just a victim of hypocritical moral standards", while others think that "resigning because of whoring is a loss of education". The most outrageous thing is this message: "After all, he didn't use his power to rape female students, but only went whoring ...". But what we should ponder is: what he can and can't do; In view of a person's specific identity, what responsibilities and obligations he must bear; At the same time, what is the public's expectation, and how should this expectation be implemented to a specific person?
I don't know why, there are many things that are always overkill. Unconsciously, we came to an era of moral nihilism. As we all know, under the condition of market economy, "economic man" is prone to "opportunistic behavior" if there is no moral constraint, that is, in order to maximize his own interests, he does not hesitate to do things that harm others and do not benefit himself. We have been keenly aware of this from the counterfeit and shoddy goods and pervasive corruption around us. If this trend is not reversed, the next step is bound to be that the whole people will fall into a "prisoner's dilemma": whoever abides by morality will suffer, and everyone is a bad person.
People who scoff at the call to rebuild morality always like to quote "Smith's creed"-a rational economic man who pursues self-interest. After being guided by an invisible hand, he will eventually promote the overall welfare of society. But they don't realize it, Adam? Smith put forward this creed in the background that Europe is in a social atmosphere where Christian morality is universally respected. An implicit premise of "Smith's creed" is that rational economic man respects morality rather than tramples on it in the process of pursuing his own interests. If morality is not respected, the pursuit of self-interest will not increase the overall welfare of society, and will eventually harm the welfare of individuals.
How to rebuild our morality? I think it is very important for social elites to take responsibility and show moral initiative. According to Hayek's theory, as an "unspoken rule", the change of morality always starts from the individual level: some people adopt new morality, and he may succeed and be learned and imitated by others. As a result, morality is partially updated, and the gradual accumulation of this update will lead to the natural evolution of morality, and finally make new morality occupy the mainstream. The reason why I emphasize that elites should "show moral initiative" is because they are usually the objects of imitation and learning by others.
Of course, to do this, it is not enough to rely solely on the self-discipline of the elites. Elites are human beings, and people also have weaknesses. Therefore, society must set higher standards for them and take care of them more strictly. For example, an ordinary American citizen has extramarital sex, which is his personal privacy and others have no right to comment; Clinton's extramarital sex will be strongly criticized by public opinion and even impeached by Congress, which is the reason.
Aiming at the above difficulties, some suggestions are put forward.
First of all, when interacting with others, we should learn to respect others, listen and understand others, and get along with others as equals.
We know that people are social people, and only living in society can make sense and personal value can be finally realized. No one can exist independently from others. Therefore, when interacting with others, we should communicate and talk with others more, get along with people around us on an equal footing, be good at opening up to others, and learn to listen and understand others. Understanding others means understanding their needs, desires, value pursuits, etc. And learn to respect others, take the initiative to care for others, and live in harmony with the people around you. In real life, to establish an equal "I-you" relationship, the two sides communicate in an equal way. This kind of communication includes not only verbal communication, but also spiritual and spiritual communication. This kind of communication is open, and all parties open their hearts and sincerely express their ideas based on understanding others. In normal school life, we should take part in more public activities, cultivate cooperation with others in their efforts to achieve the same goal, truly establish each other's consciousness, enter each other's hearts, and truly realize the intersection and integration of hearts.
Secondly, there is a limit to being lenient with others.
When people get along with each other, it is inevitable that there will be friction and even conflict. How to properly handle these contradictions is related to whether we can "turn enemies into friends" and whether we can maintain the original good relations between the two sides, so that both sides can win each other and develop in the longer term. If problems are handled properly, contradictions can be resolved and enemies can become good friends; If not handled properly, contradictions will intensify, and friends may become enemies and never contact each other again. The people of China have always attached importance to friendly coexistence and mutual benefit. Harmony is based on the premise of * * * glory and aims at win-win. Natural harmony between people, righteousness is the first, benefit is the second.
In daily life, I establish a good attitude and learn to be tolerant, with the aim of improving my moral quality finally. In life, it is very important to keep a good attitude and treat everything calmly; At the same time, be lenient with others and let the other party have a process of understanding right and wrong and correcting it. Of course, this tolerance should also be limited, and it must not be indulged indefinitely.
In a word, the goodness, virtue and the way of loyalty and forgiveness embodied in Confucius' thought of "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" are of great value for building a civilized and harmonious world and should be strongly advocated. Don't do what others do, don't take away others' love, put yourself in others' shoes, take care of others, be selfish and altruistic, feel him consciously, achieve success and live in harmony.
Mencius has a famous saying: "The weather is not as good as the geographical position, and the geographical position is not as good as human harmony." In other words, for a war, climatic conditions are very important, but the geographical situation is more important. However, the most important thing is that the people in the war are United from top to bottom. As a businessman with more than ten years' experience, I have a feeling that doing business is like fighting a war, and it also emphasizes that the weather is not as good as the right place, and the right place is not as good as people.
The survival and development of an enterprise are influenced by many factors, but many factors can be summed up in three categories, namely, heaven (external environment), earth (industrial environment) and people, among which the condition of harmony with people is the most precious. Only when enterprises have the conditions of "harmony with people" can they strive for and use "the right time" and gradually improve and give play to "the right place".
The so-called "harmony between people" means: people-oriented. The essence of 2 1 century management is people-oriented management. In my opinion, the evolution of an enterprise from ordinary to excellent, and then from excellent to excellent, is definitely not overnight. This process is actually the energy accumulation of everyone in the enterprise. Without harmony, enterprises cannot grow. From an unknown dream catcher who went south more than ten years ago, he has now become the chairman of Zhuang Dian International. Enterprises from scratch, from grassroots to today, have attracted much attention in the industry and spread all over the Internet. Along the way, I deeply realized the importance of "harmony with people".
Some bosses always complain that there are no competent people around them. In fact, since I started my business, I have never met a genius who can decide. I just dig out everyone's strengths in the enterprise and they become talents. At Zhuang Dian International, our approach is very simple, that is, to affirm everyone, help everyone, care for and respect everyone. After being encouraged and affirmed, some employees who were originally seemingly inconspicuous actually played a very high level, which made people sit up and take notice. As the saying goes, "if you don't accumulate steps, you won't reach a thousand miles;" If you don't accumulate small streams, you can't become rivers and seas. If the ability of employees can be fully explored and utilized, the total energy is amazing! The key is "harmony between people"!
Secondly, we should "live in harmony" with our partners and customers. My friends often ask me strangely: Why are you so kind to your suppliers and distributors and often take the initiative to help them solve their problems? In fact, in an industrial chain, only when every partner makes money can everyone make money for a long time. As the saying goes, "harmony is precious", this old saying has its truth. Therefore, over the years, Zhuang Dian International has maintained friendly relations with the vast number of agents, distributors and customers, respected each other, learned from each other, maintained its characteristics and made common progress. Internal employees are harmonious and United, and external partners are harmonious. Why not worry about your career?
Zhuang Dian and Zhuang Dian International are convinced that "people", "harmony" and "* * * life" are the eternal pursuit and unchanging truth of enterprises. Doing business, the right time and place are not as good as "harmony with people".